Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A 5 year old kicking a 10 year old is not by itself "end the relationship" behavior.

Your GF's response may be "end the relationship" behavior. Depends on the context.

You said your GF responded that kicks shouldn't break the toe/require crutches. So the important question on which all of this turns: Were crutches in fact required? Was the toe actually broken (or at least severely injured)? Or did you already have crutches in the house, and you and your DS are making a big deal out of a run of the mill kid fight? The way the OP wrote the first post makes me think this isn't as clear as others have assumed.....

This could have played out in one of two ways:

Scenario 1: 5 year old kicks DS, DS is in a lot of pain, goes to doctor, is diagnosed with badly bruised or sprained foot and is prescribed crutches because it is otherwise painful to walk on. OP accuses GF of having a monster for a 5 year old child, and GF gets defensive and (wrongly) claims the injury wasn't a big deal.

Scenario 2: 5 year old kicks DS, DS has a history of being a drama queen and makes a big deal about how he can barely get around, finds old crutches in the house and makes a huge deal about it. OP accuses GF of having a monster for a 5 year old child, and GF says that OP needs to get a grip because the injury (rightly) wasn't a big deal, and GF is on the defensive because she doesn't like her kid being accused of being a monster when it was pretty typical kid stuff.

Scenario 1 means your GF was in the wrong. Scenario 2 means you and your DS are inflexible and drama queens.

I can't tell which one it is from the OP's post, but either seems believable.

OP here. We went to urgent care. They took x-rays, the pinky toe was broken, and they gave a foot boot and crutches. He also slammed his door on the foot a little before hand, but he says it's from the kicking and I tend to believe him. The kid is out of control.

How can you not be irate at this? Your kid is being psychologically harmed by dad letting him continued to be subjected to this and another parent not reprimanding their child. To your child: THIS LOOKS LIKE: dad does not care about me. He is not standing up for me and letting me abused/bullied.

This relationship is over. Your kids are incompatible. Kids come first. I'm so tired of divorced parents and parents in affairs putting their kids last behind their genitals and future of 'happiness'. Don't be one of those douches. Stand right by your kid.

Anonymous wrote:The reason the 5 year old is out of control is because her mother is allowing it.

Loved, safe, disciplined children with no mental health issues are not out of control.

Is the daughter loved? Does she feel safe? IS she safe? Is she lovingly disciplined? Does she have undisclosed mental health issues?

Other than mental health issues, the remaining issues are a result of good/bad parenting. Are the adults in her life loving, caring, safe? This includes you, OP.

No healthy 5-year old who is getting the love, care, and attention that she needs will be a bad child. They might do bad things occassionally, but they aren't bad children.

What is actually going on here? You calling a 5-year-old out of control makes me think you need to take a look at the whole picture, meaning her mom and dad and you. And anybody her dad might be seeing.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A 5 year old kicking a 10 year old is not by itself "end the relationship" behavior.

Your GF's response may be "end the relationship" behavior. Depends on the context.

You said your GF responded that kicks shouldn't break the toe/require crutches. So the important question on which all of this turns: Were crutches in fact required? Was the toe actually broken (or at least severely injured)? Or did you already have crutches in the house, and you and your DS are making a big deal out of a run of the mill kid fight? The way the OP wrote the first post makes me think this isn't as clear as others have assumed.....

This could have played out in one of two ways:

Scenario 1: 5 year old kicks DS, DS is in a lot of pain, goes to doctor, is diagnosed with badly bruised or sprained foot and is prescribed crutches because it is otherwise painful to walk on. OP accuses GF of having a monster for a 5 year old child, and GF gets defensive and (wrongly) claims the injury wasn't a big deal.

Scenario 2: 5 year old kicks DS, DS has a history of being a drama queen and makes a big deal about how he can barely get around, finds old crutches in the house and makes a huge deal about it. OP accuses GF of having a monster for a 5 year old child, and GF says that OP needs to get a grip because the injury (rightly) wasn't a big deal, and GF is on the defensive because she doesn't like her kid being accused of being a monster when it was pretty typical kid stuff.

Scenario 1 means your GF was in the wrong. Scenario 2 means you and your DS are inflexible and drama queens.

I can't tell which one it is from the OP's post, but either seems believable.

OP here. We went to urgent care. They took x-rays, the pinky toe was broken, and they gave a foot boot and crutches. He also slammed his door on the foot a little before hand, but he says it's from the kicking and I tend to believe him. The kid is out of control.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A 5 year old kicking a 10 year old is not by itself "end the relationship" behavior.

Your GF's response may be "end the relationship" behavior. Depends on the context.

You said your GF responded that kicks shouldn't break the toe/require crutches. So the important question on which all of this turns: Were crutches in fact required? Was the toe actually broken (or at least severely injured)? Or did you already have crutches in the house, and you and your DS are making a big deal out of a run of the mill kid fight? The way the OP wrote the first post makes me think this isn't as clear as others have assumed.....

