Anonymous wrote:1st date: kissing and bj
2nd date: kissing, bj, and 69
3rd date: sex with condom
4th date: sex without condom
5th date: open to anal (plus everything listed above)

- woman

I now understand all these posts by 40 or near 40 something women with unplanned pregnancies with guys they're not sure of.

Anonymous wrote:1st date: kissing and bj
2nd date: kissing, bj, and 69
3rd date: sex with condom
4th date: sex without condom
5th date: open to anal (plus everything listed above)

- woman

I don't think op is asking about sex. Like when do you actually learn a thing about these guys ?

1st date: kissing and bj
2nd date: kissing, bj, and 69
3rd date: sex with condom
4th date: sex without condom
5th date: open to anal (plus everything listed above)

- woman

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We’ve been on 3 dates. The conversation is fine. He’d like to go out again. Nothing physical has happened. In the past I’ve called it a wrap after two dates. I’m newly dating again at middle age and have been surprised at how crappy the dating market is at this stage. Makes me wonder if I should keep dating someone as long as there are no red flags.

Do you want to know more about him? Spend more time with him?

No red flags is not a reason to keep dating someone and it's exactly how you end up in a situation of dating for months/ years but not really into them and struggling because you can't break itup.

Or worse in a marriage you feel you settled for andbyi end up resenting and mistreating your spouse.