Anonymous wrote:Clearly if the teacher is calling you about it, your daughter isn't telling you the full story. I would call her back and her what she has to say.

+1 Former teacher. Teachers don’t get involved in day to day petty drama (they are experts and have experience). Do you think they want to spend their free time this way? No. It’s clearly something. Have some respect and call back.

I would just say:

“Hi Ms X! Thank you for letting me know. I will talk to Larla about this.”

Sounds like standard 5th grade girl drama (awful as it is). Also: always be aware that your DD may not be telling you the full, true story.

Anonymous wrote:Which of these girls is yours?

Can the read at least the first page before hitting the reply button? Answered multiple times.

I also wanted to add, do not shoot the messenger if you hear things you refuse to believe are true. My parents did this. They saw my sister as the perpetual victim because she was a talented manipulator and they refused to accept she was mean and showing some disturbing behavior.

Fast forward and she causes drama at work and among relatives and is incapable of healthy connections. People are impressed with her fancy credentials and accomplishments, but when they get too close-either as friends or dating, they see she is mean and manipulative at heart and run or distance themselves. I honestly think if my parents had listened to all the well-meaning people over the years sending out red-flags they could have gotten her help. Instead they defended her time and again and it just reinforced concerning behavior.

Anonymous wrote:I think you should give the teacher the courtesy of listening to her side of the story before you decide it's something you don't care about, or not malicious.

This. It may be shocking to you, but sometimes tweens and teens tell stories to their parents that have spin to make them look good.

As a teacher, I would call you re: this situation if either there was more to it than you daughter shared or if I saw her handle herself in a way that stood out (positive or negative). That behavior may be part of a trend I see or some out of the ordinary that stood out.
All to say, call the teacher back and hear what she has to say.

Anonymous wrote:Clearly if the teacher is calling you about it, your daughter isn't telling you the full story. I would call her back and her what she has to say.

There is definitely potential for this. There may be more to the story. And, even if C-H’s motives were pure, they handled it poorly if B ended up crying I. Front of the class. You need to talk to your daughter about that.

If your kid started this, they should apologize directly, face to face to the girl who was being ousted.

My DD had this treatment in 5th and needed a therapist. The next girl in the group not only needed a therapist but also moved from public to private.

As they get older this kind of shit qualifies as bullying - so you get your kid's act together now. If you've had a call it's because your kid is being an asshole. Fix it.

Obviously girls c through h should have told girl a to talk to girl b if she had an issue with her. They were interjecting in a way to humiliate girl b. Teacher wasn't having it.

Clearly if the teacher is calling you about it, your daughter isn't telling you the full story. I would call her back and her what she has to say.

Which of these girls is yours?

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Anonymous wrote:Is your daughter A or in C-H?

She’s C-H

You should be concerned about your daughter's friendship with A who seems like a real shit stirrer. Luckily the other girls weren't having it and did the right thing with friend B.

We don’t know who the instigator is. It could be A, B, or even C-H.

Anonymous wrote:Kids learn they can behave like this because parents like you don't care. This time it may not have been your daughters fault but next time it might be.

You’re probably the type of person who wouldn’t tell a friend you saw their spouse cheating too, huh?

Anonymous wrote:Kids learn they can behave like this because parents like you don't care. This time it may not have been your daughters fault but next time it might be.

+1

Did the teacher call C-H’s parents? That seems like a lot of work. I don’t get it.