Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am married to a musician. The thing is, they know how to work the crowd, similarly to actors, politicians and salesmen, but you instinctively do not expect it from a musician. It's subtle, but they know how to get you clapping and they know how to get the hat going at a club. Every time a guy picks up a guitar, he is doing a little performance, not just musically but also personality wise. Of course, people fall for it.

This is a good description. They are performers, working the crowd. People fall for it. Unfortunately not genuine people, or good with long term relationships

Interesting how PPs above seem to know so much they can make vast, gross generalizations about every musician everywhere.

Sorry if the two PPs had bad experiences with musicians themselves, but their personal experiences are not universal truths applicable to every musician, everywhere.

My own experience, having dated a couple of excellent amateur musicians and married one, is that the ones I've known were genuine people, not out to "work the crowd" for money ("Pass the hat," first PP? Seriously? Are you 90?). Sure, some were well aware that women found it attractive when they played, but that seemed to be more of a bonus, not the reason they played. No one's there to hear you practice or swoon over you when you're messing up for hours on end trying to get something just right. The playing is done for its own sake--at least, for those who actually do play, and not just mess around at the occasional party.

As for not being "good with long term relationships," I'll get back to you on that. My DH and I have only been married for 30 years so I guess the jury's still out on whether that's long term enough for you. Of course, I'm not saying my experience defines every musician everywhere. I'll leave that to the two PPs.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am married to a musician. The thing is, they know how to work the crowd, similarly to actors, politicians and salesmen, but you instinctively do not expect it from a musician. It's subtle, but they know how to get you clapping and they know how to get the hat going at a club. Every time a guy picks up a guitar, he is doing a little performance, not just musically but also personality wise. Of course, people fall for it.

This is a good description. They are performers, working the crowd. People fall for it. Unfortunately not genuine people, or good with long term relationships

Anonymous wrote:I am married to a musician. The thing is, they know how to work the crowd, similarly to actors, politicians and salesmen, but you instinctively do not expect it from a musician. It's subtle, but they know how to get you clapping and they know how to get the hat going at a club. Every time a guy picks up a guitar, he is doing a little performance, not just musically but also personality wise. Of course, people fall for it.

Anonymous wrote:I am married to a musician. The thing is, they know how to work the crowd, similarly to actors, politicians and salesmen, but you instinctively do not expect it from a musician. It's subtle, but they know how to get you clapping and they know how to get the hat going at a club. Every time a guy picks up a guitar, he is doing a little performance, not just musically but also personality wise. Of course, people fall for it.

Anonymous wrote:I went to many parties with my cousin and at parties where there is an acoustic guitar, it didn't take long for him to play a few songs by Vanessa Carlton, Maroon 5, Shawn Mendes, etc... After that, it is like shooting fish in the barrel for him. He has no shortage of women who want to sleep with him. He admitted himself that he is not good looking by any means but apparently it really does not matter. I am so jealous of him. What makes a guitarist so attractive?