I don’t find it shameful, but I do find the entitlement astounding. Same with the tip jars in every establishment now. All the teens/early 20 somethings wants something for nothing.

Get a loan, get a job, join the military/rotc, apply for scholarships (there are so so many out there). Stop asking others for money to fund your life.

How do people feel when the parents solicit tuition contributions? I know someone doing this and their kid hasn’t even decided which school to attend. Posted on Facebook, IG, and LinkedIn with a link to the kid’s 529 account. At least by appearances, this is not a low income family. I think it’s extremely tacky, but maybe times have changed?

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Anonymous wrote:My DC is a junior at a high tuition college. During break he was showing me a number of GoFundMe requests posted by other students, especially seniors, requesting assistance to pay Spring semester's invoice. My DC (whose campus job hours have been drastically cut) had contributed $10 - $20 to accounts of a few students he knew. While I feel bad that students find themselves in this situation, it does not seem right to me to lean on other students to close the funding gap. Anybody else seeing this?

. You don't remember society paying a white girl $36K+ to date a black guy? Her racist parents cut off her tuition and gofundme rescued her:https://www.gofundme.com/f/put-allie-in-college-fight-racism

If you Google this story, Allie’s father said they took away her phone and car “because she needed to grow up” and that this had nothing to do with color of skin…. but that would ruin her narrative
and plea for money. That Gofund
E is now closed and those who donated are urged to contact Gofundme.

And you believe the father is going to say it was because he was racist? My in-laws claimed I was "too quiet" and so DH, my fiancé at the time, should break off our engagement. They threatened not to come to our wedding and basically completely disengaged from him because I was "too quiet." They also didn't engage with their grandkids because of that. Come on.

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Anonymous wrote:No shame at all.

GoFundMe works because there are people willing to give and there's are people willing to ask. There is no shame in asking. Some are poor college kids whose work study hours were cut, or had an unexpected medical expense....Don't give if you don't want to. Don't try to shame people you know nothing about.

There are no shops or restaurants around the college hiring? I keep hearing about employee shortages everywhere, I'm curious where these kids go to school that every local business is fully staffed.

Ok grandma, can you share about how you put yourself through Harvard while working part time as a waitress so that you could graduate without debt?

No, it was a state school working full time (graveyard shift sometimes.) 40 hours a week @ minimum wage ($15/hr) 52 weeks a year (I sure as hell never took a vacation!) is over $31,000/year. That should MORE than cover in state tuition or even private school with a decent merit scholarship.

Not taxes or social security taken out? Just don't donate and leave other people alone. You sound like Avery bitter person.

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Anonymous wrote:Unfortunate that those students did not go to thier (likely) pretty good instate public school, with its more moderate tuition.

you're assuming that they could get in. Flagships are often as hard as if not harder to get into than privates outside of the very top schools

Agree.

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Anonymous wrote:My DC is a junior at a high tuition college. During break he was showing me a number of GoFundMe requests posted by other students, especially seniors, requesting assistance to pay Spring semester's invoice. My DC (whose campus job hours have been drastically cut) had contributed $10 - $20 to accounts of a few students he knew. While I feel bad that students find themselves in this situation, it does not seem right to me to lean on other students to close the funding gap. Anybody else seeing this?

. You don't remember society paying a white girl $36K+ to date a black guy? Her racist parents cut off her tuition and gofundme rescued her:https://www.gofundme.com/f/put-allie-in-college-fight-racism

If you Google this story, Allie’s father said they took away her phone and car “because she needed to grow up” and that this had nothing to do with color of skin…. but that would ruin her narrative
and plea for money. That Gofund
E is now closed and those who donated are urged to contact Gofundme.

What's wrong with asking for something? People can choose whether to donate or not...

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Anonymous wrote:No shame at all.

GoFundMe works because there are people willing to give and there's are people willing to ask. There is no shame in asking. Some are poor college kids whose work study hours were cut, or had an unexpected medical expense....Don't give if you don't want to. Don't try to shame people you know nothing about.

There are no shops or restaurants around the college hiring? I keep hearing about employee shortages everywhere, I'm curious where these kids go to school that every local business is fully staffed.

