It no one ate it or only a piece, Yes I would probably take it home bc I would assume it wasn’t very good and would feel bad leaving something for the host to dispose of.

Anonymous wrote:We participate in a lot of potlucks. Food is divvied up after the party so that everyone gets some portion of every dish….EXCEPT…people don’t take the dish that they provided. It is assumed that they have already kept what they needed for their family at home before coming to the party.

White people problems, op??

^That's really unnecessary.

I would not do this but I have thought about it under certain circumstances. I have some friends who I know usually throw away leftovers and it bums me out to think something tasty I brought will wind up in the trash. But it’s still rude to take it back even in that case, so I never do.

We participate in a lot of potlucks. Food is divvied up after the party so that everyone gets some portion of every dish….EXCEPT…people don’t take the dish that they provided. It is assumed that they have already kept what they needed for their family at home before coming to the party.

White people problems, op??

Offer it around if anyone wants some to take home, but then deal with it. I don't want it as the host, it will likely end up composted if you leave it with me. I also usually don't want it when I'm the guest who brought it though so I meet leave it or get rush if it at the hosts.

Anonymous wrote:Your friend was in the right. You provided the meal EXCEPT the last part. She was entitled to recoup the unused portion.

No. Not at all in the right. Cheap, tacky, ill-bred.

Meh, she probably was really impressed with her dessert and wanted the leftovers to eat the next day.

Did you offer her any leftovers of any sort (main meal, her dessert)? One could argue that was rude of you not to offer back somebody's contribution.

Are you sure your spouse didn't give friend "permission" to take her dessert back home? Maybe your spouse said "Jen, great to see you again. Let me get your coat from the closet. Don't forget your pie and icecream. I think Spouse put it back in the refrigerator during cleanup".

I'm usually so excited overwhelmed by leftovers, I'd be grateful.

We once had friends over and cooked out steaks on the grill with all of the steakhouse-type sides. They brought beer to have in addition to our wine. I was surprised when they took their unopened beers back home with them. We always leave everything with the host and I make sure to bring anything in disposable dishes to leave behind.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your friend was in the right. You provided the meal EXCEPT the last part. She was entitled to recoup the unused portion.

This is absolutely wrong. A guests is not entitled to anything in the host's house unless it is offered.

+1 cringe. I am amazed at the lack of manners I see on DCUM. I’m no Emily Post, but this is manners 101. Same as brother in the other thread putting his disgusting hands all over the turkey and eating before everyone else. Where do you people come from?

Tacky as hell.

Anonymous wrote:Your friend was in the right. You provided the meal EXCEPT the last part. She was entitled to recoup the unused portion.

This is absolutely wrong. A guests is not entitled to anything in the host's house unless it is offered.

This has happened to me before and I thought it was very odd. Some people are cheap though.

I prefer people to take their items back.

I have the opposite problem. We go to in-laws tomorrow for a belated Thanksgiving and they try to force leftovers on us we don’t want. FIL had told us 3 times he’s bought a pumpkin pie, we’ve told him 3x we don’t like pumpkin pie… we are bringing another dessert to share. Tomorrow not only will they try to foist their pie on us, they’ll try snd get us to bring it home too.