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Anonymous wrote:How does one chest before marriage?

That's my question. There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned. I guess, everyone should be on the same page about that while dating, so since I wasn't always open about that, I guess I did "cheat" on boyfriends, including my now husband, before getting engaged. Once engaged, i was committed. Have been faithfully married for 23 years.

Lying about being faithful to a partner, even if not married or engaged, removes consent and is ethically wrong. I would not continue to date someone who were sleeping with others, as this puts my health at risk from STDs. If they failed to disclose to me that they were sleeping with others, I would be furious, as I could not make an informed decision about dating and sleeping with them. It also speaks to a much larger issue of, if they are willing to mislead me about being monogamous, they are very likely willing to mislead me on other big issues.

Exactly. The pp are justifying their unethical dirty behavior

You people are so pious and judgemental. 20-somethings do not have fully developed brains, have raging hormones, and very little sense about what they want from life or from a partner for life. I do not judge young people for making mistakes and cheating on a boyfriend or girlfriend does not make one "terrible," "trashy," or "unethical." Just human. Very big difference between dating in your 20s and then being committed in marriage. I'd rather have a partner who married once they knew what they wanted, even if they made mistakes in their youth, than the prude, pious, jealous, judgemental jerks here. Plus, those of you judging probably just weren't good-looking enough to have so many choices in your 20s.

It's interesting isn't it? Cheaters are extremely dilisional, they think everyobe is susceptible to their lies and manipulation.
Heh still trying to justify your nastiness huh? A woman's brain fully develops at 21 and a man's at 24. Either way if raised with morals they know the difference between right and wrong or they'd be committing felonies. If they are moral they wouldn't be cheaters.

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There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned.

Well, you’re a terrible person. I pity your husband or wife.

Why would you pity a man who married a smart, educated, attractive wife who is loyal, loves sex, and gave him two beautiful children, and so far, 23 years of committed marriage? That's so weird. Trust me. He is one happy man.

Why would you pity a man who married a smart, educated, attractive wife who is loyal, loves sex, and gave him two beautiful children, and so far, 23 years of committed marriage? That's so weird. Trust me. He is one happy man.

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Anonymous wrote:

There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned.

Well, you’re a terrible person. I pity your husband or wife.

Why would you pity a man who married a smart, educated, attractive wife who is loyal, loves sex, and gave him two beautiful children, and so far, 23 years of committed marriage? That's so weird. Trust me. He is one happy man.

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Anonymous wrote:How does one chest before marriage?

That's my question. There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned. I guess, everyone should be on the same page about that while dating, so since I wasn't always open about that, I guess I did "cheat" on boyfriends, including my now husband, before getting engaged. Once engaged, i was committed. Have been faithfully married for 23 years.

Lying about being faithful to a partner, even if not married or engaged, removes consent and is ethically wrong. I would not continue to date someone who were sleeping with others, as this puts my health at risk from STDs. If they failed to disclose to me that they were sleeping with others, I would be furious, as I could not make an informed decision about dating and sleeping with them. It also speaks to a much larger issue of, if they are willing to mislead me about being monogamous, they are very likely willing to mislead me on other big issues.

Exactly. The pp are justifying their unethical dirty behavior

You people are so pious and judgemental. 20-somethings do not have fully developed brains, have raging hormones, and very little sense about what they want from life or from a partner for life. I do not judge young people for making mistakes and cheating on a boyfriend or girlfriend does not make one "terrible," "trashy," or "unethical." Just human. Very big difference between dating in your 20s and then being committed in marriage. I'd rather have a partner who married once they knew what they wanted, even if they made mistakes in their youth, than the prude, pious, jealous, judgemental jerks here. Plus, those of you judging probably just weren't good-looking enough to have so many choices in your 20s.

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There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned.

Well, you’re a terrible person. I pity your husband or wife.

Anonymous wrote:I did. 15 years in to a great marriage now.

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Anonymous wrote:How does one chest before marriage?

That's my question. There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned. I guess, everyone should be on the same page about that while dating, so since I wasn't always open about that, I guess I did "cheat" on boyfriends, including my now husband, before getting engaged. Once engaged, i was committed. Have been faithfully married for 23 years.

Lying about being faithful to a partner, even if not married or engaged, removes consent and is ethically wrong. I would not continue to date someone who were sleeping with others, as this puts my health at risk from STDs. If they failed to disclose to me that they were sleeping with others, I would be furious, as I could not make an informed decision about dating and sleeping with them. It also speaks to a much larger issue of, if they are willing to mislead me about being monogamous, they are very likely willing to mislead me on other big issues.

Exactly. The pp are justifying their unethical dirty behavior

Anonymous wrote:Not on DH, but on pretty much all boyfriends before him. I’ve been married faithfully for 22 years.

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Anonymous wrote:How does one chest before marriage?

That's my question. There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned. I guess, everyone should be on the same page about that while dating, so since I wasn't always open about that, I guess I did "cheat" on boyfriends, including my now husband, before getting engaged. Once engaged, i was committed. Have been faithfully married for 23 years.

Lying about being faithful to a partner, even if not married or engaged, removes consent and is ethically wrong. I would not continue to date someone who were sleeping with others, as this puts my health at risk from STDs. If they failed to disclose to me that they were sleeping with others, I would be furious, as I could not make an informed decision about dating and sleeping with them. It also speaks to a much larger issue of, if they are willing to mislead me about being monogamous, they are very likely willing to mislead me on other big issues.

Anonymous wrote:From what I can tell my wife did and hasn't since. But of course who knows, which is the same with people who didn't cheat before marriage. Trash People aren't good at monogamy

There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned.

Anonymous wrote:This happens. Once you get married, the opporutiies to meet people are fewer, as is the time if you're home all the time. Also, your libido goes down as you age so less desire to do so.

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Anonymous wrote:How does one chest before marriage?

That's my question. There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned. I guess, everyone should be on the same page about that while dating, so since I wasn't always open about that, I guess I did "cheat" on boyfriends, including my now husband, before getting engaged. Once engaged, i was committed. Have been faithfully married for 23 years.