OP here. Appreciate everyone’s perspectives.
As I write this, DC has skipped more classes and is now in Paris.
But to many of your points, she aced most of her midterms and got one B-.
So I won’t fly over there to wring her a new one just yet.

OP, fwiw, I didn't skip a class till fall quarter sophomore year. I had figured out how much each class cost and, even though I was on nearly full financial aid, I basically decided it was a luxury I could rarely afford. That said, I would be more understanding here in light of circumstances, especially if your DC is an otherwise responsible student. I plan to have this convo when DC1 leaves for school.

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Anonymous wrote:What other country??? Are we talking Canada? Did you go to college OP? Did you ever skip class??

Op here. DC is supposed to be in country x for study abroad. They went to Italy with friends long weekend, missed classes. After the initial where tf are you text chat and what about school question, I got over it shaking my head. But curious what drum parents would do in that situation.

Nothing - part of being abroad is having access to new places and experiences. If there are consequences with the school abroad, or the class they skipped, the kid will have to deal with those. Personally, skipping one class to go to Italy sounds awesome to me as long as the kid is otherwise engaged in their work.

So weird OP. College kids lead their own lives. You would only know if your child chose to share with you.

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Anonymous wrote:What other country??? Are we talking Canada? Did you go to college OP? Did you ever skip class??

Op here. DC is supposed to be in country x for study abroad. They went to Italy with friends long weekend, missed classes. After the initial where tf are you text chat and what about school question, I got over it shaking my head. But curious what drum parents would do in that situation.

omg!!! cut the apron strings!! study abroad is about travel and experiencing world culture. not about an academic grind.

Heck. yes! Cutting class is OK periodically if you are managing the course and the expectations. And do it for fun good things, like, road trip to another college for a concert, traveling to another city, first perfect spring day to just hang out on the quad on blankets.

If you need more information on the details and the rationale (this is the most serious onion article I have ever read: https://www.theonion.com/account-manager-fondly-remembers-day-in-college-when-ev-1819565644

it’s part of being an adult to learn how to make the tradeoffs between fun and work properly.

the only thing I would be disappointed about is if my kid in a study abroad program was hanging out exclusively with Americans and speaking English all the time.

LOL. I studied abroad. My spouse studied abroad. All of our kids studied abroad. Whether it's a foreign language program or not (and most of ours were), you're spending the overwhelming majority of your time hanging out and traveling with the other Americans on your program. The only exception is if you're cute and female, in which case you get attention from foreign guys who think American women are easy.

you only think that because that’s what you did! I spent the majority of my time with native speakers and locals. I deliberately made sure I wasn’t rooming with Americans only.

Well, either you are a super nerd, are lying, or were putting out. Because that's the exception, not the rule.

Yikes sorry you're having such a bad day that you need to feel so nasty. I'm another person here who studied abroad and spent at least half the time, if not more, with natives instead of Americans, because I lived in a dorm filled with natives (I was the only American on my floor) and took classes at the university with natives. To this day I have close friends from that country, as well as some of the other Americans in the program.

There were a handful of students in my program who made it a point not to hang out with Americans, just with the native students.

Not all study abroad programs are the same.

OP, this sounds like what I did in college in the 80s. It's up to your adult child to learn how to make decisions for themselves.

Fortunately, back in the 80s there was no social media and no pressure to post on Insta, so our parents never knew.

I would consider it standard young adult behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:What other country??? Are we talking Canada? Did you go to college OP? Did you ever skip class??

Op here. DC is supposed to be in country x for study abroad. They went to Italy with friends long weekend, missed classes. After the initial where tf are you text chat and what about school question, I got over it shaking my head. But curious what drum parents would do in that situation.

Sounds like great fun! I remember my study abroad year fondly. Best year of my life, really. And sometimes it included skipping a class to travel.

The truth is, you learn way more through traveling than you do in the classroom in your study abroad year.

Most college kids skip a class here and there. Some do it for an activity, others sleep in, and still others just don’t feel like going to class. This is all very common. Period.

