Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is ever "allowed". I will forgive the occasional swear, but always call them out on it. I myself swear occasionally and apologize when I do. I just don't want it to become a reflex.

This.

Swearing is just so ghetto.

So is using the word ghetto

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is ever "allowed". I will forgive the occasional swear, but always call them out on it. I myself swear occasionally and apologize when I do. I just don't want it to become a reflex.

This.

Swearing is just so ghetto.

So is using the word ghetto

Using that word over swear words is much much worse and indicates PP's ignorance and low class. Keep trying, PP, bu those around you know you're a climber.

Like many PPs above, we don't care if our kids say "oh shit" etc. I say it all the time so apple/tree. Or to say "that was a shitty situation." We teach them to know the audience/

They are NOT allowed to call someone a POS, call their siblings "idiots/retards" etc. etc.

Anonymous wrote:I just heard the 10 year old ask the 13 year old what a geometry proof was like. The 13 year old answered "like a donkey being shoved up your ass"

That seemed properly placed.

Now this, THIS, I have a huge problem with.

Geometry proofs are DA BOMB.

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is ever "allowed". I will forgive the occasional swear, but always call them out on it. I myself swear occasionally and apologize when I do. I just don't want it to become a reflex.

Yeah, this is me.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We never banned swear words, just told DD that many people did not like it and considered it rude, but if she wanted to swear, fine, just use the word appropriately. We never really reacted when DD used the occasional swear word when young. Now that she's 14, she almost never swears.

This.

Also, we've discussed the distinction between saying the occasional swear word and calling someone a name, e.g., "Oh, s***!" vs. "You're a piece of s***!"

Agree with both!

Anonymous wrote:I’m stopped reacting or correcting it when DS was around 13. As long as he’s not being disrespectful or it’s said in a mean way. I’d address anyone directly insulting others even without swear words.

DH and I both swear. I care more that my kids know their audience. One DC does a lot. The other doesn’t at all.

This, basically. I do still remind DS but it's really rare that he uses those words like maybe 2-3 times a year and I remember the last time he used it he was holding a few grocery bags and knocked over glass at which point he went something like "oh oh #(*Q)#($*"

I stopped raising an eyebrow once they were in high school.

I’m stopped reacting or correcting it when DS was around 13. As long as he’s not being disrespectful or it’s said in a mean way. I’d address anyone directly insulting others even without swear words.

DH and I both swear. I care more that my kids know their audience. One DC does a lot. The other doesn’t at all.

I just heard the 10 year old ask the 13 year old what a geometry proof was like. The 13 year old answered "like a donkey being shoved up your ass"

That seemed properly placed.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is ever "allowed". I will forgive the occasional swear, but always call them out on it. I myself swear occasionally and apologize when I do. I just don't want it to become a reflex.

This.

Swearing is just so ghetto.

Good self own!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is ever "allowed". I will forgive the occasional swear, but always call them out on it. I myself swear occasionally and apologize when I do. I just don't want it to become a reflex.

This.

Swearing is just so ghetto.

So is using the word ghetto

We didn't ban. We don't allow them to be used directed at another person.

We also have told them that if they slip and use one at school and are heard, the consequences are on them. All four kids have reported mild swearing by their teachers and that most teachers don't care if it's mild swearing. And by mild swearing, "oh damn" and "shit" are light but the b-word and f-word are frowned upon in school.

I work in a male-dominated field and swearing is definitely needed to 'fit in' as the lone female c-suite holder.

I don't view using certain language as being "low class" or "ghetto" like some people.

My sister won't let her kids swear so they use other made up/alternate words instead. It's like... why? You KNOW what that made up word means as does everyone else. Like, her kids will say "he's an absolute dump truck" and dump truck is in place of dumb fk. They also can't say Jesus Christ, so they Cheesy Rice in place. It's dumb, IMO.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is ever "allowed". I will forgive the occasional swear, but always call them out on it. I myself swear occasionally and apologize when I do. I just don't want it to become a reflex.

This.

Swearing is just so ghetto.

So is using the word ghetto

My 13 year old doesn’t swear at home, but I know she does with her friends and I wouldn’t really care if she occasionally used a well-placed expletive with us from time to time. My 10 year old is still embarrassed to say “Schitt’s Creek,” though.