Anonymous
Post 12/14/2021 10:31     Subject: Re:Son having a hard time deferred everywhere so far
Anonymous wrote:I was in your exact same shoes this time last year. My son was deferred by almost every school, with the exception of one straight-up rejection, that he applied EA to. I think he applied to 8 in that round. Two of the deferrals were what he--and his college counselor--considered safeties. He added 4 additional applications to the 6 he was already planning for RD, by January 1. In the end, he applied to about 18 schools. Rejected by 2, waitlisted at 2 (both of which are ranked well below schools he did get into), and accepted into all the rest. While we had a lot of stress around this time, by Christmas, he just convinced himself that something would work out and just moved forward. It's hard to believe, but it does work out. I would pick a true rolling decision safety and get one acceptance under his belt in January or so, if he can. Good luck!

This. The volume of applications has surged, but because each kid (on average) is applying to more schools than before, not because there are more kids applying. So, in the musical chairs game, the number of chairs hasn't changed and the number of butts hasn't changed, there's just a lot more confusion before the music stops (which happens to be where we are right now). I'd advise getting an application or two out to quick rolling decision schools that have clear, modest admission standards and that would be fun to attend (e.g., Arizona, ASU, Kansas, Iowa, Iowa State) to serve as a pressure-release, but then just try to relax and let the process play out: Things almost certainly will end better than they look right now!
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2021 10:19     Subject: Son having a hard time deferred everywhere so far
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Where are the idiots telling people to apply to less than 10?


Some private schools only allow 10 applications

Don’t attend those private schools then. They’re out of touch. College application landscapes have changed a lot.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2021 10:14     Subject: Son having a hard time deferred everywhere so far
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Applied to 10 schools, well within range for all but 2. Received 5 deferrals so far. Very discouraged. Trying to help him focus on next steps in deferral process. FWIW the schools he applied to are seeing insane application volume increase. For example, Auburn, where EA admits used to be around 75 percent and were 24 percent this year.


I thought we covered this last year. People need to be applying to MORE SAFETIES. Period. I am not trying to be harsh, it is what it is, unfortunately.


but what’s a safety is changing month to month! the climate is changing fast.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2021 10:13     Subject: Re:Son having a hard time deferred everywhere so far
Anonymous wrote:I was in your exact same shoes this time last year. My son was deferred by almost every school, with the exception of one straight-up rejection, that he applied EA to. I think he applied to 8 in that round. Two of the deferrals were what he--and his college counselor--considered safeties. He added 4 additional applications to the 6 he was already planning for RD, by January 1. In the end, he applied to about 18 schools. Rejected by 2, waitlisted at 2 (both of which are ranked well below schools he did get into), and accepted into all the rest. While we had a lot of stress around this time, by Christmas, he just convinced himself that something would work out and just moved forward. It's hard to believe, but it does work out. I would pick a true rolling decision safety and get one acceptance under his belt in January or so, if he can. Good luck!


thanks for this!
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2021 10:06     Subject: Son having a hard time deferred everywhere so far
There is no such thing as a safety anymore. Applied to 5 safety type schools and deferred at 3 into 2
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2021 10:05     Subject: Son having a hard time deferred everywhere so far
Anonymous wrote:Where are the idiots telling people to apply to less than 10?


Some private schools only allow 10 applications
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2021 10:03     Subject: Son having a hard time deferred everywhere so far
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Applied to 10 schools, well within range for all but 2. Received 5 deferrals so far. Very discouraged. Trying to help him focus on next steps in deferral process. FWIW the schools he applied to are seeing insane application volume increase. For example, Auburn, where EA admits used to be around 75 percent and were 24 percent this year.


I thought we covered this last year. People need to be applying to MORE SAFETIES. Period. I am not trying to be harsh, it is what it is, unfortunately.


Well, as OP pointed out, many schools that were safeties last year aren’t this year.



