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Anonymous wrote:get her to go in the shower in a swimsuit and show you what she's doing with her hair.

I would also explain that shampoo is for cleaning your scalp - all of it, and that the hair getting clean is a bi-product of that.

Why would she have to wear a swimsuit in front of a PARENT?

I would certainly offer that to a pubescent child as an option that way you take away any of their potential concerns about not wanting to show you how the shampoo because the problem is they don’t want you to see them naked. Even if the kid grew up in a really body positive household they can still feel uncomfortable that they’re changing bodies

Offering that implies the naked body is something to hide from immediate family relatives. I would never offer that. If they balked at being seen naked and chose it, that would be fine.

Oh come on. It's just respectful offer for a tween! My son has long hair and needs a lot of help maintaining unfortunately. Like previous PPs, I try to make sure I give his hair a thorough wash once a week and he wears his swim trunks because he gets embarrassed when I see him naked now, so it was a way to solve a problem! I was private as a kid, too, so I get it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:get her to go in the shower in a swimsuit and show you what she's doing with her hair.

I would also explain that shampoo is for cleaning your scalp - all of it, and that the hair getting clean is a bi-product of that.

Why would she have to wear a swimsuit in front of a PARENT?

I would certainly offer that to a pubescent child as an option that way you take away any of their potential concerns about not wanting to show you how the shampoo because the problem is they don’t want you to see them naked. Even if the kid grew up in a really body positive household they can still feel uncomfortable that they’re changing bodies

Offering that implies the naked body is something to hide from immediate family relatives. I would never offer that. If they balked at being seen naked and chose it, that would be fine.

My 12 yr old has shampooing issues too. I mostly let it be since her issue is not washing her scalp/crown thoroughly enough. But she has the general idea and steps correct and rinses well enough. Once per week I help her in the shower get a good scalp scrub.

my 12 yo DD is not the best at rinsing either. We have lowish water pressure (we even removed the water restrictor in the shower head). We bought her a small "locker-sized" mirror (one that's plastic and not glass) that we hang in the shower. So DD checks herself (as best she can) to make sure all her hair conditioner/product is completely out. Sometimes it works, but other times we too have to supervise to make sure she's really working in her shampoo/conditioner.

Anonymous wrote:BTDT!
Tell her it’s note about washing her scalp, my DD was focusing on the rest of the hair and not paying attention to the scalp which is really the important part
Get one of those shampoo massager brushes on amazon. They feel REALLY great and help with the “wash everything” bit.
Also, check the water pressure. I seriously think half if DD’s issue is that we werent aware of how craptastic the water pressure was in the kids bathroom. New showerhead, suddenly the issue became much less!

Oddly my 5 yo thick-haired DD has very little issue washing and rinsing her own hair, but my DS (8) did a lousy job. It seemed like no matter what I instructed, his hair never smelled clean. I was tempted to buzz cut it. I also bought one of those scalp massagers on amazon, and it completely solved the problem for him! I will also say that we have tried a million different kid-friendly and/or natural shampoos, and nothing really makes their hair smell as fresh and look as clean as the industrial size vat of pantene from costco.