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Anonymous wrote:I just re-read this classic dating book. It's basically about not being a doormat. If a guy is giving you hot and cold, don't say anything- just walk away.

Do you agree that men secretly love b's?

We love women who have sex with us.

Unless she’s acting clingy and like she’ll do whatever she has to to get you to marry her.

+1. This is why you can’t listen to men on this: they don’t really know what they want until it’s right in front of their face. They do not like clingy and desperate no matter what they say.

Who said he liked clingy and desperate?

He said he loved "women who have sex with us." That's a pretty large category, but men don't realize that. It's like women who will have sex with them but aren't ideal in other ways -- aren't their physical type, have an off-putting personality, or who will accept any kind of treatment because they are desperate -- don't exist. So they think it's all about sex.

And before anybody says it, No, not all men.

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Anonymous wrote:I just re-read this classic dating book. It's basically about not being a doormat. If a guy is giving you hot and cold, don't say anything- just walk away.

Do you agree that men secretly love b's?

We love women who have sex with us.

Unless she’s acting clingy and like she’ll do whatever she has to to get you to marry her.

+1. This is why you can’t listen to men on this: they don’t really know what they want until it’s right in front of their face. They do not like clingy and desperate no matter what they say.

Who said he liked clingy and desperate?

He said he loved "women who have sex with us." That's a pretty large category, but men don't realize that. It's like women who will have sex with them but aren't ideal in other ways -- aren't their physical type, have an off-putting personality, or who will accept any kind of treatment because they are desperate -- don't exist. So they think it's all about sex.

Anonymous wrote:As I am in the book business, I will say the title is more of a marketing strategy than anything else - and it worked in part bc that book has sold very well for many years.

I actually think if you get down to the message of the book, which is: respect yourself first and find someone that respects you and treats you as a priority, then the advice is really good.

It personally helped me about 15 years ago in my twenties and I never looked back. Happily married to a great guy over a decade.

I don’t like the book “the rules” bc I think it advocates game playing - like being unavailable as a strategy, whereas why men love b’s is more about having respect for yourself and not planning your life around someone you barely know.

This. And when I met my now DH, it felt like the easiest relationship I’d ever been in.

Anonymous wrote:I just re-read this classic dating book. It's basically about not being a doormat. If a guy is giving you hot and cold, don't say anything- just walk away.

Do you agree that men secretly love b's?

If mama was a B, they tend to marry one.

Weird because very single woman I know who went this route ended up married to s manchild she had to mother

As I am in the book business, I will say the title is more of a marketing strategy than anything else - and it worked in part bc that book has sold very well for many years.

I actually think if you get down to the message of the book, which is: respect yourself first and find someone that respects you and treats you as a priority, then the advice is really good.

It personally helped me about 15 years ago in my twenties and I never looked back. Happily married to a great guy over a decade.

I don’t like the book “the rules” bc I think it advocates game playing - like being unavailable as a strategy, whereas why men love b’s is more about having respect for yourself and not planning your life around someone you barely know.

Books all give general BS advice.

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Anonymous wrote:I just re-read this classic dating book. It's basically about not being a doormat. If a guy is giving you hot and cold, don't say anything- just walk away.

Do you agree that men secretly love b's?

We love women who have sex with us.

Unless she’s acting clingy and like she’ll do whatever she has to to get you to marry her.

+1. This is why you can’t listen to men on this: they don’t really know what they want until it’s right in front of their face. They do not like clingy and desperate no matter what they say.

Who said he liked clingy and desperate?

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny because a lot of this advice is basically “don’t be a doormat,” which means that in our society when a women isn’t acting like a doormat, she’s being a B.

And I’m sure I sound like a man-hater if I say something like this.

+1

I personally did not put thought into whether he loved it or not. For a longterm relationship respect is #1.

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Anonymous wrote:I just re-read this classic dating book. It's basically about not being a doormat. If a guy is giving you hot and cold, don't say anything- just walk away.

Do you agree that men secretly love b's?

We love women who have sex with us.

Unless she’s acting clingy and like she’ll do whatever she has to to get you to marry her.

+1. This is why you can’t listen to men on this: they don’t really know what they want until it’s right in front of their face. They do not like clingy and desperate no matter what they say.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s funny because a lot of this advice is basically “don’t be a doormat,” which means that in our society when a women isn’t acting like a doormat, she’s being a B.

And I’m sure I sound like a man-hater if I say something like this.

As a man, I would not waste my time with a B or with a doormat. Fortunately, most of the women I know, including my incredible wife, are neither. That fact that you think men place women into one category or the other does make you sound a bit like a man hater.

Ha. Thanks for proving my point!

You're welcome, I guess, but sounding like a man hater is not exactly a compliment.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s funny because a lot of this advice is basically “don’t be a doormat,” which means that in our society when a women isn’t acting like a doormat, she’s being a B.

And I’m sure I sound like a man-hater if I say something like this.

As a man, I would not waste my time with a B or with a doormat. Fortunately, most of the women I know, including my incredible wife, are neither. That fact that you think men place women into one category or the other does make you sound a bit like a man hater.

Ha. Thanks for proving my point!

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny because a lot of this advice is basically “don’t be a doormat,” which means that in our society when a women isn’t acting like a doormat, she’s being a B.

And I’m sure I sound like a man-hater if I say something like this.

As a man, I would not waste my time with a B or with a doormat. Fortunately, most of the women I know, including my incredible wife, are neither. That fact that you think men place women into one category or the other does make you sound a bit like a man hater.

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Anonymous wrote:I just re-read this classic dating book. It's basically about not being a doormat. If a guy is giving you hot and cold, don't say anything- just walk away.

Do you agree that men secretly love b's?

We love women who have sex with us.

Unless she’s acting clingy and like she’ll do whatever she has to to get you to marry her.

Anonymous wrote:I just re-read this classic dating book. It's basically about not being a doormat. If a guy is giving you hot and cold, don't say anything- just walk away.

Do you agree that men secretly love b's?

We love women who have sex with us.