Anonymous wrote:Sugar dating websites. The men who are on there (who aren't scammers) have a high net worth and you usually don't get there by being boring or an unmotivated loser. Just realize a lot of the men on there are married. But those can be good for FWB as they don't want to leave their wives for you -- they want someone to have dinner with and more.

A number of male friends in my circle are on those sites.

Anonymous wrote:I'm mid-40's, separated, with no intentions of ever getting married again. Have been using apps to find an FWB-type relationship and it's crickets out there. I'm surprised that you, OP are having a problem. I thought women would have a buffet table to pick someone with who they vibe with.

Anonymous wrote:Find the single/divorced/open marriage dads at your kids events. Shouldn't be too hard to figure out who would be a suitable buddy.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 44 and feel the same. It is really hard. I thought I found something last year, but he got serious, told his family, and broke up with me (they did not approve of a divorced woman with kids). I was floored…did not think he would tell his family. I have no intention of getting married again. He got married shortly afterwards

Other men who just want sex I am not that into. Other men want something serious. I am kind of seeing someone now but not sure where he lies really. I want something long term but not marriage or cohabitation. It’s hard.

If he got married shortly after ending things with you then he planned this all along. I’m from a conservative culture and it is known and understood that man are manipulate and lie and use western women to have a good time, they don’t play with women from their cultures because those are respectable and for marriage (there are exceptions of course).

Why were you disappointed that they didn’t want a divorced women if you only wanted FWB?

Because it seemed long term and we discussed that; and I asked several times if he wanted to get married because I don’t date men who have marriage as a goal at this point in life. He could have married before but did not want to…he told me that. He also said he was no longer interested in getting married early on. I do not want just a FWB. I want a long term sex partner I can do things with. I do not want family involved or marriage or cohabitation.

You do not want FWB, you want a monogamous LTR. With no cohabitation and marriage. Sorry, you will not get that with young guys or guys your age. The old men who expect you to be a 'nurse with a purse' are your target demographic. Age range of 67+.

I sort of want a monogamous LTR but I define it as a part-time boyfriend because there are a lot of elements of an LTR I do not want….I have no interest in meeting friends or family. I want sex and an occasional date…that is all. I do not want to see anyone more than 1-2 times a week. I don’t think you understand what I want. This can work with younger men….problem is they want to get serious. I don’t. I want a comfirmed bachelor. Preferably one without kids. I have my own and do not want to meet anyone else’s. That is too LTR for me. No thanks.

I actually had this last year. Had dinner once a week and sex. Texted most days. But we were not monogamous. Feelings developed on his end and it ended.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 44 and feel the same. It is really hard. I thought I found something last year, but he got serious, told his family, and broke up with me (they did not approve of a divorced woman with kids). I was floored…did not think he would tell his family. I have no intention of getting married again. He got married shortly afterwards

Other men who just want sex I am not that into. Other men want something serious. I am kind of seeing someone now but not sure where he lies really. I want something long term but not marriage or cohabitation. It’s hard.

If he got married shortly after ending things with you then he planned this all along. I’m from a conservative culture and it is known and understood that man are manipulate and lie and use western women to have a good time, they don’t play with women from their cultures because those are respectable and for marriage (there are exceptions of course).

Why were you disappointed that they didn’t want a divorced women if you only wanted FWB?

Because it seemed long term and we discussed that; and I asked several times if he wanted to get married because I don’t date men who have marriage as a goal at this point in life. He could have married before but did not want to…he told me that. He also said he was no longer interested in getting married early on. I do not want just a FWB. I want a long term sex partner I can do things with. I do not want family involved or marriage or cohabitation.

You do not want FWB, you want a monogamous LTR. With no cohabitation and marriage. Sorry, you will not get that with young guys or guys your age. The old men who expect you to be a 'nurse with a purse' are your target demographic. Age range of 67+.

I sort of want a monogamous LTR but I define it as a part-time boyfriend because there are a lot of elements of an LTR I do not want….I have no interest in meeting friends or family. I want sex and an occasional date…that is all. I do not want to see anyone more than 1-2 times a week. I don’t think you understand what I want. This can work with younger men….problem is they want to get serious. I don’t. I want a comfirmed bachelor. Preferably one without kids. I have my own and do not want to meet anyone else’s. That is too LTR for me. No thanks.

Anonymous wrote:Sugar dating websites. The men who are on there (who aren't scammers) have a high net worth and you usually don't get there by being boring or an unmotivated loser. Just realize a lot of the men on there are married. But those can be good for FWB as they don't want to leave their wives for you -- they want someone to have dinner with and more.

A number of male friends in my circle are on those sites.

