No, it’s not. You have to know you’re better than this dude. He’s not a safe person and you may need help to understand why you remain in this cycle allowing him to occupy space in your mind given what he’s put you through. I’m sorry.

It’s like having person methadone. At some point you still have to do the work of getting over your person addiction.

I think it’s better to distract yourself with career, travel, expand your circle of friends, working out, therapy, volunteering to help other people than sleeping with whoever.

^its natural and *easy* to remember only the good times

Anonymous wrote:He was my first in various ways. First physical, phone sex, first I sent nudes too and first bf.

And first a-hole, obviously. You don’t want someone who would treat you like that, even as a friend. He was out for his own interests. Try not to romanticize him or your relationship - it’s natural and way to remember only the good things as time goes by.

And don’t focus on his new GF - turn your attention to yourself, healing, and moving on.

Yes. Twice daily for a couple months should do it

He was my first in various ways. First physical, phone sex, first I sent nudes too and first bf.

Anonymous wrote:Why not get back together with him?

He has a new girlfriend that he quickly found after I broke up with him for cheating. I found his date profiles. He tried to get me back while he was dating this new woman. Told her but she didn't care. She is jobless and somewhat of a new age hippie. Lives with her parents and he is out of her league. He is a handsome self made millionaire. I supported his endeavors when he was poor. Only thing I can think was she was easy.

I have not found this to be true.

Anonymous wrote:Why not get back together with him?

+1 it’s fun to say but rarely helps

Anonymous wrote:Why not get back together with him?

Yeah. Why anger?

Ohhh sounds fun to me.