Anonymous wrote:1-3 hours? No wonder your frequency is low or your house is in shambles. Do you require roses, music, candles and a bath too?

Give me 5-10 minutes five times a week. I can get my O and move on with my day.

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I’m discovering that my definition of what’s a good sex life and my husband’s definition are very different.
I’ve been trying to keep up with him recently, and it’s fun, and he’s happy, but frankly I’m exhausted. The house is falling into a cluttered mess, the kids’ homework and work aren’t getting done the way they should be and I haven’t read to them or prayed with them the way that I used to in weeks. My own work is getting done, but only at a bare minimum, and I have been putting off a QI project I had been working on and a paper I was writing.

I think he would like to maintain this long term, but I just don’t see how.

OMG… are you having to have sex all day long?? It’s usually an hour or so at night for us.

That sounds miserable, get a toy if you can’t get the job done faster.

Not PP, DH could get it done faster not always what I want or we both want. We typically have a long 1-3 hour session once a week. It is a very emotional and fulfilling process/experience.

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Anonymous wrote:
I’m discovering that my definition of what’s a good sex life and my husband’s definition are very different.
I’ve been trying to keep up with him recently, and it’s fun, and he’s happy, but frankly I’m exhausted. The house is falling into a cluttered mess, the kids’ homework and work aren’t getting done the way they should be and I haven’t read to them or prayed with them the way that I used to in weeks. My own work is getting done, but only at a bare minimum, and I have been putting off a QI project I had been working on and a paper I was writing.

I think he would like to maintain this long term, but I just don’t see how.

OMG… are you having to have sex all day long?? It’s usually an hour or so at night for us.

That sounds miserable, get a toy if you can’t get the job done faster.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I’m discovering that my definition of what’s a good sex life and my husband’s definition are very different.
I’ve been trying to keep up with him recently, and it’s fun, and he’s happy, but frankly I’m exhausted. The house is falling into a cluttered mess, the kids’ homework and work aren’t getting done the way they should be and I haven’t read to them or prayed with them the way that I used to in weeks. My own work is getting done, but only at a bare minimum, and I have been putting off a QI project I had been working on and a paper I was writing.

I think he would like to maintain this long term, but I just don’t see how.

OMG… are you having to have sex all day long?? It’s usually an hour or so at night for us.

Anonymous wrote:
I’m discovering that my definition of what’s a good sex life and my husband’s definition are very different.
I’ve been trying to keep up with him recently, and it’s fun, and he’s happy, but frankly I’m exhausted. The house is falling into a cluttered mess, the kids’ homework and work aren’t getting done the way they should be and I haven’t read to them or prayed with them the way that I used to in weeks. My own work is getting done, but only at a bare minimum, and I have been putting off a QI project I had been working on and a paper I was writing.

I think he would like to maintain this long term, but I just don’t see how.

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Anonymous wrote:Female here. For me there’s a huge emotional component, I need to feel connected and like he’s having sex with *me*, not just with an available warm body. Also listens to what I ask for and actually does it (rather than just doing it for a few seconds than moving on to what he wants), doesn’t make me feel like I need to perform or act out things from porn, cares about my pleasure as much as his own. Lots of foreplay and afterplay.

Because people are hung up on actual numbers - we have sex most days. With young kids, it’s down to 5 days a week, but both of us could easily go daily or even twice a day. Both of us O most times, unless it’s a quickie then I often don’t. But if I want to, he always makes sure it happens, unlike other partners I’ve had who assume it’s over once they get off. We have a good amount of variety, I’d say about 1/3 of the time is focused on me and what I want, 1/3 on him, 1/3 mutual.

What is afterplay?

Anonymous wrote:Female here. For me there’s a huge emotional component, I need to feel connected and like he’s having sex with *me*, not just with an available warm body. Also listens to what I ask for and actually does it (rather than just doing it for a few seconds than moving on to what he wants), doesn’t make me feel like I need to perform or act out things from porn, cares about my pleasure as much as his own. Lots of foreplay and afterplay.

Because people are hung up on actual numbers - we have sex most days. With young kids, it’s down to 5 days a week, but both of us could easily go daily or even twice a day. Both of us O most times, unless it’s a quickie then I often don’t. But if I want to, he always makes sure it happens, unlike other partners I’ve had who assume it’s over once they get off. We have a good amount of variety, I’d say about 1/3 of the time is focused on me and what I want, 1/3 on him, 1/3 mutual.