Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 20:47     Subject: Height
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40's guy, new to dating after a LT relationship that ended. I'm of average height (5'9") and notice that most women in dating apps mention to not bother reaching out if you're not 6' or taller. FWIW, I understand that if a woman is 5'10" or taller, that she might like a taller partner. But these women looking for guys who are 6' or taller are all 5'0" to 5'8". I don't have a problem with a woman who is taller than me. But wow...have times changed.


Women are attracted to men who have the potential to increase their social value with other women. So it's a self-fulfilling social construct: taller men are attractive because women value taller men, not because they are necessarily objectively more attractive. Women obsess over what other women think of them, and how they will be judged (as they themselves are ruthlessly judging others behind their backs), and so their search for a mate isn't driven by any sense of objective attraction, but the fear of being devalued by their peers (i.e. other women), and the FOMO that results from obsessing over others' mates. Women may very well find a shorter man attractive, but they will hold out for taller man because the shorter man will decrease her social value among her female peers, and subject her to ridicule behind her back.


What the? That is bonkers and as a woman, I cannot believe this what so ever. This must be a man writing. Women don’t care if another woman’s husband is 5’8” or 6’2” and has nothing to do with that woman’s “value” or place with her peers.

You could use this argument with income, but height, no.


Absolutely. I gossip with my friends about so and so's husband getting her a beach home in Sarasota because she vacationed there as a child, taking care of the kids while she's at Canyon Ranch for two weeks relaxing after a hard job of being a SAHM with a FT nanny and a weekly housekeeper, doing all the homework with the kids, not complaining about the impact on their savings when she's getting a $35K tummy tuck etc. etc. Height? Never.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 20:27     Subject: Height
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40's guy, new to dating after a LT relationship that ended. I'm of average height (5'9") and notice that most women in dating apps mention to not bother reaching out if you're not 6' or taller. FWIW, I understand that if a woman is 5'10" or taller, that she might like a taller partner. But these women looking for guys who are 6' or taller are all 5'0" to 5'8". I don't have a problem with a woman who is taller than me. But wow...have times changed.


Women are attracted to men who have the potential to increase their social value with other women. So it's a self-fulfilling social construct: taller men are attractive because women value taller men, not because they are necessarily objectively more attractive. Women obsess over what other women think of them, and how they will be judged (as they themselves are ruthlessly judging others behind their backs), and so their search for a mate isn't driven by any sense of objective attraction, but the fear of being devalued by their peers (i.e. other women), and the FOMO that results from obsessing over others' mates. Women may very well find a shorter man attractive, but they will hold out for taller man because the shorter man will decrease her social value among her female peers, and subject her to ridicule behind her back.


What the? That is bonkers and as a woman, I cannot believe this what so ever. This must be a man writing. Women don’t care if another woman’s husband is 5’8” or 6’2” and has nothing to do with that woman’s “value” or place with her peers.

You could use this argument with income, but height, no.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 20:10     Subject: Height
Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40's guy, new to dating after a LT relationship that ended. I'm of average height (5'9") and notice that most women in dating apps mention to not bother reaching out if you're not 6' or taller. FWIW, I understand that if a woman is 5'10" or taller, that she might like a taller partner. But these women looking for guys who are 6' or taller are all 5'0" to 5'8". I don't have a problem with a woman who is taller than me. But wow...have times changed.


Women are attracted to men who have the potential to increase their social value with other women. So it's a self-fulfilling social construct: taller men are attractive because women value taller men, not because they are necessarily objectively more attractive. Women obsess over what other women think of them, and how they will be judged (as they themselves are ruthlessly judging others behind their backs), and so their search for a mate isn't driven by any sense of objective attraction, but the fear of being devalued by their peers (i.e. other women), and the FOMO that results from obsessing over others' mates. Women may very well find a shorter man attractive, but they will hold out for taller man because the shorter man will decrease her social value among her female peers, and subject her to ridicule behind her back.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 18:40     Subject: Height
So, you have no physical preferences listed at all right OP?
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 18:13     Subject: Re:Height

A bit over one American man in 8 is 6' or taller.

