Anonymous
12/14/2021 14:58
Subject: Re:Should A Newborn Be On-Demand Or On A Schedule?
Anonymous wrote:I did E-A-S as the “schedule” and capped daytime naps in the beginning because the ped said to. But otherwise on demand (so I guess fed always after waking but also for any hunger cues during cluster feeding? It’s kind of a blur. Certainly I always fed the baby if she seemed hungry at all. And I started the nap process based on wake window length but that always came with sleepy cues too.
E-A-S and wake windows really helped me to just have a handle on the day but I wouldn’t call it a “schedule” and it was still responsive to the baby. It just helped me to have a sort of plan. It worked great except for the witching hour, but I guess that was also on our “schedule” and I would just plunk down on the couch with snacks and TV on mute.
If this is like “eat, play, sleep” then we did the same thing.
Anonymous
12/14/2021 14:38
Subject: Re:Should A Newborn Be On-Demand Or On A Schedule?
I did E-A-S as the “schedule” and capped daytime naps in the beginning because the ped said to. But otherwise on demand (so I guess fed always after waking but also for any hunger cues during cluster feeding? It’s kind of a blur. Certainly I always fed the baby if she seemed hungry at all. And I started the nap process based on wake window length but that always came with sleepy cues too.
E-A-S and wake windows really helped me to just have a handle on the day but I wouldn’t call it a “schedule” and it was still responsive to the baby. It just helped me to have a sort of plan. It worked great except for the witching hour, but I guess that was also on our “schedule” and I would just plunk down on the couch with snacks and TV on mute.
E-A-S and wake windows really helped me to just have a handle on the day but I wouldn’t call it a “schedule” and it was still responsive to the baby. It just helped me to have a sort of plan. It worked great except for the witching hour, but I guess that was also on our “schedule” and I would just plunk down on the couch with snacks and TV on mute.
Anonymous
12/14/2021 14:32
Subject: Should A Newborn Be On-Demand Or On A Schedule?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is 4 weeks old.
I have a 5 week old who has also gained 2 lbs by 4 weeks. I followed her lead the first few weeks but by 4 weeks we were feeding every 3 hours during the day and still are. I think it has helped her nap better and maybe sleep longer stretches night. My first was a slacker and getting him to a schedule later on was a nightmare, so I started earlier this time.
Lol, I meant my first was a snacker, not a slacker 😂
Anonymous
12/14/2021 14:32
Subject: Should A Newborn Be On-Demand Or On A Schedule?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is 4 weeks old.
I have a 5 week old who has also gained 2 lbs by 4 weeks. I followed her lead the first few weeks but by 4 weeks we were feeding every 3 hours during the day and still are. I think it has helped her nap better and maybe sleep longer stretches night. My first was a slacker and getting him to a schedule later on was a nightmare, so I started earlier this time.
Anonymous
12/14/2021 10:19
Subject: Should A Newborn Be On-Demand Or On A Schedule?
On demand with encouragement toward a schedule by 12 weeks. Then I’d do schedule from there on out. We’ve been on a schedule since then and it’s been wonderful.
Anonymous
12/14/2021 07:56
Subject: Should A Newborn Be On-Demand Or On A Schedule?
On demand. Go with the flow and he will be healthy.
Anonymous
12/14/2021 06:31
Subject: Re:Should A Newborn Be On-Demand Or On A Schedule?
Anonymous wrote:Personal preference. If on demand is working for you, keep doing and tell people you’re not in the market for advice. Personally, I’m a schedule person for the reasons listed - my babies have been on schedules since they were 2 weeks old.
There’s no “should” here. What makes sense for you and how you want to parent?
+1 but from an on demand parent. Whatever works well for you and your family.
Anonymous
12/14/2021 06:23
Subject: Re:Should A Newborn Be On-Demand Or On A Schedule?
To me on demand meant but within those other time constraints….meaning yes wake him from napping after 2 hours during the day, then feed “on demand” while awake. I for sure would wake during the day, but not at night unless told otherwise by the dr.
Anonymous
12/14/2021 00:48
Subject: Should A Newborn Be On-Demand Or On A Schedule?
On demand, but encourage routines. Have naps in a consistent place and with a consistent routine. I always fed on demand but tried to offer naps and bedtime on a schedule. So sometimes there would be an extra or early feeding, but I followed a consistent nap time. By offering a nap in our case it was nursing or a bottle in a dim room, followed by rocking to sleep. My kids nearly always napped when bedtime cues were given, taking me up on the offer, and then feedings eventually fell in a predictable pattern around naps. So while feedings were always on demand eventually they followed a reasonable schedule. IMO the nap offering is a kinder way to get into a routine than attempting to schedule feedings.
Anonymous
12/14/2021 00:20
Subject: Should A Newborn Be On-Demand Or On A Schedule?
Anonymous wrote:On demand. They are wll over the place. I would not let them sleep for linger than 3 hrs at a time during tbe day though. Has he regained his birth weight?
OP here. He is 4 weeks old and has already gained 2lbs.
Anonymous
12/14/2021 00:19
Subject: Should A Newborn Be On-Demand Or On A Schedule?
OP here. He is 4 weeks old.
Anonymous
12/13/2021 23:35
Subject: Re:Should A Newborn Be On-Demand Or On A Schedule?
Anonymous wrote:Schedule. Everyone will be happier.
Been there, done that.
Everyone but the baby. Bad mother.
Anonymous
12/13/2021 23:25
Subject: Should A Newborn Be On-Demand Or On A Schedule?
Anonymous wrote:It’s a little creepy how you say he’s a good baby. Ummm all newborns are good babies
There is nothing creepy about it. Many people use “ good” as to say their baby doesn’t cry much and sleeps and eats well. No baby is good or bad, but there isn’t a nothing wrong with OP saying what she said. Stop being dramatic.
Anonymous
12/13/2021 23:03
Subject: Should A Newborn Be On-Demand Or On A Schedule?
It’s a little creepy how you say he’s a good baby. Ummm all newborns are good babies
jsmith123
12/13/2021 22:42
Subject: Re:Should A Newborn Be On-Demand Or On A Schedule?
For newborns, I would follow their lead 100%
In my (limited) experience, both my children scheduled themselves.
They went from cluster feeding from 7 to 10 to suddenly falling asleep for the night at 7 basically overnight at around 3 months. I didn't do anything to make that happen. They were just ready for it.
By 6 months, they were taking 3 fairly regular naps a day.
That said, I did find general routines to be helpful. So things like wake, feed, play, sleep that repeated throughout the day.
In my (limited) experience, both my children scheduled themselves.
They went from cluster feeding from 7 to 10 to suddenly falling asleep for the night at 7 basically overnight at around 3 months. I didn't do anything to make that happen. They were just ready for it.
By 6 months, they were taking 3 fairly regular naps a day.
That said, I did find general routines to be helpful. So things like wake, feed, play, sleep that repeated throughout the day.