Anonymous wrote:The problem for me is that there were two calendar reminders, a verbal reminder the night before and several unanswered text reminders in the hours leading up to him "forgetting". That's simply ignoring your responsibility not forgetting.

Exactly. And add to that the lack of contrition/respect for the other parent's schedule and I'd be through the roof.

I am so glad I met my wife before I found DCUM. So full of nasty women.

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Anonymous wrote:What was the end result? This would determine my anger level.

End result: I had to cancel a meeting, sprint over to aftercare (because spouse had the car) and pick up the child. I was 2 minutes late. And strapping on a mask after sprinting is dizzying.

The excuse: “I was in a meeting.”

So he was working. I'd give him 1 out of 10. Raising kids are like that.

OP was working, too.

Working is like that.

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Anonymous wrote:What was the end result? This would determine my anger level.

End result: I had to cancel a meeting, sprint over to aftercare (because spouse had the car) and pick up the child. I was 2 minutes late. And strapping on a mask after sprinting is dizzying.

The excuse: “I was in a meeting.”

So he was working. I'd give him 1 out of 10. Raising kids are like that.

So was OP. But she managed to pick up the kid.

Isn't that wonderful!

Right, big deal that she had to cancel a meeting, right? I mean who cares about her job. She is there to pick up the slack whenever her man child can't be bothered to be a parent himself after being repeatedly reminded. I bet no one has ever reminded her that she has a child she needs to take care of. GTOH

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Anonymous wrote:What was the end result? This would determine my anger level.

End result: I had to cancel a meeting, sprint over to aftercare (because spouse had the car) and pick up the child. I was 2 minutes late. And strapping on a mask after sprinting is dizzying.

The excuse: “I was in a meeting.”

His response would put me at a 7,642 on a scale of 1-10.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem for me is that there were two calendar reminders, a verbal reminder the night before and several unanswered text reminders in the hours leading up to him "forgetting". That's simply ignoring your responsibility not forgetting.

Agreed. If shouldn’t happen again.

It happens to best of the parents once or twice in their parenting lives but it’s not an acceptable as a pattern to themselves so spouse doesn’t have to worry or display anger.

The problem for me is that there were two calendar reminders, a verbal reminder the night before and several unanswered text reminders in the hours leading up to him "forgetting". That's simply ignoring your responsibility not forgetting.

Anonymous wrote:Meh. Maybe once a year, I would understand. It happened to us once. We were to meet at a restaurant after my husband picked up our son. He arrived sans child. I asked where our child was and he suddenly sprinted out the door. It was fine, everybody lived.

That’s not even remotely similar.

Anonymous wrote:He can't do pickup anymore. Which is really sh*tty. Strategic incompetence. But, the child is more important so you have to step up.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:What was the end result? This would determine my anger level.

End result: I had to cancel a meeting, sprint over to aftercare (because spouse had the car) and pick up the child. I was 2 minutes late. And strapping on a mask after sprinting is dizzying.

The excuse: “I was in a meeting.”

So he was working. I'd give him 1 out of 10. Raising kids are like that.

So was OP. But she managed to pick up the kid.

Isn't that wonderful!

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Anonymous wrote:What was the end result? This would determine my anger level.

End result: I had to cancel a meeting, sprint over to aftercare (because spouse had the car) and pick up the child. I was 2 minutes late. And strapping on a mask after sprinting is dizzying.

The excuse: “I was in a meeting.”

I hope he apologized and vowed never to do that again. Sounds like it slipped his mind, plus his priorities are backwards, plus he’s a chicken$hit who can’t tell work he needs coverage or has to go or will catch the debrief later that night.


Additionally, if this is a pattern of bad priorities or “absentmindedness” or “he’s wired differently or missing wiring entirely,” you should not rely on him for kid care or safety. Don’t re-learn this a tragic way.

Meh. Maybe once a year, I would understand. It happened to us once. We were to meet at a restaurant after my husband picked up our son. He arrived sans child. I asked where our child was and he suddenly sprinted out the door. It was fine, everybody lived.

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Anonymous wrote:What was the end result? This would determine my anger level.

End result: I had to cancel a meeting, sprint over to aftercare (because spouse had the car) and pick up the child. I was 2 minutes late. And strapping on a mask after sprinting is dizzying.

The excuse: “I was in a meeting.”

So he was working. I'd give him 1 out of 10. Raising kids are like that.

So was OP. But she managed to pick up the kid.

This happened to us once. I did the calendar and verbal reminders (as usual) but skipped the text because I didn't want to nag. DH forgot. Fortunately he was available so he picked up DD when camp called.

I was about 6/10.

That said, I'd be pretty infuriated with your particular scenario.