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Anonymous wrote:We don't know what happened, so honestly you could be right or you could be spoiled snowflake.

What a profound observation. Thanks for this valuable contribution.

You are welcome, snowflake.

You're right one of us is a snowflake. But it's the one in your mirror.

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Anonymous wrote:We don't know what happened, so honestly you could be right or you could be spoiled snowflake.

What a profound observation. Thanks for this valuable contribution.

You are welcome, snowflake.

Anonymous wrote:Look up Dr. Ramani on YouTube. These are flying monkeys.

I’d block and ignore, get a new phone number if you have to.

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Anonymous wrote:We don't know what happened, so honestly you could be right or you could be spoiled snowflake.

What a profound observation. Thanks for this valuable contribution.

You are welcome, snowflake.

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Anonymous wrote:We don't know what happened, so honestly you could be right or you could be spoiled snowflake.

What a profound observation. Thanks for this valuable contribution.

You are welcome, snowflake.

Anonymous wrote:Flying Monkeys-definitely.

You remain calm and don't respond. Good that you are blocking. They are not safe people.

This is what dysfunctional families do. they unite around a scapegoat. Don't be surprised if once you successfully disengage and don't take the bait for months or years, they stat fighting with eachother and eventually cutting off from eachother. Healthy people do not bond over hatred and anger. Healthy people have boundaries and will not emotionally abuse someone for taking a break from a family member.

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Anonymous wrote:Abuse is so often a family disease, and so often a generational one.

The problem is that it’s very likely all these relationships are all dysfunctional with enabler and codependents and all kinds of sticky things.

You now know these peoples intentions towards you are not good, which is a hurtful, but at least honest place to be. Be empowered by that and choose to surround yourself with people that will love you and have your back instead.

This. Eventually they will likely turn on eachother, for now they get along having a common enemy-you. In my husband's family we took a break from MILs abuse and became the scapegoats. Years later they are all estranged from eachother and everyone who was married except us is divorced. Some people never realize the dysfunction and so they never get help to break patterns.

Anonymous wrote:Abuse is so often a family disease, and so often a generational one.

The problem is that it’s very likely all these relationships are all dysfunctional with enabler and codependents and all kinds of sticky things.

You now know these peoples intentions towards you are not good, which is a hurtful, but at least honest place to be. Be empowered by that and choose to surround yourself with people that will love you and have your back instead.

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Anonymous wrote:We don't know what happened, so honestly you could be right or you could be spoiled snowflake.

What a profound observation. Thanks for this valuable contribution.

Anonymous wrote:We don't know what happened, so honestly you could be right or you could be spoiled snowflake.

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been no-contact with my mother, and my whole family because of this, for over a year. It’s a long story rich in a history of emotional abuse, and all I can say is it’s been better this way, healing. But now as we arrive at this interim time between Thanksgiving and Christmas, something is happening: All of a sudden I’m being bombarded by texts from family members who I haven’t heard from in years.

They’ll start by asking benign questions to reel me in, and then explain to me how much I’m hurting my mother, how it’s time I talk to her again. When I explain that I just can’t, the mood changes completely and I’m attacked! From three different people I’ve been told that I have “never deserved anything good”, that I’m “disappointing and cold hearted”, and one person told me that my side of the story doesn’t matter and that they “will ALWAYS take your mother’s side”. All of these arrived within the last three days.

I haven’t responded to any of them further, but I’m sitting here like wtf just happened! And what do I do with this? These are my family members who I had a fine and loving relationship with until I stopped speaking with my mother. I don’t so much care that they’re angry with me, I knew this would happen and I’ve resigned myself to it. But why are they doing this? Attacking me? What is their end game? Surely they can’t expect to spew such hate and expect me to have a relationship with them? So what’s the point in attacking me?

Anonymous wrote:Clearly your mother was telling her sad story over Thanksgiving. There was probably crying involved. Now your relatives are trying to step into the breach.