This could have played out in one of two ways:

Scenario 1: 5 year old kicks DS, DS is in a lot of pain, goes to doctor, is diagnosed with badly bruised or sprained foot and is prescribed crutches because it is otherwise painful to walk on. OP accuses GF of having a monster for a 5 year old child, and GF gets defensive and (wrongly) claims the injury wasn't a big deal.

Scenario 2: 5 year old kicks DS, DS has a history of being a drama queen and makes a big deal about how he can barely get around, finds old crutches in the house and makes a huge deal about it. OP accuses GF of having a monster for a 5 year old child, and GF says that OP needs to get a grip because the injury (rightly) wasn't a big deal, and GF is on the defensive because she doesn't like her kid being accused of being a monster when it was pretty typical kid stuff.

Scenario 1 means your GF was in the wrong. Scenario 2 means you and your DS are inflexible and drama queens.

I can't tell which one it is from the OP's post, but either seems believable.

OP here. We went to urgent care. They took x-rays, the pinky toe was broken, and they gave a foot boot and crutches. He also slammed his door on the foot a little before hand, but he says it's from the kicking and I tend to believe him. The kid is out of control.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A 5 year old kicking a 10 year old is not by itself "end the relationship" behavior.

Your GF's response may be "end the relationship" behavior. Depends on the context.

You said your GF responded that kicks shouldn't break the toe/require crutches. So the important question on which all of this turns: Were crutches in fact required? Was the toe actually broken (or at least severely injured)? Or did you already have crutches in the house, and you and your DS are making a big deal out of a run of the mill kid fight? The way the OP wrote the first post makes me think this isn't as clear as others have assumed.....

This could have played out in one of two ways:

Scenario 1: 5 year old kicks DS, DS is in a lot of pain, goes to doctor, is diagnosed with badly bruised or sprained foot and is prescribed crutches because it is otherwise painful to walk on. OP accuses GF of having a monster for a 5 year old child, and GF gets defensive and (wrongly) claims the injury wasn't a big deal.

Scenario 2: 5 year old kicks DS, DS has a history of being a drama queen and makes a big deal about how he can barely get around, finds old crutches in the house and makes a huge deal about it. OP accuses GF of having a monster for a 5 year old child, and GF says that OP needs to get a grip because the injury (rightly) wasn't a big deal, and GF is on the defensive because she doesn't like her kid being accused of being a monster when it was pretty typical kid stuff.

Scenario 1 means your GF was in the wrong. Scenario 2 means you and your DS are inflexible and drama queens.

I can't tell which one it is from the OP's post, but either seems believable.

OP here. We went to urgent care. They took x-rays, the pinky toe was broken, and they gave a foot boot and crutches. He also slammed his door on the foot a little before hand, but he says it's from the kicking and I tend to believe him. The kid is out of control.

Anonymous wrote:I’m having a hard time imagining how a kick from a 5 yo resulted in a broken toe/foot unless there are some significant congenital bone issues going on.

Anonymous wrote:A 5 year old kicking a 10 year old is not by itself "end the relationship" behavior.

Your GF's response may be "end the relationship" behavior. Depends on the context.

You said your GF responded that kicks shouldn't break the toe/require crutches. So the important question on which all of this turns: Were crutches in fact required? Was the toe actually broken (or at least severely injured)? Or did you already have crutches in the house, and you and your DS are making a big deal out of a run of the mill kid fight? The way the OP wrote the first post makes me think this isn't as clear as others have assumed.....

This could have played out in one of two ways:

Scenario 1: 5 year old kicks DS, DS is in a lot of pain, goes to doctor, is diagnosed with badly bruised or sprained foot and is prescribed crutches because it is otherwise painful to walk on. OP accuses GF of having a monster for a 5 year old child, and GF gets defensive and (wrongly) claims the injury wasn't a big deal.

Scenario 2: 5 year old kicks DS, DS has a history of being a drama queen and makes a big deal about how he can barely get around, finds old crutches in the house and makes a huge deal about it. OP accuses GF of having a monster for a 5 year old child, and GF says that OP needs to get a grip because the injury (rightly) wasn't a big deal, and GF is on the defensive because she doesn't like her kid being accused of being a monster when it was pretty typical kid stuff.

Scenario 1 means your GF was in the wrong. Scenario 2 means you and your DS are inflexible and drama queens.

I can't tell which one it is from the OP's post, but either seems believable.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The mother’s response is worse than her daughter kicking your boy.

NP here. I can see the perspective that a broken toe shouldn’t lead to crutches and a few kicks shouldn’t break a toe. Just saying I understand that as a parent in who must be in an uncomfortable position.

I'm guessing it's a doctor who said to use crutches -- a 9-year old boy isn't make that type of decision.