Anonymous wrote:What is the difference between a FWB and a committed relationship between two people with intimacy issues?

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Anonymous wrote:I am 44 and feel the same. It is really hard. I thought I found something last year, but he got serious, told his family, and broke up with me (they did not approve of a divorced woman with kids). I was floored…did not think he would tell his family. I have no intention of getting married again. He got married shortly afterwards

Other men who just want sex I am not that into. Other men want something serious. I am kind of seeing someone now but not sure where he lies really. I want something long term but not marriage or cohabitation. It’s hard.

If he got married shortly after ending things with you then he planned this all along. I’m from a conservative culture and it is known and understood that man are manipulate and lie and use western women to have a good time, they don’t play with women from their cultures because those are respectable and for marriage (there are exceptions of course).

Why were you disappointed that they didn’t want a divorced women if you only wanted FWB?

Because it seemed long term and we discussed that; and I asked several times if he wanted to get married because I don’t date men who have marriage as a goal at this point in life. He could have married before but did not want to…he told me that. He also said he was no longer interested in getting married early on. I do not want just a FWB. I want a long term sex partner I can do things with. I do not want family involved or marriage or cohabitation.

You do not want FWB, you want a monogamous LTR. With no cohabitation and marriage. Sorry, you will not get that with young guys or guys your age. The old men who expect you to be a 'nurse with a purse' are your target demographic. Age range of 67+.

I sort of want a monogamous LTR but I define it as a part-time boyfriend because there are a lot of elements of an LTR I do not want….I have no interest in meeting friends or family. I want sex and an occasional date…that is all. I do not want to see anyone more than 1-2 times a week. I don’t think you understand what I want. This can work with younger men….problem is they want to get serious. I don’t. I want a comfirmed bachelor. Preferably one without kids. I have my own and do not want to meet anyone else’s. That is too LTR for me. No thanks.

You can get the sex from younger guys or guys your age...but you also want the occasional date and that is the problem. That will not happen in real life situation. Also, you will not get monogamy. If you are ready for a revolving door of sexual partners OR a man who is also sleeping with others...you are gold.

I get exactly what you are looking for because that is what a divorced, with grown kids, financially independent, friend of mine is looking for. It is not happening. The men who are available to her are not the ones that she is attracted to. You are looking for a unicorn.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 44 and feel the same. It is really hard. I thought I found something last year, but he got serious, told his family, and broke up with me (they did not approve of a divorced woman with kids). I was floored…did not think he would tell his family. I have no intention of getting married again. He got married shortly afterwards

Other men who just want sex I am not that into. Other men want something serious. I am kind of seeing someone now but not sure where he lies really. I want something long term but not marriage or cohabitation. It’s hard.

If he got married shortly after ending things with you then he planned this all along. I’m from a conservative culture and it is known and understood that man are manipulate and lie and use western women to have a good time, they don’t play with women from their cultures because those are respectable and for marriage (there are exceptions of course).

Why were you disappointed that they didn’t want a divorced women if you only wanted FWB?

Because it seemed long term and we discussed that; and I asked several times if he wanted to get married because I don’t date men who have marriage as a goal at this point in life. He could have married before but did not want to…he told me that. He also said he was no longer interested in getting married early on. I do not want just a FWB. I want a long term sex partner I can do things with. I do not want family involved or marriage or cohabitation.

You do not want FWB, you want a monogamous LTR. With no cohabitation and marriage. Sorry, you will not get that with young guys or guys your age. The old men who expect you to be a 'nurse with a purse' are your target demographic. Age range of 67+.

I sort of want a monogamous LTR but I define it as a part-time boyfriend because there are a lot of elements of an LTR I do not want….I have no interest in meeting friends or family. I want sex and an occasional date…that is all. I do not want to see anyone more than 1-2 times a week. I don’t think you understand what I want. This can work with younger men….problem is they want to get serious. I don’t. I want a comfirmed bachelor. Preferably one without kids. I have my own and do not want to meet anyone else’s. That is too LTR for me. No thanks.

The problem is in the bold. You have a very rigorous list of demands, especially these two. If you want an attractive and charming man, he is probably not going to be content with a 1x a week hook up AND you being the only one he is sleeping with. Also, how many of these men exist in your desired age range that don't have kids?

I think it's totally reasonable to want a LTR with a FWB but your criteria is really narrow.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 44 and feel the same. It is really hard. I thought I found something last year, but he got serious, told his family, and broke up with me (they did not approve of a divorced woman with kids). I was floored…did not think he would tell his family. I have no intention of getting married again. He got married shortly afterwards

Other men who just want sex I am not that into. Other men want something serious. I am kind of seeing someone now but not sure where he lies really. I want something long term but not marriage or cohabitation. It’s hard.

