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Anonymous wrote:I really don’t see how you can make a case that the AP woman (assuming she is not married herself) is as equally at fault as the cheater since she made no vows of fidelity. Fwiw I have no problem with women or men who play the AP role and place 100% of the blame on the individual who broke his/her vows. You can’t force someone to cheat.

Assigning. Fault? Who is keeping score? The woman is a nasty POS if she engages in an affair with a man she knows is married and has a family. It’s not about “fault”. It’s about possessing character, integrity, honor and empathy. No decent person would ever consider being an OW/OM.

Ok? Who cares? Did your Spouse cheat on you or something? If it makes you feel better to call the AP a POS and not your cheating spouse then do what you need to do hun.

If you don’t want to hang out with these low character people than don’t.

It’s so funny to me how people post this same topic weekly on here.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t really understand the obsession on this site with placing people in boxes. Not all women who have relations with married men are the same or have the reasons.

Some women like the conquest. Some think this is all they deserve or can get. For some it’s happenstance- banging in a hotel room at a conference. Some are sex starved at home and want a low threat means for sex. Some are sex Addicts or mentally ill. Some are glorified hookers and look for married men that will pamper them - like the men who buy their APs condos. And some women just meet and fall with some who happens to be married. For some women, a man being married is off limits. From the amount of affairs that occur, a sizable group of women will look past the ring.

True, different origin stories; however, by the end, they almost all will have in common the desire for more: time, emotional connection, societal recognition, money, etc. Men are absolute FOOLS to believe that women are interested in NSA sex.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t really understand the obsession on this site with placing people in boxes. Not all women who have relations with married men are the same or have the reasons.

Some women like the conquest. Some think this is all they deserve or can get. For some it’s happenstance- banging in a hotel room at a conference. Some are sex starved at home and want a low threat means for sex. Some are sex Addicts or mentally ill. Some are glorified hookers and look for married men that will pamper them - like the men who buy their APs condos. And some women just meet and fall with some who happens to be married. For some women, a man being married is off limits. From the amount of affairs that occur, a sizable group of women will look past the ring.

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Anonymous wrote:I really don’t see how you can make a case that the AP woman (assuming she is not married herself) is as equally at fault as the cheater since she made no vows of fidelity. Fwiw I have no problem with women or men who play the AP role and place 100% of the blame on the individual who broke his/her vows. You can’t force someone to cheat.

Assigning. Fault? Who is keeping score? The woman is a nasty POS if she engages in an affair with a man she knows is married and has a family. It’s not about “fault”. It’s about possessing character, integrity, honor and empathy. No decent person would ever consider being an OW/OM.

Anonymous wrote:I really don’t see how you can make a case that the AP woman (assuming she is not married herself) is as equally at fault as the cheater since she made no vows of fidelity. Fwiw I have no problem with women or men who play the AP role and place 100% of the blame on the individual who broke his/her vows. You can’t force someone to cheat.

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Anonymous wrote:No one with self-esteem or empathy does it. These are low lives, falling for temptation and have no regards for morals or basic humanity.

This applies to both parties, adulterer and the mistress.

Anonymous wrote:No one with self-esteem or empathy does it. These are low lives, falling for temptation and have no regards for morals or basic humanity.

Anonymous wrote:No one with self-esteem or empathy does it. These are low lives, falling for temptation and have no regards for morals or basic humanity.

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Anonymous wrote:Because it’s 2022 and we’re done blaming women for the transgressions of men. What an affair partner does is not good, but they’re not the one breaking their vows, taking away their spouses informed consent, and harming their children.

They're not the one breaking their vows, but they are definitely participating in taking away the wife's informed consent and harming the children.

A lot of times these women don’t know the man is married until it’s too late.

Oh bullsh@t. They are below average intelligence if they can’t figure that out.

Probably only 1% are truly duped. Get real.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because it’s 2022 and we’re done blaming women for the transgressions of men. What an affair partner does is not good, but they’re not the one breaking their vows, taking away their spouses informed consent, and harming their children.

They're not the one breaking their vows, but they are definitely participating in taking away the wife's informed consent and harming the children.

A lot of times these women don’t know the man is married until it’s too late.

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They date married men because they’re are a limited amount of high-earning, powerful men available. Focusing on their future, it’s every woman for herself and they aren’t thinking about his wife and children except in the abstract- as an obstacle.