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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

I live in McLean and I never run into women like you.

Because you are old and live in one of those old ranchers. There are plenty of successful, single moms at Longfellow making this or more. For those who can't imagine a woman in her 30s making a high salary, you need to leave Woodbridge more. A 25 year old computer system engineer makes around 200K. A lawyer makes at least 300K. I'm a fed at a fin agency and I make over 200K. My single friend at Amazon makes 400. My H is a VP of sales in biotech and his top sales person is a woman in Atlanta making 600K.

I don’t understand the point of this article. The thesis seems to be that it’s not that men used to prefer wives with lower income jobs - it’s just that they didn’t have enough professional women around to marry. Okay, so?

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Anonymous wrote:https://news.wisc.edu/professional-couples-are-on-the-rise-but-its-not-increasing-income-inequality/

This is a really insightful research. With all the talk of assortative mating— this research shows that married men’s incomes are declining.

Women need to read this and stop thinking marriage is this golden panacea so many conservatives make it out to be.

Women now demand help at home (rightly so). So of course married men’s incomes are declining!! It is not longer considered acceptable for them or requires of them to go b*alls to the wall at work.

If you live in the home you are not “helping” when you take care of it. You are merely taking care of your home as adults do. It’s not mommy’s home that she makes you pick up your toys in.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

I live in McLean and I never run into women like you.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

ITA. My friend is a single mom by choice (IVF with donor at 43 y/o) and she's making half a million and she's happy. She also has a huge huge trust fund too.

And…? Your point is people with trust funds get to do what they want?

What is the point of these anecdotes? Very few single women (or even men) are making $300k+. I would rather have a helpful partner for all of the emotional work of raising kids.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

ITA. My friend is a single mom by choice (IVF with donor at 43 y/o) and she's making half a million and she's happy. She also has a huge huge trust fund too.

And…? Your point is people with trust funds get to do what they want?

Anonymous wrote:I love it when men make equal (or even better less) money than women. Nothing like sticking it to DH and men in general that they cannot demand more home duties or childcare on grounds of their income. I love love that majority of college grads are women now, the needle is finally moving in the right direction. ❤

Yeah, it's really great if you have a son. He's in for a wonderful life, living in your basement.

The power dynamic has shifted. I was lucky to be raised in a household where my parents saw each other as equals and my dad treated my sister and I the same as my brother. There were no 'girl chores' or 'boy chores'--girls mowed the lawn too and boys set the dinner table, etc. And- we were competitive in travel sports and taught we could grow up and be successful in whatever field of our choosing, my dad particularly stressing the importance of STEM in the job market. I saw my dad have a flex schedule and be the 'chef' of the household while my mom's OCD cleaning handled that part.

A marriage is so much better when there is no second-class citizen and the sexes are equal partners in intellect and expectations.

I married a man who is very proud of my career, brags about it. And, we have altered our jobs over time to fit the family dynamic so no parent is missing at the Office all of the time. We both WAH now.

I have sons and it has been important for me that they see how involved their father is in family life and domestic duties. And, he's a big muscular Alpha that people are surprised is the one that does the laundry and most of the cleaning when our cleaning lady isn't here.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

ITA. My friend is a single mom by choice (IVF with donor at 43 y/o) and she's making half a million and she's happy. She also has a huge huge trust fund too.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

Well, I certainly don't want the tragic life of raising a kid in a single family. I am in a happy marriage with a man who is a great dad. I could never imagine depriving my child of his dad. I also have the security that if some thing happens to me, my children still have my husband. Maybe you chose a loser to father your child.

Your anecdata about financial issues with a partner speaks volumes about the kind of family you were raised in. Sorry, but many people were not raised in dysfunctional families.

You are such an idiot. My mom's father was killed in the war while my grandmother was pregnant. My classmate died of leukemia and left 2 kids behind. Better to be a single mom than have a loser mom like you.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

+1000. But, high-earning single mothers are not the norm. I have nannies, babysitters, mother's helpers. whatever, because it is all on me - I would rather have a stable co-parent.

I like that my DH can make money, I can handle the home, family and finances, and we both can employ a cleaning lady - because we both hate cleaning bathrooms.

win-win for all.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

Well, I certainly don't want the tragic life of raising a kid in a single family. I am in a happy marriage with a man who is a great dad. I could never imagine depriving my child of his dad. I also have the security that if some thing happens to me, my children still have my husband. Maybe you chose a loser to father your child.

Your anecdata about financial issues with a partner speaks volumes about the kind of family you were raised in. Sorry, but many people were not raised in dysfunctional families.

I wish there were laws about people like you actually being allowed to raise kids. But wow! You are terrible. Most abuse happens in marriages with a man, btw. You are not living a better life, nor do your kids have more love or support. it's sad you think this way.

What the article is saying is that men's income has not increased because of stagnant wage increases in society. Marital status does not change this. Corporation are not raising wages.

So men who want to "support their family" are finding it harder to do because of the lack of jobs that allow this.

Men, specifically, could support a family as a carpenter or working the meat counter at the grocery store or other blue collar jobs. Those job's wages are not keeping up with inflation.

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Anonymous wrote:What a bizarre final comment you make about marriage. How does being alone help women??

Well, as a single mom making $300, I can guarantee I have far less arguments about how I’m spending my money or child raising decisions than 99.9% of married people. (Not, op).

Well, I certainly don't want the tragic life of raising a kid in a single family. I am in a happy marriage with a man who is a great dad. I could never imagine depriving my child of his dad. I also have the security that if some thing happens to me, my children still have my husband. Maybe you chose a loser to father your child.

Your anecdata about financial issues with a partner speaks volumes about the kind of family you were raised in. Sorry, but many people were not raised in dysfunctional families.