We are all burned out! Staying home is not the answer. It may feel like an easy button right now, but it’s not. SAHM life is exhausting. You need to take a couple weeks off from work and get some sleep.

What I don't see in your post is that you really want to stay home, have always wanted to be a SAH parent, draw massive joy from being at home etc. If it is something you affirmatively really want, you can afford it so go do it. But if it's just because you're too burned out to even think about how to hire household help then don't do it now.

You’ll end up even worse with no job and stuck at home all day with a young kid during covid. Hire a nanny. Then revisit.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, go on a retreat for a few days by yourself, sleep, get massage, walk and think. You want to be rested and rational when making this decision, not overwhelmed and sleep deprived. I guarantee different mindset after a few days of rest alone - no matter what decision you end up making. Good luck.

Thanks… I don’t think any sort of trip or relaxation is possible in the foreseeable future but maybe I am just at a low point right now (we all have Covid, no daycare for weeks, seems like everything is hanging by a thread.)

Definitely don't make a life-changing decision now. Note your feelings now, put a date in your calendar for 1 month from now to ask yourself what you want.

I think you should quit. Life is short. I wish I could have at your age. I'm also in law and it was really stressful to juggle it all when the kids were small. I was really unhappy and feel I missed out on what life should be like.

Oh gosh. Do NOT quit. Do you really want to take care of a young child on your own all day? Everything you said in your post screams frustrations with covid and problems with childcare. I do NOT hear you saying you simply want to be a mom and miss your child while you work.

First hire a nanny. There’s no reason to do daycare at your income. Even in normal times, your kid will be sick more often and picking and dropping off the child is a giant pia.

Before you quit promise me you’ll take a week off and spend it solely at home with your kid. I have a feeling on day 3 you’ll be ready to go back to work.

If you are going to quit, makes way more sense to get pregnant, take leave and come back for a short period of time. Then stay home 2-3 years. If you quit now and get pregnant you’re looking at 5+ years out of work and you’ll be a SAHM by default unless you want to take some job you won’t really want to renter the workforce.

Seriously hire a nanny and then see how you feel in 2 or so months. Or when covid calms down. I can’t stress enough to not quit your job.

You make peanuts compared to your husband. Unless you feel like it is fulfilling why continue

Of course you can quit; you are wealthy.

You should quit. And if you change your mind, you can always look for another job. If that’s a possibility, I’d do freelancing or part-time work just to make sure you have recent experiences on your resume.

Quit!

Anonymous wrote:Am I delusional in thinking it’s ok to quit?

We made it work on one income, with the earner getting 1/10 of what your DH makes. Live on what we live on, and save the rest, and your DH can quit in a few years, too!

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Anonymous wrote:OP, go on a retreat for a few days by yourself, sleep, get massage, walk and think. You want to be rested and rational when making this decision, not overwhelmed and sleep deprived. I guarantee different mindset after a few days of rest alone - no matter what decision you end up making. Good luck.

Thanks… I don’t think any sort of trip or relaxation is possible in the foreseeable future but maybe I am just at a low point right now (we all have Covid, no daycare for weeks, seems like everything is hanging by a thread.)

Don't make any life decisions until you get back to some normalcy. Start outsourcing more - a lot more and then see how you feel. Try getting a housekeeper who cooks, cleans, grocery shops and does laundry which will give you and your husband a lot more time for time with your child. Try switching off with your husband for a few hours each weekend so you can each do some self care - sleep, gym, nails, massage or whatever speaks to each of you. It gets better!

OP You are in a wonderful position to focus on creating a better life for your family I think giving up that level of income entirely seems extreme. It is very very hard to
find good childcare now (my niece has interviewed 15 Nannie’s and none have accepted what she needs for a pretty similar situation and she’s offering top dollar. COVID has impacted in home care. I would have love to be at home with a high HHI but I wouldn’t have wanted to be doing it without some freedom (childcare!) and unless I had house cleaned 1x week -it’s not gonna get cleaned. If you are ready to quit let your current firm know you’re serious and see if they truly cannot accommodate WFH or much reduced hours. Also
while I would say you have plenty of income and stability keeping ‘in the game’ even if it’s extremely part time will allow you to hop back in later on.

Being at home raising kids and running a house is an often lonely and always undervalued choice. You can make it rewarding but I’d approach it less black and white.

Stay at home fool. It’s way better

Who know, maybe by the act of submitting your resignation, your employer will offer more flexibility such as fully remote and/or part time to help you achieve more balance. Being financially secure either way gives you freedom.