Anonymous
Post 11/20/2021 07:41     Subject: Re:Explain this behavior to me
My guess is he is seeing other people and was with another woman when you were trying to call. Or he is a drama queen.

Either way, I would move on.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2021 07:36     Subject: Re:Explain this behavior to me
Any chance he is married and can only call when he gets a chance to sneak away?
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2021 07:19     Subject: Explain this behavior to me
^also this doesn’t sound organic and why does he have to jump through all these hoops to talk to you? I can’t stand people that try to schedule calls. Maybe he also has a life?
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2021 07:17     Subject: Explain this behavior to me
Sounds like he’s juggling multiple women
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2021 01:33     Subject: Explain this behavior to me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:1. Why did you have to hear from him about when and where you were meeting? Why couldn't you say, meet me at Taco Bell at 7 pm?

2. However, the fact that he was hedging whether to see you and then disappeared makes me think he had another date tentatively planned that he ended up going out on.



OP here:

1. I did suggest a place and time via text (to meet at 6:30 or 7). He did not call me until 8:10 pm…by 6 pm I said, let’s meet this weekend since it is already 6 pm…his response was “I will call you in a bit.” I immediately responded, “Can we talk at 8:45 pm when my kids are in bed?” Then he called me at 8:10 pm.

2. Maybe but doubt it. I think he was working or doing errands or at the gym. He also has a lot of extended family nearby and sees them a lot.


Can almost guarantee the bolded is the case. This behavior is that of a man exploring options, assuming he doesn't already have a serious gf. Drop him, OP. This guy is playing games.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2021 01:32     Subject: Explain this behavior to me
Yes he is being passive aggressive. The last time a guy treated me like this he turned out to be a massive cheater.

Move on, this guy is simply not that interested.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2021 01:02     Subject: Explain this behavior to me
Anonymous wrote:You sound very demanding and difficult to deal with. Definitely move on until you can find a better match.


Is trying to nail down a place and time to meet the day of the meeting demanding? I think it is normal to know if you are in fact meeting within 4 hours of said meeting. (I have kids…if I have them that day, I need to know within several hours of when I am supposed to meet).
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2021 00:54     Subject: Explain this behavior to me
You sound very demanding and difficult to deal with. Definitely move on until you can find a better match.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2021 00:50     Subject: Explain this behavior to me
Anonymous wrote:1. Why did you have to hear from him about when and where you were meeting? Why couldn't you say, meet me at Taco Bell at 7 pm?

2. However, the fact that he was hedging whether to see you and then disappeared makes me think he had another date tentatively planned that he ended up going out on.



OP here:

1. I did suggest a place and time via text (to meet at 6:30 or 7). He did not call me until 8:10 pm…by 6 pm I said, let’s meet this weekend since it is already 6 pm…his response was “I will call you in a bit.” I immediately responded, “Can we talk at 8:45 pm when my kids are in bed?” Then he called me at 8:10 pm.

2. Maybe but doubt it. I think he was working or doing errands or at the gym. He also has a lot of extended family nearby and sees them a lot.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2021 00:26     Subject: Explain this behavior to me
1. Why did you have to hear from him about when and where you were meeting? Why couldn't you say, meet me at Taco Bell at 7 pm?

2. However, the fact that he was hedging whether to see you and then disappeared makes me think he had another date tentatively planned that he ended up going out on.

Anonymous
Post 11/19/2021 19:45     Subject: Re:Explain this behavior to me
He must have seen that you tried to reach him several times but didn’t respond until this eve?! He is not worth it! Just end it
Anonymous
Post 11/19/2021 19:32     Subject: Explain this behavior to me
OP here: I got a text at 6 pm saying: “Sorry, work has been kicking my ass all day and I fell asleep last night. How are you feeling?” (I have had a cold.) previous posters—does this change any earlier comments or not?
Anonymous
Post 11/19/2021 13:33     Subject: Explain this behavior to me
The truth is if he cared enough or wanted this enough he would work with what you need. He doesn’t. For whatever reason, and honestly f him because who knows why he’s like that.
Anonymous
Post 11/19/2021 13:28     Subject: Explain this behavior to me
OP here. Thanks for the suggestions. I was thinking this is just not going to work out and I have seen enough. I appreciate your time and confirming what I was thinking...that we should probably just stop meeting up altogether. I'm not that invested at all.
Anonymous
Post 11/19/2021 13:25     Subject: Explain this behavior to me
Anonymous wrote:Guy here. He only wants to be with you if you are willing to follow his rules. Block him and move on


another guy here and +1 ^

OP, the guy you are dating is a dipsh*t. hopefully you aren't so invested (it's only been a couple of couple of months), so just put him in the rearview mirror and move forward with yu life.