Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a playground near my 2-year-old's daycare. I take her there for at least 20 mins after school, even if it's cold or getting dark. Gets the wiggles out.

Also, people are giving you sh*t, but I'm with you, OP. Weeknights are a tired time and I just want to rest; it's hard to deal with young kids who don't understand that, even if they've been in care elsewhere all day.

Also, anyone who truly works full time should understand that 10h a day is ... pretty standard. Imagine an average person who works 9 to 5 and has a commute both ways. That's 9 hours. Plus some wiggle room for any delays, traffic, urgent work stuff. That isn't a punishing BigLaw schedule -- that's a normal working adult schedule.

I love telework, but it's given people unrealistic expectations for what a full-time workday is.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a playground near my 2-year-old's daycare. I take her there for at least 20 mins after school, even if it's cold or getting dark. Gets the wiggles out.

Also, people are giving you sh*t, but I'm with you, OP. Weeknights are a tired time and I just want to rest; it's hard to deal with young kids who don't understand that, even if they've been in care elsewhere all day.

Also, anyone who truly works full time should understand that 10h a day is ... pretty standard. Imagine an average person who works 9 to 5 and has a commute both ways. That's 9 hours. Plus some wiggle room for any delays, traffic, urgent work stuff. That isn't a punishing BigLaw schedule -- that's a normal working adult schedule.

I love telework, but it's given people unrealistic expectations for what a full-time workday is.

How much energy does it really take to play with your kids? OP’s kids want to play a board game or in the play kitchen. You literally just sit there.

I’m curious what OP does during the kids screen time. If she’s on a screen too, that’s not resting, it’s highly stimulating. Playing with your kids can be relaxing, she doesn’t have to run around.

Playing with a 6-year-old doesn't take energy. As the mom of the 2-year-old, I'm guessing that's the draining part of it. Love my child; hate this age.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is really, really sad. Structure your life better so a) your kids aren’t in daycare 10 hours a day, and b) you have energy and desire to spend time with them. If that means downsizing and one or both of you take a more flexible job, so be it. Btw this is coming from a FT working mom. If I had your life I would quit.

Even in this economy ("Great Resignation," etc) most people do not have the clout to just..."take a more flexible job" and make a new life. Especially in a high cost of living area.

Anonymous wrote:I feel awesome when kids want me to play with them but I have no energy so I give them screentime instead.

Anonymous wrote:They are 2 and 6, and both kids spend like 10 hours in daycare/school. After dinner is like 7pm-7:30pm, and they want me to play with them for like an hour. I am super exhausted, so does DH. I feel awesome when kids want me to play with them but I have no energy so I give them screentime instead. I don't even understand why they are still so hyper after school. 6 year old wants me to play board game/card game and 2 year old wants me to dance/sing with her or play toy kitchen after school.

I am curious if do you play with kids after work on weekday?

Anonymous wrote:This is really, really sad. Structure your life better so a) your kids aren’t in daycare 10 hours a day, and b) you have energy and desire to spend time with them. If that means downsizing and one or both of you take a more flexible job, so be it. Btw this is coming from a FT working mom. If I had your life I would quit.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a playground near my 2-year-old's daycare. I take her there for at least 20 mins after school, even if it's cold or getting dark. Gets the wiggles out.

Also, people are giving you sh*t, but I'm with you, OP. Weeknights are a tired time and I just want to rest; it's hard to deal with young kids who don't understand that, even if they've been in care elsewhere all day.

Also, anyone who truly works full time should understand that 10h a day is ... pretty standard. Imagine an average person who works 9 to 5 and has a commute both ways. That's 9 hours. Plus some wiggle room for any delays, traffic, urgent work stuff. That isn't a punishing BigLaw schedule -- that's a normal working adult schedule.

I love telework, but it's given people unrealistic expectations for what a full-time workday is.

How much energy does it really take to play with your kids? OP’s kids want to play a board game or in the play kitchen. You literally just sit there.

I’m curious what OP does during the kids screen time. If she’s on a screen too, that’s not resting, it’s highly stimulating. Playing with your kids can be relaxing, she doesn’t have to run around.

Playing with a 6-year-old doesn't take energy. As the mom of the 2-year-old, I'm guessing that's the draining part of it. Love my child; hate this age.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a playground near my 2-year-old's daycare. I take her there for at least 20 mins after school, even if it's cold or getting dark. Gets the wiggles out.

Also, people are giving you sh*t, but I'm with you, OP. Weeknights are a tired time and I just want to rest; it's hard to deal with young kids who don't understand that, even if they've been in care elsewhere all day.

Also, anyone who truly works full time should understand that 10h a day is ... pretty standard. Imagine an average person who works 9 to 5 and has a commute both ways. That's 9 hours. Plus some wiggle room for any delays, traffic, urgent work stuff. That isn't a punishing BigLaw schedule -- that's a normal working adult schedule.

I love telework, but it's given people unrealistic expectations for what a full-time workday is.

How much energy does it really take to play with your kids? OP’s kids want to play a board game or in the play kitchen. You literally just sit there.

I’m curious what OP does during the kids screen time. If she’s on a screen too, that’s not resting, it’s highly stimulating. Playing with your kids can be relaxing, she doesn’t have to run around.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a playground near my 2-year-old's daycare. I take her there for at least 20 mins after school, even if it's cold or getting dark. Gets the wiggles out.

Also, people are giving you sh*t, but I'm with you, OP. Weeknights are a tired time and I just want to rest; it's hard to deal with young kids who don't understand that, even if they've been in care elsewhere all day.

Also, anyone who truly works full time should understand that 10h a day is ... pretty standard. Imagine an average person who works 9 to 5 and has a commute both ways. That's 9 hours. Plus some wiggle room for any delays, traffic, urgent work stuff. That isn't a punishing BigLaw schedule -- that's a normal working adult schedule.

I love telework, but it's given people unrealistic expectations for what a full-time workday is.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a playground near my 2-year-old's daycare. I take her there for at least 20 mins after school, even if it's cold or getting dark. Gets the wiggles out.

Also, people are giving you sh*t, but I'm with you, OP. Weeknights are a tired time and I just want to rest; it's hard to deal with young kids who don't understand that, even if they've been in care elsewhere all day.

Also, anyone who truly works full time should understand that 10h a day is ... pretty standard. Imagine an average person who works 9 to 5 and has a commute both ways. That's 9 hours. Plus some wiggle room for any delays, traffic, urgent work stuff. That isn't a punishing BigLaw schedule -- that's a normal working adult schedule.

I love telework, but it's given people unrealistic expectations for what a full-time workday is.