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Anonymous wrote:I am in pretty poor shape. I don’t run next to bicycles - that’s how I do it.

Exactly. This sounds like a real humble-brag, OP!

hahaha, yes

Anonymous wrote:Same. Same that I workout daily and my kids are 1, 4 and 6 so same spread.

My big gripe is that my husband complains that I can't stay awake past 9:30. Nevermind that I've been up with the baby since 5 AM and he doesn't do jackshit to help with the kids or the house. Wonder why the intimacy is dead 🤔

It can't be too dead if you have a baby.

Anonymous wrote:Yes they are op, yes they are... wait a few years then they become mentally exhausting too

This. Little kids=little problem. Big kid= big problems. I teach kindergarten and sometimes I would much rather deal with 25 little kid problems than two teenager's problems.

Try 25 of them!


-a kindergarten teacher

Anonymous wrote:Yep, I’m always exhausted. I have a 15 yo SN child with intellectual and medical disabilities and although he’s a sweet boy he never stops. My husband helps all the time. We have another child too whose 12.

Not the place to post for empathy but it’s never going to end for us.

I am in a very similar situation only the kids are slightly younger. I am sending you all my empathy.

It could also be an introvert/extrovert thing. I am an introvert and I find engaging with my kids around the clock to be exhausting. It's not a physical thing for me. I just need down time from them.

You are tired because you are working out. The rest of us don’t have to work out because we stay in shape by running around with our kids. I’m in great shape and haven’t had to work out in years. And I’m never tired. I have 4 kids. Just stop working out and you’ll stop being so tired.

For me I notice a huge difference in winter vs. summer. I am definitely the more "physical" parent with our three kids (8, 4, and 1) and I find winter to be incredibly difficult. I am Vitamin D deficient and anemic, so I take a prescription strength Vit D supplement and still feel the difference if I go a day or two without time outside.

I do not work out. I do try to eat healthily. I used to have a gym membership but never used it because...surprise...I was always with my kids. Between sledding, indoor play spaces, and roller skating, my body is also feeling the effects of parenting during winter, as opposed to summer when it's slightly easier to take them to a park and let them run around.

Our nanny is 67 and keeps up with our 3.5 and 1.5 year old nine hours a day and never seems tired!!! I’m exhausted after one weekend and I have DH to share the burden. I’m petite and just not that strong.

Anonymous wrote:Yes they are op, yes they are... wait a few years then they become mentally exhausting too

Yes, the irony is that this is the easy part!

Are you over 50? Why so tired? Why if so tired, don't you ride a bike when your kids are bike-riding instead of running?

Yep, I’m always exhausted. I have a 15 yo SN child with intellectual and medical disabilities and although he’s a sweet boy he never stops. My husband helps all the time. We have another child too whose 12.

Not the place to post for empathy but it’s never going to end for us.

That’s a big reason why I have only one child.

Ha I don’t do any of that stuff and I only have one kid. However when he was little I remember waking up at five am with him, bottle, changing, getting him dressed, getting me dressed, making breakfast, cleaning him up after breakfast, cleaning up the kitchen after breakfast, playing with him, and thinking to myself “it must be time for lunch and nap soon” and it was like 8:15 am. Kids are exhausting!

Yes they are exhausting. Most people are “in shape” to the extent that they can perform their basic daily activities that they repeat again and again. If by in shape you really mean people who work out a lot, no that is not necessary to parent young kids.