After reading all your helpful replies, I’ve decided not to get that tufted couch, thank you so much to those who shared their experience! - OP

I have a tufted Room and Board that’s 11 years old, three kids. We don’t eat anywhere but the dining room so crumbs aren’t an issue, but I would never ever get another button butt couch again. After the cushions begin to smoosh down with regular use, every time you try to get comfortable, there’s a button under your butt. The buttons are all still on and not tearing or anything, but I hate them.