Anonymous
12/10/2021 14:30
Subject: "Family Forum" Bingo
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Posters who use the term “gaslight” for anything but complete agreement with what they are thinking/feeling, etc.
"gaslight" "boundary" "narcissistic" and "passive aggressive" are FREQUENTLY misused in these threads.
YES!!! Yes, yes, yes, yes!!! And they frequently misused/misunderstood in real life as well.
+100!
Randomly diagnosing people like your mother or MIL in various ways even though you have zero qualifications or credentials to do so. You may suspect your parent has NPD, but you're not equipped to provide a definitive diagnosis.
This, but also just the complete misuse of what the word even means, regardless of formal diagnosis. Examples:
"My DH said that he does not want to go to the Outer Banks this year."
"He is gaslighting you!"
"My MIL told me that she really does not like the way I prepare my bacon and would prefer something else."
"She is so passive-aggressive!"
"My SIL told me that she thinks our kids should get together next weekend and I can't because I am a working mom."
"Your SIL is a narcissist!"
Anonymous
12/10/2021 14:26
Subject: "Family Forum" Bingo
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Posters who use the term “gaslight” for anything but complete agreement with what they are thinking/feeling, etc.
"gaslight" "boundary" "narcissistic" and "passive aggressive" are FREQUENTLY misused in these threads.
YES!!! Yes, yes, yes, yes!!! And they frequently misused/misunderstood in real life as well.
+100!
Randomly diagnosing people like your mother or MIL in various ways even though you have zero qualifications or credentials to do so. You may suspect your parent has NPD, but you're not equipped to provide a definitive diagnosis.
Anonymous
12/10/2021 10:59
Subject: "Family Forum" Bingo
Anonymous wrote:"No is a complete sentence" people who seem to have a really hard time understanding how actual humans engage with one another.
This is a good one!
I mean, sure the phrase is fine as shorthand for not going overboard to prolong an exchange or delay resolving an issue. But some seem to really advise that level of curt cold communication very literally.
Anonymous
12/10/2021 10:50
Subject: "Family Forum" Bingo
"No is a complete sentence" people who seem to have a really hard time understanding how actual humans engage with one another.
Anonymous
12/10/2021 10:07
Subject: Re:"Family Forum" Bingo
I get tired of the words "exhausting" and "exhausted". Not just here, but generally, but "exhausting" definitely belongs on the bingo card.
(I'd like to promote the word "weary" and its different forms).
How about BIL who has been divorced and nobody likes the new wife (new wife is a sex worker, new wife takes over the parental home all the brothers inherited, etc). Variation is the new SO who is NOT ACTUALLY A SPOUSE and therefore does not belong at the family events. (This is always a new gf, not a new bf)
(I'd like to promote the word "weary" and its different forms).
How about BIL who has been divorced and nobody likes the new wife (new wife is a sex worker, new wife takes over the parental home all the brothers inherited, etc). Variation is the new SO who is NOT ACTUALLY A SPOUSE and therefore does not belong at the family events. (This is always a new gf, not a new bf)
Anonymous
12/10/2021 09:44
Subject: "Family Forum" Bingo
It's a husband problem
Anonymous
12/10/2021 01:50
Subject: "Family Forum" Bingo
Just do what mil wants, she's going to die soon.
Anonymous
12/10/2021 01:50
Subject: "Family Forum" Bingo
Why don't I get invited to go on your vacation/honeymoon?
Anonymous
12/09/2021 21:31
Subject: "Family Forum" Bingo
Hosts who hate hosting.
Anonymous
12/09/2021 21:03
Subject: "Family Forum" Bingo
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Posters who use the term “gaslight” for anything but complete agreement with what they are thinking/feeling, etc.
"gaslight" "boundary" "narcissistic" and "passive aggressive" are FREQUENTLY misused in these threads.
YES!!! Yes, yes, yes, yes!!! And they frequently misused/misunderstood in real life as well.
Anonymous
12/09/2021 19:16
Subject: "Family Forum" Bingo
Anonymous wrote:The posters who cannot believe a family would be intentionally cruel or hurtful so their advice is to simply ignore.
They don't understand the other advice given such as letting the husband handle it or phrases such as 'that doesn't work for us' because they don't have a family with these issues or their family has minor issues.
If you can't relate or you think ignoring or a simple discussion fixes everything, you don't understand. So leave that thread, telling someone they are immature for not wanting to be criticised by family is not helpful.
If you don’t understand how a thread works it’s okay to not post
Anonymous
12/09/2021 19:00
Subject: "Family Forum" Bingo
The posters who cannot believe a family would be intentionally cruel or hurtful so their advice is to simply ignore.
They don't understand the other advice given such as letting the husband handle it or phrases such as 'that doesn't work for us' because they don't have a family with these issues or their family has minor issues.
If you can't relate or you think ignoring or a simple discussion fixes everything, you don't understand. So leave that thread, telling someone they are immature for not wanting to be criticised by family is not helpful.
They don't understand the other advice given such as letting the husband handle it or phrases such as 'that doesn't work for us' because they don't have a family with these issues or their family has minor issues.
If you can't relate or you think ignoring or a simple discussion fixes everything, you don't understand. So leave that thread, telling someone they are immature for not wanting to be criticised by family is not helpful.
Anonymous
12/09/2021 18:34
Subject: "Family Forum" Bingo
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Posters who use the term “gaslight” for anything but complete agreement with what they are thinking/feeling, etc.
"gaslight" "boundary" "narcissistic" and "passive aggressive" are FREQUENTLY misused in these threads.
Came here to post about "narcissistic" specifically. Based on the posts in this forum I'd guess about 60% of boomer parents are narcissists.
+1 Narcissist! Yes, so true! DC is a hotbed of children of narcisstic parents.
Anonymous
12/09/2021 18:33
Subject: "Family Forum" Bingo
"Gray rock". It's the answer to anything.
Anonymous
12/09/2021 18:18
Subject: "Family Forum" Bingo
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Posters who use the term “gaslight” for anything but complete agreement with what they are thinking/feeling, etc.
"gaslight" "boundary" "narcissistic" and "passive aggressive" are FREQUENTLY misused in these threads.
Came here to post about "narcissistic" specifically. Based on the posts in this forum I'd guess about 60% of boomer parents are narcissists.