Anonymous wrote:I would have no clue unless she told me. That’s what college is for. As long as her grades are good I don’t care at all.

I’m not a helicopter mom.

+1 I wouldn’t worry too much about it unless she’s about to flunk out on your dime. Adults understand the consequences of their actions.

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Op here. DC is supposed to be in country x for study abroad. They went to Italy with friends long weekend, missed classes. After the initial where tf are you text chat and what about school question, I got over it shaking my head. But curious what drum parents would do in that situation.

omg!!! cut the apron strings!! study abroad is about travel and experiencing world culture. not about an academic grind.

Heck. yes! Cutting class is OK periodically if you are managing the course and the expectations. And do it for fun good things, like, road trip to another college for a concert, traveling to another city, first perfect spring day to just hang out on the quad on blankets.

If you need more information on the details and the rationale (this is the most serious onion article I have ever read: https://www.theonion.com/account-manager-fondly-remembers-day-in-college-when-ev-1819565644

it’s part of being an adult to learn how to make the tradeoffs between fun and work properly.

the only thing I would be disappointed about is if my kid in a study abroad program was hanging out exclusively with Americans and speaking English all the time.

LOL. I studied abroad. My spouse studied abroad. All of our kids studied abroad. Whether it's a foreign language program or not (and most of ours were), you're spending the overwhelming majority of your time hanging out and traveling with the other Americans on your program. The only exception is if you're cute and female, in which case you get attention from foreign guys who think American women are easy.

you only think that because that’s what you did! I spent the majority of my time with native speakers and locals. I deliberately made sure I wasn’t rooming with Americans only.

Well, either you are a super nerd, are lying, or were putting out. Because that's the exception, not the rule.

No I don’t know

You expect travel abroad students will skip and visit other countries.

The only time I skipped out of classes was during study abroad, and the trip to another country was a highlight of my time. My program was very strict about staying on site and not leaving the country and made it difficult to take advantage of close proximity to other countries. Friends in a different program had a break to travel which I envied.

Wouldn’t know. Wouldn’t care. In your situation I’d be happy that DC was traveling and figure they knew best how to handle the workload and we’re learning life lessons along the way (just as I did).

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Anonymous wrote:What other country??? Are we talking Canada? Did you go to college OP? Did you ever skip class??

Op here. DC is supposed to be in country x for study abroad. They went to Italy with friends long weekend, missed classes. After the initial where tf are you text chat and what about school question, I got over it shaking my head. But curious what drum parents would do in that situation.

omg!!! cut the apron strings!! study abroad is about travel and experiencing world culture. not about an academic grind.

Heck. yes! Cutting class is OK periodically if you are managing the course and the expectations. And do it for fun good things, like, road trip to another college for a concert, traveling to another city, first perfect spring day to just hang out on the quad on blankets.

If you need more information on the details and the rationale (this is the most serious onion article I have ever read: https://www.theonion.com/account-manager-fondly-remembers-day-in-college-when-ev-1819565644

it’s part of being an adult to learn how to make the tradeoffs between fun and work properly.

the only thing I would be disappointed about is if my kid in a study abroad program was hanging out exclusively with Americans and speaking English all the time.

LOL. I studied abroad. My spouse studied abroad. All of our kids studied abroad. Whether it's a foreign language program or not (and most of ours were), you're spending the overwhelming majority of your time hanging out and traveling with the other Americans on your program. The only exception is if you're cute and female, in which case you get attention from foreign guys who think American women are easy.

you only think that because that’s what you did! I spent the majority of my time with native speakers and locals. I deliberately made sure I wasn’t rooming with Americans only.

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Anonymous wrote:What other country??? Are we talking Canada? Did you go to college OP? Did you ever skip class??

Op here. DC is supposed to be in country x for study abroad. They went to Italy with friends long weekend, missed classes. After the initial where tf are you text chat and what about school question, I got over it shaking my head. But curious what drum parents would do in that situation.

Absolutely nothing aside from being a bit jealous. Be glad your kid is enjoying college. And perhaps get the stick out of your as$