Anonymous
12/23/2021 02:59
Subject: Re:Thank you DCUM
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Two older people living alone eat a lot less than a young family of six. That's not 'food issues', its math.
Yes, and no to it being math.
My ILs, who I’ve known for 20ish years, now will share half or less of a chicken breast, where I would previously make them each a fully one. Their concept of “a serving” has certainly changed, and I know it’s hard for them to “get” that my 45 lb 5 year old will latest them at every turn.
It’s not judgement, it’s information. Knowing that these are normal changes helps people feel empathetic about it. That’s OPs point. It’s easy to go and feel like they’re trying to starve you out, but that’s not the case.
What does this mean?
Anonymous
12/23/2021 02:18
Subject: Thank you DCUM
Anonymous wrote:There were hundreds of posts about this from people in the “how you survive a no food house” from right before thanksgiving. Where are you shaming trolls coming from? This is a phenomenon from people in the next up generation who have lost perspective on the calorie needs of young people and are very controlling about their fridges, who gets to put food in them, how many meals are served a day, how much food those meals have, no snacking allowed, etc.
Had I not experienced this myself, I likely wouldn’t have believed it either. But it came to a head when my ILs bought one package of chicken (so 1 breast, 2 wings, 2 thighs, 2 legs) for 6 adults and 5 children, including my then very pregnant SIL. They also had one package of rolls (8) because the children can split them (still can’t figure the math on that one), and one can of green beans. It is not a financial issue. They were honestly stunned that the children were crying about being hungry after part of a roll, part of a piece of chicken, and 3 green beans each. But in addition to being stunned they were VERY upset when we loaded everyone up to go get take out.
That’s because it’s a weird old person control issue and it didn’t work.
Cheers, OP! Glad you and your family won’t be having another Oliver Twist family Christmas.
Anonymous
12/23/2021 02:12
Subject: Thank you DCUM
I love the a annual food post. The Thanksgiving basket was my favorite.
Anonymous
12/21/2021 22:11
Subject: Thank you DCUM
Op, you made a perfectly nice post, which is why the pps are testing it apart. Don't beat yourself up.
Anonymous
12/21/2021 21:49
Subject: Thank you DCUM
I'm just now realizing that the vast majority of posters on DCUM must be old.
Anonymous
12/21/2021 20:56
Subject: Re:Thank you DCUM
OP here- sorry my lingo wasn’t PC. And I wasn’t judging- I was empowered with information that this is a very common issue. Metabolisms slow as we age, so it makes sense. I also think my in laws would benefit from eating more, and my mil was told she needs to gain wait, so instead of catering to them I am taking charge. PP who said they had to split one can of green beans- that is awful and a takeout showdown is what I was trying to avoid.
It’s probably healthier for them anyways to eat more. And we cook good food at home, no junk except all natural ice cream for dessert during vacation.
It’s probably healthier for them anyways to eat more. And we cook good food at home, no junk except all natural ice cream for dessert during vacation.
Anonymous
12/21/2021 20:51
Subject: Thank you DCUM
Anonymous wrote:I eat so much less than I use to (old person here ..haha) BUT it's because I've finally learned what it takes to manage my weight and that's just in order to keep a-little overweight and not more. Don't judge! you don't have our (older) metabolism.
No one is judging eating less as you age. We are perturbed by the older adults who insist everyone needs to eat the way they eat down to the times and amounts and if you need more because you’re a 15 year old boy in a growth spurt, you just can’t have it because 2 meals a day of reduced portions is perfect for everyone!
Anonymous
12/21/2021 20:47
Subject: Thank you DCUM
senior moment ~ I use to eat so much more than I use to ...
Anonymous
12/21/2021 20:46
Subject: Thank you DCUM
I eat so much less than I use to (old person here ..haha) BUT it's because I've finally learned what it takes to manage my weight and that's just in order to keep a-little overweight and not more. Don't judge! you don't have our (older) metabolism.