If he got married shortly after ending things with you then he planned this all along. I’m from a conservative culture and it is known and understood that man are manipulate and lie and use western women to have a good time, they don’t play with women from their cultures because those are respectable and for marriage (there are exceptions of course).

Why were you disappointed that they didn’t want a divorced women if you only wanted FWB?

Because it seemed long term and we discussed that; and I asked several times if he wanted to get married because I don’t date men who have marriage as a goal at this point in life. He could have married before but did not want to…he told me that. He also said he was no longer interested in getting married early on. I do not want just a FWB. I want a long term sex partner I can do things with. I do not want family involved or marriage or cohabitation.

You do not want FWB, you want a monogamous LTR. With no cohabitation and marriage. Sorry, you will not get that with young guys or guys your age. The old men who expect you to be a 'nurse with a purse' are your target demographic. Age range of 67+.

I sort of want a monogamous LTR but I define it as a part-time boyfriend because there are a lot of elements of an LTR I do not want….I have no interest in meeting friends or family. I want sex and an occasional date…that is all. I do not want to see anyone more than 1-2 times a week. I don’t think you understand what I want. This can work with younger men….problem is they want to get serious. I don’t. I want a comfirmed bachelor. Preferably one without kids. I have my own and do not want to meet anyone else’s. That is too LTR for me. No thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 44 and feel the same. It is really hard. I thought I found something last year, but he got serious, told his family, and broke up with me (they did not approve of a divorced woman with kids). I was floored…did not think he would tell his family. I have no intention of getting married again. He got married shortly afterwards

Other men who just want sex I am not that into. Other men want something serious. I am kind of seeing someone now but not sure where he lies really. I want something long term but not marriage or cohabitation. It’s hard.

If he got married shortly after ending things with you then he planned this all along. I’m from a conservative culture and it is known and understood that man are manipulate and lie and use western women to have a good time, they don’t play with women from their cultures because those are respectable and for marriage (there are exceptions of course).

Why were you disappointed that they didn’t want a divorced women if you only wanted FWB?

Because it seemed long term and we discussed that; and I asked several times if he wanted to get married because I don’t date men who have marriage as a goal at this point in life. He could have married before but did not want to…he told me that. He also said he was no longer interested in getting married early on. I do not want just a FWB. I want a long term sex partner I can do things with. I do not want family involved or marriage or cohabitation.

You do not want FWB, you want a monogamous LTR. With no cohabitation and marriage. Sorry, you will not get that with young guys or guys your age. The old men who expect you to be a 'nurse with a purse' are your target demographic. Age range of 67+.

I sort of want a monogamous LTR but I define it as a part-time boyfriend because there are a lot of elements of an LTR I do not want….I have no interest in meeting friends or family. I want sex and an occasional date…that is all. I do not want to see anyone more than 1-2 times a week. I don’t think you understand what I want. This can work with younger men….problem is they want to get serious. I don’t. I want a comfirmed bachelor. Preferably one without kids. I have my own and do not want to meet anyone else’s. That is too LTR for me. No thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 44 and feel the same. It is really hard. I thought I found something last year, but he got serious, told his family, and broke up with me (they did not approve of a divorced woman with kids). I was floored…did not think he would tell his family. I have no intention of getting married again. He got married shortly afterwards

Other men who just want sex I am not that into. Other men want something serious. I am kind of seeing someone now but not sure where he lies really. I want something long term but not marriage or cohabitation. It’s hard.

If he got married shortly after ending things with you then he planned this all along. I’m from a conservative culture and it is known and understood that man are manipulate and lie and use western women to have a good time, they don’t play with women from their cultures because those are respectable and for marriage (there are exceptions of course).

Why were you disappointed that they didn’t want a divorced women if you only wanted FWB?

Because it seemed long term and we discussed that; and I asked several times if he wanted to get married because I don’t date men who have marriage as a goal at this point in life. He could have married before but did not want to…he told me that. He also said he was no longer interested in getting married early on. I do not want just a FWB. I want a long term sex partner I can do things with. I do not want family involved or marriage or cohabitation.

You do not want FWB, you want a monogamous LTR. With no cohabitation and marriage. Sorry, you will not get that with young guys or guys your age. The old men who expect you to be a 'nurse with a purse' are your target demographic. Age range of 67+.

Anonymous wrote:I'm mid-40's, separated, with no intentions of ever getting married again. Have been using apps to find an FWB-type relationship and it's crickets out there. I'm surprised that you, OP are having a problem. I thought women would have a buffet table to pick someone with who they vibe with.