Anonymous
01/16/2022 16:14
Subject: Relationship during young kids phase
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:3 kids all 5 years old and younger. Relationship is suffering because DH feels like I am not Affectionate enough or supportive enough for him. I work full time and take care of the kids 90% of the time. Dh works a lot (60+ Hours a week). He feels like we don’t have time to ourselves, don’t have enough sex and I am not affectionate enough to him. I am exhausted from taking care of the kids. We still have sex 1-2 times a week. Not sure what else I can do.
"Cool. So how are you going to change that?"
He needs to provide solutions, not just complain. You are not an endless resource he gets to extract from.
Tell him to come back to you when he has ideas to take some of the burden off your shoulders.
Divorced guy : this !
+2. You have a job and your own money. Life should be easier married than divorced. If you are more exhausted with him than without him, then you should rethink things.
Anonymous
01/16/2022 16:11
Subject: Re:Relationship during young kids phase
Anonymous wrote:Op here - I work a full time job, pick up and drop off the kids, do the laundry, dishes, cook etc. I work out 4-5 times a week and do keep up with my friends/family.
I feel like all DH has is work and me and the kids when he has time. But he prefers me over the kids (at least in my mind). I mean he loves the kids but I don’t think he likes this stage in life with them. So gets frustrated by them and wants alone time with me, which I can’t give because you know 3 kids who are young and dependent on me.
PP here who said to take care of yourself. You are doing a much better job than I did! I gave up so many things with the aim of making him happy, and it never really did. It just made me a shadow of myself and him resentful that I wasn't the fun, happy woman he married.
Keep it up!
Anonymous
01/16/2022 15:39
Subject: Relationship during young kids phase
Anonymous wrote:1-2 times a week is great
Twice a week is 100% nirvana.