Anonymous wrote:OP here.

The cancer patient is the one most gung-ho about the whole thing and also the host. They were in isolation for several rounds of gatherings, and wants everyone to come.

Other adults are in disagreement over the safety of the gathering.

Should we all get PCR tests two days before, or rapid tests the day of?

Only the host (not you) gets to determine if everyone will be tested. That’s not your decision. If you would feel more comfortable attending after getting tested, because you are nervous you or your child will be a vector, then PCR is most reliable, but you need to isolate after testing.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds small, which is great but the post chemo invitee is a little concerning. I'd personally either meet outside or, if indoors, test everyone. An at home test the night before or day. They're not perfect, but at least you'd be reducing the likelihood of spreading covid some.

+1. My concern is the person who finished cancer treatment.

Perhaps OP should ask the person who just finished cancer treatment what they are comfortable with. If they know what the kids are doing in the run-up and everyone's vaccine status, they're best positioned to decide what risks are worth it.

Even if said person IS ok with it, and in this case they are gung-ho, as OP said, I would still only feel comfortable going if I tested. I would not feel ok potentially giving an immune compromised person covid- even if they knew the risks and signed on.

Why are we calling the child "unboostered?" They had their two shots two months ago, and a booster is not yet indicated. If you had an under-5 who was not vaccine eligible, or some anti-vaxxers in the group, this could be a real concern. Families of little kids are shaking our heads at you! You don't know how good you've got it.

My 93 year old grandmother wants to see us for Christmas. I’m going to do a rapid test on us the morning of. I don’t usually do that but for my own anxiety I want to this time.

If everyone’s okay with it, I think the least they can do is curtail their outings/ensure they are very cautious about masking and extended proximity in the time prior. Testing before is a great idea too for peace of mind.

The maskless indoor kid would be my concern too. I wouldn’t be okay with that even if not seeing the group at Christmas!!

PCR test for the unboostered child who is doing indoor maskless activities, and rapid tests for everyone else.

Anonymous wrote:No, not indoors

Get a couple heat lamps or set a fire and get it indoors.

At the very least have everyone test in advance

I meant to say do it outdoors

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

The cancer patient is the one most gung-ho about the whole thing and also the host. They were in isolation for several rounds of gatherings, and wants everyone to come.

Other adults are in disagreement over the safety of the gathering.

Should we all get PCR tests two days before, or rapid tests the day of?

Just go. It will be deeply hurtful to the post-cancer person if you don't. You're all vaccinated. There's nothing more expected of you in order to get together with family.

Every time there's an opportunity for the cancer patient to celebrate with family, another variant or wave or something will pop up and it could be years before the poor guy/gal gets to see everyone again. Go.

I would go no problem. But you could do the at home tests the morning of the event. They tell you if you are contagious which is what you need to know.

I think the best thing is get everyone tested rightly before the gathering. The chemo patient wants this. It can be done safely. I'd make it happen.

Or, everyone gets a test the day before Christmas and then doesn't go anywhere until the Christmas gathering.

Anonymous wrote:Given that one is immune compromised I wouldn't go unless it was outdoors. I would hate it if my kid was the one that made them sick.
I would also test.

This. I would be concerned about the child who is unboostered and going to lots of indoor maskless activities right before Christmas.

Either that particular child and family need to stay at home and not come, or have it outdoors.

It depends what the recovering cancer patient wants. I’m not worried about myself in that situation but more about us possibly giving something to them.

OP, you are invited. They want you to come. That's why you are invited. They have made a decision about any risk to them. I assume you don't feel there is a risk to you/your kids.