obviously their history (abandoned, feral etc) makes a difference, but do the stereotypes largely hold true?

Anonymous wrote:Mine followed those stereotypes, but I got my female from someone who rescued her as a stray who had been abused and starving. I got my male as an 8 wk old kitten to keep her company, so they had different backgrounds. I don't know how that affected their personalities.

Hmmm you don't think their background has anyyhing to do with their history? Unbelievable! Of course, being a street cat affected her!

I can not believe people!

Anonymous wrote:Are males friendlier and more lovable and girls more B*tchy and independent

NO! I have girl cats and they are very affectionate. So sick of sexism.

My girl cat is much more high-maintenance. Very cuddly when SHE wants to be (usually 4:00-5:00 in the morning), high energy, and also much more of a troublemaker. Interesting that people say female cats are one-person loyal; I didn't know that was a trend, but it's definitely true for her.

My boy cat is more chill. He just plops on the couch and lets anyone come up and pet him.

The most affectionate cat I had was a girl tabby. She was abandoned by a feral mom and I found her. She never seemed to get over being abandoned and was so clingy and sweet. And a great hunter.

We had a big dumb orange male cat. Who was VERY sweet but dumb dumb. Like so dumb he forgot where he lived and would go into neighbors houses because he didn't know which one was his. But again, he loved everyone! Equally! Because he maybe couldn't tell people apart. Hard to know. He died early in an accident because again: he was very dumb.

I had a calico too who was so mean and smart. I loved her to pieces. But she'd shred you. After about 15 years she mellowed out .

I have 2 females, they were raised by humans since they were babies. They are friendly to everyone, even strangers, but they prefer me most (probably because I feed them).

I've had two cuddly males, one that was standoffish as a young cat but became cuddly as he aged, and one that was always standoffish. My one female cat is always present, at my feet, etc., but does not want to be held or in my lap. The one thing she has never done that all the males did is pee on things--they're so territorial.

OP here: we are getting from a breeder that socializes them early with kids, dogs, etc. and really strives for a lot of handling/introdutcion to people.

so it's not like a rescue where you dont know the kitten's past or early socialization experiences

Oh wow, our experience has been so different. We have two black, male cats that we adopted as adults at different times. They are the sweetest, gentlest, most affectionate cats we have ever had. We got the older one when my daughters were 4, and he tolerated them dragging him around and dressing him up. The only time he is aggressive is when we have meatballs or salmon for dinner.

Our previous cats were female and not nearly as affectionate. They were definitely one-person cats.

All cats are a$$holes. We have two that I adore. If I dropped dead in my house today, they would eat me before my body was cold. But, I love them.

Dogs will do anything for your love and affection. Cats do not GAF. Even my German Shepherds are scared of the cats.

Talk to a rescue about what you're looking for in a cat. I wanted a kitten so that they would grow up with my son and like him, but the rescue wouldn't give me just one kitten. Instead they recommended a cat they were struggling to place (he was terrified at the adoption events because they were too crowded), and he is the sweetest, mushiest, most lovable cat ever. He used to literally sit on my son's playroom floor and let my son drive matchbox cars on him - gently but still.

If they are altered early like spay and neuter does it really make that much of a difference

Mine followed those stereotypes, but I got my female from someone who rescued her as a stray who had been abused and starving. I got my male as an 8 wk old kitten to keep her company, so they had different backgrounds. I don't know how that affected their personalities.

Anonymous wrote:Female cats bond with one person in the household. Male cats will be loyal to everyone.

This has been my experience as well.

In my experience, mostly true. But my family did have one female cat who was very affectionate (and rather clingy )