Anonymous wrote:Age 13.

70% of kids quit sports by age 13, with burnout being one of the leading causes.

https://www.latimes.com/opinion/story/2021-04-10/youth-sports-mental-health-pandemic

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Anonymous wrote:I know some burn out at 5 and others 45 but is there an age when there is a palpable trend in kids burning out? If your kid cannot get enough of soccer 24/7 when does that wane?

Kids do not burn out as much as they become interested in other things. Moving on to another interest or activity should not be seen as a negative so stop calling it “burn out”. Do we say girls burn out of Girl Scouts or do they just have other interests?

Middle school years is about when kids start to try new things and forge their own identity and it is perfectly normal.

Anonymous wrote:Funny, the couple Ive seen burn out on DD's team were the stars.

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Anonymous wrote:They get burned out when it gets boring.

parents of the average talented player push "my kid works harder than everyone else"..."hard work beats talent every time" message to the point of nauseam. then the talent rises to the top and those kids work just as hard and in many cases harder and smarter. it would be awesome if there was a ton of opportunity at the top for all these kids. the reality is there isn't and it's getting harder. suddenly the message becomes my kid got "burned out". it happens at all different ages and I'm sure some kids do get sick of playing, but the "my kid CHOSE not to play in college because they wanted a real college experience"..."my kid was getting recruited but got burned out"..."my kid went to college and never saw the field because xyz" message gets old. the funnel gets smaller with each step. the talent gets better. the kids get stronger, faster...some can, some can't overcome serious injuries and most of them work as hard as everyone else and want it bad. there is nothing wrong with saying my kid was a good player and it didn't work out for whatever reasons, especially as a parent. i've watched so many parents over the years...especially on the girls side...push the agenda they want and the kid just has no shot of meeting the parents goal.

As a kid that played on an undefeated star team all throughout my youth and high school---National championship, so many state championships, including varsity as Freshmen and a state Championship. Even the 'stars' burn out. I had been playing since I could walk and by the time I was mid-high school and I started wanting my weekends to go out with friends and start living a normal fun social life, soccer started to take a back seat in my mind. Age 5-18 was enough.

It did give me a lifelong love of exercise which I channeled into running and exercise challenges the rest of my life. But, I didn't even touch a soccer ball once I got to college until 30s when I had kids and started kicking it around with them.

Sounds like you made a great choice for yourself. Did you turn down many college offers? Was that easy to walk away from?

Anonymous wrote:Burnout is a cop out... We dont ask when do kids burnout from school or going to church. so why do we choose to point the finger at other activities? Im not arguing personal priorities just the fact any activities should be looked at objectively. Many people go through life with blinders on. They dont understand any and all activities pull from an individuals personal limits. Everyone is an individual and everyone handles the stress of life on different levels.

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Anonymous wrote:I think that the kids who want to play soccer 24/7 are less likely to burn out than the kids who are being pushed into playing more than they want to.

The difference is when kids do something like soccer because they love it versus kids doing it for parents’ ego fulfillment. Some parents force things including making their kiddos do a sport or other activity they don’t find passion for. Parents sign their kids for ever soccer activity they hear about. FOMO is contagious and these parents assume that because their children do every single activity in soccer their children are elite but reality is that their children have a horrible first touch, lack of soccer IQ and do not how to read the game which results in bad or no passes, no runs, only chasing the opositor team player for 90 percent of the game instead of developing opportunities for their own team.

I don't know what kind of pu55ies some of these parents raise, but, if I made my kids play a sport they didn't want to, they'd make my frickin life miserable.

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Anonymous wrote:They get burned out when it gets boring.

parents of the average talented player push "my kid works harder than everyone else"..."hard work beats talent every time" message to the point of nauseam. then the talent rises to the top and those kids work just as hard and in many cases harder and smarter. it would be awesome if there was a ton of opportunity at the top for all these kids. the reality is there isn't and it's getting harder. suddenly the message becomes my kid got "burned out". it happens at all different ages and I'm sure some kids do get sick of playing, but the "my kid CHOSE not to play in college because they wanted a real college experience"..."my kid was getting recruited but got burned out"..."my kid went to college and never saw the field because xyz" message gets old. the funnel gets smaller with each step. the talent gets better. the kids get stronger, faster...some can, some can't overcome serious injuries and most of them work as hard as everyone else and want it bad. there is nothing wrong with saying my kid was a good player and it didn't work out for whatever reasons, especially as a parent. i've watched so many parents over the years...especially on the girls side...push the agenda they want and the kid just has no shot of meeting the parents goal.

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Anonymous wrote:I think that the kids who want to play soccer 24/7 are less likely to burn out than the kids who are being pushed into playing more than they want to.

The difference is when kids do something like soccer because they love it versus kids doing it for parents’ ego fulfillment. Some parents force things including making their kiddos do a sport or other activity they don’t find passion for. Parents sign their kids for ever soccer activity they hear about. FOMO is contagious and these parents assume that because their children do every single activity in soccer their children are elite but reality is that their children have a horrible first touch, lack of soccer IQ and do not how to read the game which results in bad or no passes, no runs, only chasing the opositor team player for 90 percent of the game instead of developing opportunities for their own team.

Anonymous wrote:They get burned out when it gets boring.

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Anonymous wrote:I think that the kids who want to play soccer 24/7 are less likely to burn out than the kids who are being pushed into playing more than they want to.

The difference is when kids do something like soccer because they love it versus kids doing it for parents’ ego fulfillment. Some parents force things including making their kiddos do a sport or other activity they don’t find passion for. Parents sign their kids for ever soccer activity they hear about. FOMO is contagious and these parents assume that because their children do every single activity in soccer their children are elite but reality is that their children have a horrible first touch, lack of soccer IQ and do not how to read the game which results in bad or no passes, no runs, only chasing the opositor team player for 90 percent of the game instead of developing opportunities for their own team.