Ok grandma, can you share about how you put yourself through Harvard while working part time as a waitress so that you could graduate without debt?

No, it was a state school working full time (graveyard shift sometimes.) 40 hours a week @ minimum wage ($15/hr) 52 weeks a year (I sure as hell never took a vacation!) is over $31,000/year. That should MORE than cover in state tuition or even private school with a decent merit scholarship.

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Anonymous wrote:No shame at all.

GoFundMe works because there are people willing to give and there's are people willing to ask. There is no shame in asking. Some are poor college kids whose work study hours were cut, or had an unexpected medical expense....Don't give if you don't want to. Don't try to shame people you know nothing about.

There are no shops or restaurants around the college hiring? I keep hearing about employee shortages everywhere, I'm curious where these kids go to school that every local business is fully staffed.

Ok grandma, can you share about how you put yourself through Harvard while working part time as a waitress so that you could graduate without debt?

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunate that those students did not go to thier (likely) pretty good instate public school, with its more moderate tuition.

You're judging someone for something you're ignorant about.

For low to moderate income families, if a kid can get into a top school that meets full need the cost of attendance is likely lower than their public institution. We aren't low income. I'm a teacher, DH is on disability payments, so we're solidly middle class, but when I run NPC's for my kids the top private schools come back with numbers that are 10 - 20K below what the UMD NPC comes back as. For low income kids that gap can be bigger.

But just like the FAFSA often overestimates what an affluent family can pay, it also often estimates what a lower income family can pay. So, even with that kind of aid it can be a struggle.

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Anonymous wrote:A couple of these requests made it to the Parent FB page for my child's college. Then another parent decided to perform a social media deep dive on the requesters and started posting his "findings" which I found to be a breach of the students' privacy. What an awkward situation.

Without going into specifics, what were - in general - these findings?

The point of the posting the "findings" seemed to be to discourage parents from donating. One student had apparently posted photos from a trip to a beach and the inference was that the student had made poor financial decisions and was therefore undeserving. Another student had been the recipient of some academic award that had $$ attached and was already a recipient of financial aid, and again that meant the student should not ask for more. Nothing scandalous. I agree with an earlier poster - if you don't want to give, just don't. It seems that by creating a GoFundMe you subject yourself to a lot of scrutiny.

Got it. My DD asked me to donate to a former classmate now graduate) who wanted to go on study abroad, which I did. If it had been for tuition, I might have hesitated, largely because the sums are so large and making a dent in one semester does not address the long term problem.

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Anonymous wrote:No shame at all.

GoFundMe works because there are people willing to give and there's are people willing to ask. There is no shame in asking. Some are poor college kids whose work study hours were cut, or had an unexpected medical expense....Don't give if you don't want to. Don't try to shame people you know nothing about.

There are no shops or restaurants around the college hiring? I keep hearing about employee shortages everywhere, I'm curious where these kids go to school that every local business is fully staffed.

Were work study hours cut? At my DC’s school, they are begging kids to take WS, especially in the cafeterias because they can’t find anyone.

Anonymous wrote:No shame at all.

GoFundMe works because there are people willing to give and there's are people willing to ask. There is no shame in asking. Some are poor college kids whose work study hours were cut, or had an unexpected medical expense....Don't give if you don't want to. Don't try to shame people you know nothing about.

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Anonymous wrote:A couple of these requests made it to the Parent FB page for my child's college. Then another parent decided to perform a social media deep dive on the requesters and started posting his "findings" which I found to be a breach of the students' privacy. What an awkward situation.

Without going into specifics, what were - in general - these findings?

The point of the posting the "findings" seemed to be to discourage parents from donating. One student had apparently posted photos from a trip to a beach and the inference was that the student had made poor financial decisions and was therefore undeserving. Another student had been the recipient of some academic award that had $$ attached and was already a recipient of financial aid, and again that meant the student should not ask for more. Nothing scandalous. I agree with an earlier poster - if you don't want to give, just don't. It seems that by creating a GoFundMe you subject yourself to a lot of scrutiny.