Anonymous
Post 02/02/2022 12:23     Subject: Paying for dates
I always offered to split and never accepted a second date from a man who took me up on it. I’ve been happily married for more than ten years to a man who isn’t hurt by a $150 restaurant bill and who is generous and well mannered— all very important things to know about a potential partner up front! Every part of a date is an audition.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2022 12:23     Subject: Re:Paying for dates
Anonymous wrote:Woman here. I don’t pay for dates at all. If I’ve been in committed serious relationship with a man I might pay for a surprise or holiday.



This. I don't pay for dates. I also don't ask men out
I may depending on the nature of our relationship reciprocate in other ways such as surprising him with his favorite cookies.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2022 12:22     Subject: Re:Paying for dates
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Woman here. I always offer but wouldn't keep dating someone who agreed to split. Keep in mind that you are paid more than women just on the basis of your gender, you don't have to pay for birth control or period supplies, you didn't pay for make up to go on the date. Don't be cheap and just pay for dinner.


Please don't make us women look crazy. I agree with OP that he shouldn't be the one footing the whole bill. The ladies should have split the bill with him.


I agree. This is entitlement. Go find a better paying job, stop wearing expensive things and make up if you can’t afford. As far as birth control or period supplies, that’s your issue with healthcare insurers and government. It’s not your date’s responsibility to compensate you.


Lol you want me to give up all those things so that a dude can ask me out in a thinly veiled attempt to get laid? No thanks.

I have to deal with men who try to shove their hands down my pants, get angry when I reject them, drone on and on without listening to a word I say, and send me unwanted dick pics. No way am I paying to put up with that nonsense.


Not having to pay for your meal makes it all acceptable?
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2022 12:22     Subject: Paying for dates
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dating is costly. You gotta pay to play. I (woman) always offer to split but for the first few dates, no one has agreed to it. If we date more than 5 dates on, we start taking turns.


Same here. Always offer but he shouldn't accept until you're regularly/exclusively dating.


He must accept to split and you should be offering it with the intent to pay and make sure that you do.


If he wants to split and I've offered I will pay half but I won't go out with him again. Sorry. Plenty of dudes who understand how this works.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2022 12:21     Subject: Re:Paying for dates
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Woman here. I always offer but wouldn't keep dating someone who agreed to split. Keep in mind that you are paid more than women just on the basis of your gender, you don't have to pay for birth control or period supplies, you didn't pay for make up to go on the date. Don't be cheap and just pay for dinner.


Please don't make us women look crazy. I agree with OP that he shouldn't be the one footing the whole bill. The ladies should have split the bill with him.


I agree. This is entitlement. Go find a better paying job, stop wearing expensive things and make up if you can’t afford. As far as birth control or period supplies, that’s your issue with healthcare insurers and government. It’s not your date’s responsibility to compensate you.


Lol you want me to give up all those things so that a dude can ask me out in a thinly veiled attempt to get laid? No thanks.

I have to deal with men who try to shove their hands down my pants, get angry when I reject them, drone on and on without listening to a word I say, and send me unwanted dick pics. No way am I paying to put up with that nonsense.


Sure, we're convinced you are incredibly sexy and attractive. Men are trying to sleep with you nonstop. Please. Get over yourself and the fake image you're attempting to portray online.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2022 12:19     Subject: Re:Paying for dates
Anonymous wrote:Woman here. I always offer but wouldn't keep dating someone who agreed to split. Keep in mind that you are paid more than women just on the basis of your gender, you don't have to pay for birth control or period supplies, you didn't pay for make up to go on the date. Don't be cheap and just pay for dinner.


Men have to work since more women don't work. Men pay more for health insurance, car insurance, etc. Why should a man pay for YOUR dinner just because you pay for period supplies? Do you pay for our anxiety medicine from dealing with women? Also, birth control? You're not even having sex yet. Please.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2022 12:19     Subject: Paying for dates
Anonymous wrote:Men pay because men want it more.


If you don’t want it as much, say no. If you agree to go, pay your share.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2022 12:18     Subject: Re:Paying for dates
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Woman here. I always offer but wouldn't keep dating someone who agreed to split. Keep in mind that you are paid more than women just on the basis of your gender, you don't have to pay for birth control or period supplies, you didn't pay for make up to go on the date. Don't be cheap and just pay for dinner.


Please don't make us women look crazy. I agree with OP that he shouldn't be the one footing the whole bill. The ladies should have split the bill with him.


I agree. This is entitlement. Go find a better paying job, stop wearing expensive things and make up if you can’t afford. As far as birth control or period supplies, that’s your issue with healthcare insurers and government. It’s not your date’s responsibility to compensate you.


Lol you want me to give up all those things so that a dude can ask me out in a thinly veiled attempt to get laid? No thanks.

I have to deal with men who try to shove their hands down my pants, get angry when I reject them, drone on and on without listening to a word I say, and send me unwanted dick pics. No way am I paying to put up with that nonsense.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2022 12:18     Subject: Paying for dates
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you ask me out for a date, I expect you to pay


+1. The person who asks, pays.

Arrange cheaper dates. Coffee is a good first date, rather than drinks/dinner. If it doesn't go well, you're only out $5.


No. If you accept you are agreeing to pay your half, not for a free meal. Let him know you don’t want to go to any place you can’t afford. Honesty and self respect are basics of good character.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2022 12:17     Subject: Paying for dates
As a woman, I typically let the man pay on the first date and will pay for drinks if we go out afterwards. I will likely pick up the tab for a 2nd date and say it’s my turn. If I raise the topic and then insist on splitting the bill on a first date, it means I never want to see that person again and don’t want to feel obligated to.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2022 12:16     Subject: Paying for dates
Men pay because men want it more.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2022 12:15     Subject: Paying for dates
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dating is costly. You gotta pay to play. I (woman) always offer to split but for the first few dates, no one has agreed to it. If we date more than 5 dates on, we start taking turns.


Same here. Always offer but he shouldn't accept until you're regularly/exclusively dating.


He must accept to split and you should be offering it with the intent to pay and make sure that you do.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2022 12:14     Subject: Paying for dates
Anonymous wrote:If you ask me out for a date, I expect you to pay


+1. The person who asks, pays.

Arrange cheaper dates. Coffee is a good first date, rather than drinks/dinner. If it doesn't go well, you're only out $5.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2022 12:13     Subject: Re:Paying for dates
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Woman here. I always offer but wouldn't keep dating someone who agreed to split. Keep in mind that you are paid more than women just on the basis of your gender, you don't have to pay for birth control or period supplies, you didn't pay for make up to go on the date. Don't be cheap and just pay for dinner.


Please don't make us women look crazy. I agree with OP that he shouldn't be the one footing the whole bill. The ladies should have split the bill with him.


I agree. This is entitlement. Go find a better paying job, stop wearing expensive things and make up if you can’t afford. As far as birth control or period supplies, that’s your issue with healthcare insurers and government. It’s not your date’s responsibility to compensate you.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2022 12:11     Subject: Paying for dates
Anonymous wrote:Dating is costly. You gotta pay to play. I (woman) always offer to split but for the first few dates, no one has agreed to it. If we date more than 5 dates on, we start taking turns.


Same here. Always offer but he shouldn't accept until you're regularly/exclusively dating.