+1. And in our family we’re not willing to pay for/ go to just any “safety “ school just to have an acceptance. I would rather DC go to a cheap community school for a year and try again next year as opposed to going to an expensive safety that is really of no interest


I think this is a totally reasonable take. I'd much rather DC got to community college for two years and then transfer than to end up at UVA Wise because that's the safety that took them.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2021 10:02     Subject: Son having a hard time deferred everywhere so far
Where are the idiots telling people to apply to less than 10?
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2021 09:58     Subject: Son having a hard time deferred everywhere so far
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Applied to 10 schools, well within range for all but 2. Received 5 deferrals so far. Very discouraged. Trying to help him focus on next steps in deferral process. FWIW the schools he applied to are seeing insane application volume increase. For example, Auburn, where EA admits used to be around 75 percent and were 24 percent this year.


I thought we covered this last year. People need to be applying to MORE SAFETIES. Period. I am not trying to be harsh, it is what it is, unfortunately.


Well, as OP pointed out, many schools that were safeties last year aren’t this year.



+1. And in our family we’re not willing to pay for/ go to just any “safety “ school just to have an acceptance. I would rather DC go to a cheap community school for a year and try again next year as opposed to going to an expensive safety that is really of no interest
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2021 09:34     Subject: Son having a hard time deferred everywhere so far
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Applied to 10 schools, well within range for all but 2. Received 5 deferrals so far. Very discouraged. Trying to help him focus on next steps in deferral process. FWIW the schools he applied to are seeing insane application volume increase. For example, Auburn, where EA admits used to be around 75 percent and were 24 percent this year.


I thought we covered this last year. People need to be applying to MORE SAFETIES. Period. I am not trying to be harsh, it is what it is, unfortunately.


Well, as OP pointed out, many schools that were safeties last year aren’t this year.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2021 08:17     Subject: Re:Son having a hard time deferred everywhere so far
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was in your exact same shoes this time last year. My son was deferred by almost every school, with the exception of one straight-up rejection, that he applied EA to. I think he applied to 8 in that round. Two of the deferrals were what he--and his college counselor--considered safeties. He added 4 additional applications to the 6 he was already planning for RD, by January 1. In the end, he applied to about 18 schools. Rejected by 2, waitlisted at 2 (both of which are ranked well below schools he did get into), and accepted into all the rest. While we had a lot of stress around this time, by Christmas, he just convinced himself that something would work out and just moved forward. It's hard to believe, but it does work out. I would pick a true rolling decision safety and get one acceptance under his belt in January or so, if he can. Good luck!


Thank you!


Same here, but 18 is too many. It works out, when you aim where you should be aiming.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2021 08:16     Subject: Son having a hard time deferred everywhere so far
Anonymous wrote:Applied to 10 schools, well within range for all but 2. Received 5 deferrals so far. Very discouraged. Trying to help him focus on next steps in deferral process. FWIW the schools he applied to are seeing insane application volume increase. For example, Auburn, where EA admits used to be around 75 percent and were 24 percent this year.


I thought we covered this last year. People need to be applying to MORE SAFETIES. Period. I am not trying to be harsh, it is what it is, unfortunately.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2021 08:15     Subject: Son having a hard time deferred everywhere so far
Only 10?
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2021 08:15     Subject: Son having a hard time deferred everywhere so far
Anonymous wrote:Add 5 schools to the list


And aim lower.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2021 08:14     Subject: Re:Son having a hard time deferred everywhere so far
Anonymous wrote:I was in your exact same shoes this time last year. My son was deferred by almost every school, with the exception of one straight-up rejection, that he applied EA to. I think he applied to 8 in that round. Two of the deferrals were what he--and his college counselor--considered safeties. He added 4 additional applications to the 6 he was already planning for RD, by January 1. In the end, he applied to about 18 schools. Rejected by 2, waitlisted at 2 (both of which are ranked well below schools he did get into), and accepted into all the rest. While we had a lot of stress around this time, by Christmas, he just convinced himself that something would work out and just moved forward. It's hard to believe, but it does work out. I would pick a true rolling decision safety and get one acceptance under his belt in January or so, if he can. Good luck!


Thank you!