Husband is Jewish so it’s pretty much all me. He actually loves the holiday, since it still feels new to him despite our long marriage, and it’s a joyful time even if by the end I’m completely exhausted. We do outsource the exterior lighting and he will help me set up the (super large, fake) tree.

I do everything, but I enjoy it all, so that's OK.

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Anonymous wrote:Curious, how is Christmas prep divided in your house?

I do 100% of the planning any fun holiday events, crafts for the kids, extra baking, holiday menus, the tree chopping and set up, gift/stocking buying, Christmas decorating, holiday cards, wrapping, and hauling down to the living room all the gifts. It is just so much. Am I the only one that does pretty much the entire holiday shebang without help from spouse? DH a is generally helpful in everyday life he just DGAF about Christmas- at all.

His approach is just fine, you know.

For him, absolutely. Christmas could come and go and he doesn't care at all. Which is fine. But we have three kids. I don't go crazy on the holidays, but even the minimal things are a lot of "extra" on top of everything else in daily life if there is no help

Christmas is only about observing the birth of Christ, our Lord. None of the other stuff is necessary.

He does the outside decorations, and just this year he has started managing presents for his side of the family. I do everything else.

Anonymous wrote:I do everything, like the rest of our life. Big law partner widow.

Same. Physician widow.

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Anonymous wrote:I do everything, like the rest of our life. Big law partner widow.

Go reach into your Birkin for a $100 bill to use as a tissue.

Where did I say I have a problem with it?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Curious, how is Christmas prep divided in your house?

I do 100% of the planning any fun holiday events, crafts for the kids, extra baking, holiday menus, the tree chopping and set up, gift/stocking buying, Christmas decorating, holiday cards, wrapping, and hauling down to the living room all the gifts. It is just so much. Am I the only one that does pretty much the entire holiday shebang without help from spouse? DH a is generally helpful in everyday life he just DGAF about Christmas- at all.

His approach is just fine, you know.

For him, absolutely. Christmas could come and go and he doesn't care at all. Which is fine. But we have three kids. I don't go crazy on the holidays, but even the minimal things are a lot of "extra" on top of everything else in daily life if there is no help

Agree. If she went with the husband’s do-nothing approach the kids would feel like crap. So, no, he doesn’t get let off the hook.

We do basically everything together. We pick out the tree as a family, then both adults put on lights, ornaments and other decorations are put on by everybody. I (DH) put on the outside lights and do most of the scheduling of activities (buying Nutcracker tickets, planning a day to see lights or Santa), but crafts aren't my responsibility. We pick big presents together, but with a lot of discussion, and usually we pick presents for our own parents. I don't do any wrapping of presents, though.

Christmas meals is a mix. I do eggs, she does cinnamon rolls, I do the roast, she does mashed potatoes. It's basically all 50/50, with each person doing the stuff they like/are good at.

He made a spreadsheet to determine how much we had spent on each kid and made a trip to the store to even out discrepancies. He brainstormed gift ideas, hung a few lights and a wreath, and we set up the Christmas tree together.

I didn’t do much more. I got all the original presents (I chose most of them), I wrapped all the presents, decorated the tree, and baked one type of cookies. Usually I decorate inside, do homemade gingerbread houses, bake for the neighbors, choose and wrap presents for his friends and family, etc. But this year I just didn’t have it in me.

Anonymous wrote:I do everything, like the rest of our life. Big law partner widow.

Go reach into your Birkin for a $100 bill to use as a tissue.

Anonymous wrote:It depends on thepe. My DH is a Christmas fool and would decorate every blade of grass. I am happy with a small cerematic tree.

Your dh sounds wonderful to me.

It depends on thepe. My DH is a Christmas fool and would decorate every blade of grass. I am happy with a small cerematic tree.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Curious, how is Christmas prep divided in your house?

I do 100% of the planning any fun holiday events, crafts for the kids, extra baking, holiday menus, the tree chopping and set up, gift/stocking buying, Christmas decorating, holiday cards, wrapping, and hauling down to the living room all the gifts. It is just so much. Am I the only one that does pretty much the entire holiday shebang without help from spouse? DH a is generally helpful in everyday life he just DGAF about Christmas- at all.

His approach is just fine, you know.

For him, absolutely. Christmas could come and go and he doesn't care at all. Which is fine. But we have three kids. I don't go crazy on the holidays, but even the minimal things are a lot of "extra" on top of everything else in daily life if there is no help

My dh does a ton. I know I’m lucky. We are pretty much 50/50 when it comes to holiday stuff.

I do everything, like the rest of our life. Big law partner widow.