Oh my, talk about totally insensitive.

He is unwell and 80 and you want to see his WILL? No that's really tacky.

You should never have asked. The wills come out post-mortem.

Plus the poor old lady probably thinks you want to throw her out of her home!

The will is not your business. And if she inherits everything, as is her LEGAL right, so be it!

Where is your H’s mom in all of this?

Why don’t you ask the dad for the will?

Anonymous wrote:Your stepmother is understandably rattled by the vultures circling around even before her husband is in his grave. This is inappropriate behaviors on your part, OP.
Be careful. If she inherits his estate she might be irritated enough to cut you out.

There is no estate

Obviously the MIL is trying to take it all for herself but not make any waves with your DH while his father is still alive.

Get a lawyer now, get ready to demand the will when the time comes.

Why would his will matter? Most married people have joint wills. Nothing is paid out until the step MIL dies.

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately OP, your MIL has the right to refuse. She doesn't have to show your DH anything at this stage. That being said I don't know why people are so secretive about wills. My kids know exactly what our intentions are and they know where to find all the necessary documents it doesn't have to be hard.

Thank you, this is all I wanted to know.

And to all the haters-- I am not personally involved in this at all. My husband is on his way to his home state to be with his dad. I am at home. I am having no conversations with my SMIL. He asked me for help in understanding his rights when dealing with his SM, who again, up until this point, he has had a good relationship with. I am trying to support my husband, nothing else.

Wow OP, you need to stay out of it. My father died last month and I can't believe how over involved my sister's husband has been. Including bringing a truck up to my mother's apartment with his son and future DIL along to take whatever they want from my mother's apartment before she moves to assisted living. I used to have a great relationship with him and now I despise him. My sister parrots everything he says and I finally told her, I just don't care what he thinks. Think for yourself, they are not his parents. Same goes to you, OP. Not your father, not your business. Stay out of it.

Unfortunately OP, your MIL has the right to refuse. She doesn't have to show your DH anything at this stage. That being said I don't know why people are so secretive about wills. My kids know exactly what our intentions are and they know where to find all the necessary documents it doesn't have to be hard.

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Anonymous wrote:What the hell?

MYOB, op! This is t even your dad! No, you have no right to see your not yet dead father in laws will!

And you won’t necessarily learn anything about his finances from a will anyway. Wills don’t typically have a list of assets or amounts.

Your poor in-laws. Stop. Just stop.

I recently was a beneficiary of a friend's will. As a beneficiary I was entitled to see a copy of the will which was sent to me by the law firm handling the estate without my requesting it. It spelled out in detail how much my friend left to each of a bunch of charities and how much she left to five individuals, naming them by name and indicating an exact amount.

That’s because your friend was dead! Father-in-law is not dead yet.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What the hell?

MYOB, op! This is t even your dad! No, you have no right to see your not yet dead father in laws will!

And you won’t necessarily learn anything about his finances from a will anyway. Wills don’t typically have a list of assets or amounts.

Your poor in-laws. Stop. Just stop.

I recently was a beneficiary of a friend's will. As a beneficiary I was entitled to see a copy of the will which was sent to me by the law firm handling the estate without my requesting it. It spelled out in detail how much my friend left to each of a bunch of charities and how much she left to five individuals, naming them by name and indicating an exact amount.

Yeah, but your friend is dead. No one has rights to see a living person's will. And it's mostly irrelevant until the person dies, because they can change it at any time.

Correct. I was responding to the idea that you won't necessarily learn anything about his finances from a will anyway and that wills don't typically have a list of assets or amounts.

You have no right too see his will.

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Anonymous wrote:I think your husband can just ask his father, no?

His dad is not well, so no, we can't ask him.

What does that mean?

If he’s in the hospital his wife is stressed enough. Now is not the time to ask about a will.

Anonymous wrote:Funny how you claim it's fine if you get no money yet the man isn't even dead and you're pushing to see his will.

Plan you are getting nothing. She is probably inheriting everything.