My DH is picky and so are the kids, despite my best efforts. DH cooks about 25% of the time and he wouldn’t make anything that he doesn’t like/won’t eat himself. It’s not great, but I’m used to it I guess. Like, if I want to have any green vegetable other than spinach or zucchini, it’s on me to cook and consume, because the others won’t touch it.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you cook and just have late dinner?

She comes home at 7. She has kids.

So what is she complaining about?

If a DH were complaining that he didn't like what his DW cooked for dinner every night, he wouldn't get much sympathy. Why should OP get sympathy? If she doesn't like her DH's cooking, then she should cook some or all of the dinners.

She’s complaining about “Ew” and the fact that DH’s attitude (and lack of variety re dinner) is affecting their child’s eating.

Good lord. Why does OP have to complain about anything? Either shut up and eat what he cooks, or get up and cook yourself. WTF?

^Op said she has tried cooking herself, but her dh and kids complain her stuff is gross.

Surely there's a compromise between dh and Op's extremes.

No one should be complaining about food in front of the kids.
You should not be complaining about the fact that he cooks every weeknight! That's amazing.
He should also not be complaining about the food that you make. No one should "yuck" someone's "yum." No one. It's also an important lesson in ethnic diversity and global cuisines.

Or have later dinner. 8pm even for little kids is a standard dinner time in parts of Europe and Latin America.

If you don't like it, do it yourself. Seriously. Adjust your hours or cook more on the weekends.

What an ungrateful woman. Feel sorry for your DH and kids.

Adult picky eaters are some of the most annoying things on the planet. I have a friend who literally has a list of things she “won’t eat”. Literally, grow up. I’m with OP. Raise kids to eat better.

Get a crockpot and set it to cook while you are at work once and a while.

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Anonymous wrote:He cooks what he wants M-F while you are working late, you cook what you want on Sat and Sun

Basically this. Mushy or not, broccoli and sweet potato are nutritious. You’re coming home to a scratch made dinner. You really need to take a few breaths and be grateful for all that.

Read through your post and see how much you are critiquing his foods before you get to the complaint that he critiques your stuff.
If you really want your family to enjoy your foods, you’re going to have to find a way to do it yourself. Over the weekends, make what you want and pack it for work lunches. Have the kids cook with you and offer them bites. But leave your dh’s weeknight dinners alone.

+1 I think the person doing dinner with kids should get some goodwill. He might be more receptive to your meals if you approached it as, "I know it's a lot of work to make dinner and take care of the kids every night, what's something I could prep in advance to lighten the load" rather than "you suck so I'll leave a good meal for you all to eat."

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Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you cook and just have late dinner?

She comes home at 7. She has kids.

So what is she complaining about?

If a DH were complaining that he didn't like what his DW cooked for dinner every night, he wouldn't get much sympathy. Why should OP get sympathy? If she doesn't like her DH's cooking, then she should cook some or all of the dinners.

She’s complaining about “Ew” and the fact that DH’s attitude (and lack of variety re dinner) is affecting their child’s eating.

Good lord. Why does OP have to complain about anything? Either shut up and eat what he cooks, or get up and cook yourself. WTF?

You cook on Sat and Sun (when we are more apt to eat out or get takeout, so if you’re like that, you have to reverse). You get takeout 2 weekdays. He cooks 3 weekdays. Everyone is appreciative in front of the kids. Or, you cook on Sunday stuff he has to reheat for Mon and Tues and then he cooks W-Th and then you get takeout or one of you cooks Fri and Sat.

I agree that you have a bit of a marriage/communication problem, not just a food problem, so maybe address it like that and your husband will see the importance of the issue.

Doesn’t he want your kids to have a more expansive palate than he does? Or is he just being lazy and wanting to stick with cooking things he knows and can do easily? Have you asked him about this when you can talk seriously? What if he picks the menu four days and you pick it three days. Does he also work an outside job? I hate cooking and would find doing it every night tedious, so it’s nice that you are offering to cook ahead of time for some nights. You guys need to discuss this and compromise. He sounds immature if he’s saying “ew” to foods and trying to turn your kids against certain things.

Why can't you cook "normal" stuff that winter trigger "eww" from hom and the kids (I'm guessing you're cooking things that aren't visually appealing)?

Ground beef in crock pot before you leave work in the AM. Fixings for tacos in the refrig. Done. Win-win.

If you want something different you'll have to do it yourself.

Anonymous wrote:He cooks what he wants M-F while you are working late, you cook what you want on Sat and Sun

Basically this. Mushy or not, broccoli and sweet potato are nutritious. You’re coming home to a scratch made dinner. You really need to take a few breaths and be grateful for all that.

Read through your post and see how much you are critiquing his foods before you get to the complaint that he critiques your stuff.
If you really want your family to enjoy your foods, you’re going to have to find a way to do it yourself. Over the weekends, make what you want and pack it for work lunches. Have the kids cook with you and offer them bites. But leave your dh’s weeknight dinners alone.