Anonymous wrote:If he’s willing and skillful at pleasing you multiple ways, I don’t see the problem. But. ED does not improve over time. Can you feel fulfilled and connected without traditional piv?

Have had a few partners with ED. Some kept my toes curled more so than ones without the challenge, others were very much about getting the D to work and I felt like a prop. My favorite lover had ED. Multiples every time.

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Anonymous wrote:He is otherwise so masculine and really turns me on but due to a surgery has pretty severe ED. WWYD. Can get it up with medical assistance (injections) but needless to say I was not expecting this. Don’t want to hurt his feelings and was totally accepting and supportive about it. We’re all only mortal after all. But, it’s a lot. He is otherwise fantastic at foreplay/other stuff.

Oof. Not a good look, OP.

Anonymous wrote:He is otherwise so masculine and really turns me on but due to a surgery has pretty severe ED. WWYD. Can get it up with medical assistance (injections) but needless to say I was not expecting this. Don’t want to hurt his feelings and was totally accepting and supportive about it. We’re all only mortal after all. But, it’s a lot. He is otherwise fantastic at foreplay/other stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd say it's a pretty big deal. The wanting for sex is a strong urge.
Once you do the injection, is at all good from there? If it is, that's a positive.

It’s okay—not as large as I think it would otherwise be (his other dimensions would lead you to expect an above-average size penis), and some decreased sensitivity that makes my job more labor-intensive, but it does last about an hour. I am someone who could go all night and 3-5 times a session so I guess it’s good he excels in other areas and perhaps will overcompensate. Rest of relationship is so far good.

I don't think PP was asking you about the size. It sounds like this aspect of him is extremely important to you. Nothing wrong with being a person for whom the package is a big part of the package. But that will make things less fun and enjoyable all around. And probably take away from your overall experience, and eventually his. If traditional concepts of masculinity, including virility, are important to you, you may find the respect eroding. Spare both of you this process.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd say it's a pretty big deal. The wanting for sex is a strong urge.
Once you do the injection, is at all good from there? If it is, that's a positive.

It’s okay—not as large as I think it would otherwise be (his other dimensions would lead you to expect an above-average size penis), and some decreased sensitivity that makes my job more labor-intensive, but it does last about an hour. I am someone who could go all night and 3-5 times a session so I guess it’s good he excels in other areas and perhaps will overcompensate. Rest of relationship is so far good.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, he’s not less masculine because he has ED. You need to start reframing men in terms of the state of their penis.

The newsflash for you might be that this is going to be very common in your age cohort, and anyone older.

It sounds like he’s dealing with it with injections, and that’s a good thing. His inability to get an erection has nothing to do with you or his desire for you, it’s a physiological issue that he can deal with.

You might want to start exploring and adding other things that aren’t PIV into your lexicon and routine because there are MANY things you can do together that will bring pleasure both ways.

I also want to point out that you’re not menopausal yet, but you will be, and you’ll see that you don’t have the control over your physiology the way you’d like. You may find that things you can learn from this partner will help you then.

Omg could you be anymore patronizing? I *started out* by praising his overall masculinity and all-around skills why are you addressing me like you are the only person who knows there is more to life than PIV?

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Anonymous wrote:Well, he’s not less masculine because he has ED. You need to start reframing men in terms of the state of their penis.

The newsflash for you might be that this is going to be very common in your age cohort, and anyone older.

It sounds like he’s dealing with it with injections, and that’s a good thing. His inability to get an erection has nothing to do with you or his desire for you, it’s a physiological issue that he can deal with.

You might want to start exploring and adding other things that aren’t PIV into your lexicon and routine because there are MANY things you can do together that will bring pleasure both ways.

I also want to point out that you’re not menopausal yet, but you will be, and you’ll see that you don’t have the control over your physiology the way you’d like. You may find that things you can learn from this partner will help you then.

Omg could you be anymore patronizing? I *started out* by praising his overall masculinity and all-around skills why are you addressing me like you are the only person who knows there is more to life than PIV?[/quote

Your first sentence: he is otherwise so masculine. Yeah, not exactly praise.

And you seem to be so hung up about a 60 year old male body working as is likely, that I felt the need to tell you that you do actually have other options. You may also not realize that in a few years, PIV may not work for *you* for a period of time.

You should maybe move along and let him find someone who accepts wholly what he has to offer.

You are totally misreading what I wrote. And weirdly invested in your own perceived superiority. Could you desist commenting in this conversation as it is unhelpful.