Anonymous wrote:Everyone knows about the problems and hurdles faced by interfaith and interracial marriages but are there any benefits as well?

Everyone looks forward for you to have issues or split so they can say, "told you so!".

Anonymous wrote:Everyone knows about the problems and hurdles faced by interfaith and interracial marriages but are there any benefits as well?

Every marriage has pros and cons, if marrying within same race, faith, class and culture was so fool proof, we won't see so many dysfunctional or divorced couples among us.

Anonymous wrote:Its in interest if religious and racial interest groups to highlight the lows and downplay the heights. This is 2022, marry who you love and live your life.

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I don't know about the problems. Can we start there? I am in an interracial marriage( black wife, white husband), and we have the same problems as anyone else.

Interracial children are definitely cuter and interfaith ones are definitely more open-minded, both are more accepting if others.

We’re all of those (I’m a white American Christian, DH an immigrant from an Asian country where Buddhism is the dominant religion). The “interfaith” part is the only somewhat difficult one, because the rituals and traditions of my church are important to me and I wish he would participate in them so the kids spiritual education wasn’t completely 100% on me. Interracial, intercultural - that just makes life more colorful/interesting. Our fundamental values are very aligned, which is more than you can say for many dual American couples.

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Anonymous wrote:People don't get to pick their race, religion, birth place, culture or families. If you two understand and look beyond it then you are an enlightened duo to begin with.

Um..people do get to pick their religion.

Seriously? What percentage actually does it. By the time you are an adult, you are already brain washed enough to think of yours as the only true religion.

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Its in interest if religious and racial interest groups to highlight the lows and downplay the heights. This is 2022, marry who you love and live your life.

Interfaith, interracial, and intercultural are not necessarily the same. It’s the last category that can take some navigating. Interfaith is only an issue if one or both have strong feelings about religion.

“Interracial” is the easiest of the three. I am in an interracial marriage (Wife is white, I am not) and IMHO the hurdles are overblown. People who claim it’s really hard are (mostly, not completely) projecting their own insecurities. We’re both American, born and raised here. Really no biggie.

You know your spouse can stand up against everyone for you. They didn't marry you because it was convenient and not many other eligible Scientologists were out there.

Well, people would automatically know that yours isn't an arranged marriage, you didn't meet at your church, you aren't cousins, you aren't mama's boy or daddy's girl but an adult, you aren't racists of bigots.

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Anonymous wrote:People don't get to pick their race, religion, birth place, culture or families. If you two understand and look beyond it then you are an enlightened duo to begin with.

Um..people do get to pick their religion.

Seriously? What percentage actually does it. By the time you are an adult, you are already brain washed enough to think of yours as the only true religion.

Even ones who aren't brainwashed, keep theirs to avoid stirring the pot, family harmony or cultural attachment.

MIL and DIL can use these differences as perfectly good reasons to hate each other unlike rest of them who needs to be creative to come up with legit sounding reasons for their irrational paranoia.

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Anonymous wrote:People don't get to pick their race, religion, birth place, culture or families. If you two understand and look beyond it then you are an enlightened duo to begin with.

Um..people do get to pick their religion.

Seriously? What percentage actually does it. By the time you are an adult, you are already brain washed enough to think of yours as the only true religion.

If things won't workout, you have better sounding excuses to get people's sympathy unlike people who try stupid ones like, "I never loved her.", "He was a narcissist.", "We decided to do conscious uncoupling", "Because the wife spent $42,000 on psychic hotlines.", etc.