Women who won't even look at a guy below 6' are eliminating the overwhelming majority of their options, with predictable results.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 16:58     Subject: Height
If you’re really actually 5’9”, you should add another inch or so to your profile so it says you’re 5’10”.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 16:57     Subject: Height
Anonymous wrote:5'9" = dating app 6'1", duh.


I’m a 5’11 woman and can confirm most of the men who told me they were 6’+ were always shorter than me. They would say I lied about my height which was pretty obnoxious. I didn’t have a height requirement while dating and got annoyed with my female friends who were short yet wanted someone 6’+. You’ll be fine though, so much easier for men to date in the DMV area.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 16:52     Subject: Height
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:5'9" = dating app 6'1", duh.


OP here. This is hilarious. I’m new to internet dating and assume people lie about their height and weight. Already met someone who used older pictures and she didn’t blink an eye when I said your pictures aren’t accurate. I finished a drink and left.

I’m not looking for someone my age. Mid-40’s. But several posters have made good points. Im using Tinder and there is no way to remove profiles of people who are of certain height. Only age. Might need to get out of Tinder.


Typo. I’m looking for someone in my age range.


Freudian slip, though? Maybe?
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 16:27     Subject: Height
I think Tinder may be the issue. Tinder is more of a hook up app, and maybe women want to just hook up with a tall man but are openminded when dating.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 16:11     Subject: Height
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:5'9" = dating app 6'1", duh.


OP here. This is hilarious. I’m new to internet dating and assume people lie about their height and weight. Already met someone who used older pictures and she didn’t blink an eye when I said your pictures aren’t accurate. I finished a drink and left.

I’m not looking for someone my age. Mid-40’s. But several posters have made good points. Im using Tinder and there is no way to remove profiles of people who are of certain height. Only age. Might need to get out of Tinder.


Typo. I’m looking for someone in my age range.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 16:11     Subject: Height
Anonymous wrote:5'9" = dating app 6'1", duh.


OP here. This is hilarious. I’m new to internet dating and assume people lie about their height and weight. Already met someone who used older pictures and she didn’t blink an eye when I said your pictures aren’t accurate. I finished a drink and left.

I’m not looking for someone my age. Mid-40’s. But several posters have made good points. Im using Tinder and there is no way to remove profiles of people who are of certain height. Only age. Might need to get out of Tinder.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 16:03     Subject: Height
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is what’s wrong with online dating, people who find love at college, work or in their social circle aren’t going by inches or pounds, they go with whoever looks compatible and attractive.


The women you find on OLD fall into 2 main categorizes. They’re either unattractive and don’t get asked out in person, or they are attractive but very picky so they go on OLD to cast a wider net, which is why you see so many with unrealistic expectations. The women who are both attractive and have realistic expectations were never on OLD to begin with because they get snapped up quickly. This is why OLD is a waste of time for most men.


This is a great breakdown.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 16:02     Subject: Height
5'9" = dating app 6'1", duh.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 15:46     Subject: Height
I am 5 feet 7 inches. I prefer 6 feet and taller. 5 feet 10 will do, but less than that, no thanks. I settled in life earlier and I am not doing it now. I am mid-40s. I have no reason to have to settle for anything less than what I want at this point.

People have preferences. Welcome to dating.

I don't care about money at all. I care about attraction (height matters) and kindness.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 15:41     Subject: Height
Anonymous wrote:This is what’s wrong with online dating, people who find love at college, work or in their social circle aren’t going by inches or pounds, they go with whoever looks compatible and attractive.


The women you find on OLD fall into 2 main categorizes. They’re either unattractive and don’t get asked out in person, or they are attractive but very picky so they go on OLD to cast a wider net, which is why you see so many with unrealistic expectations. The women who are both attractive and have realistic expectations were never on OLD to begin with because they get snapped up quickly. This is why OLD is a waste of time for most men.