Anonymous
11/07/2021 12:04
Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
I actually question why OP keeps having kids? Seriously the dog is not a issue. I am being brutal but honest. I always see situations where one spouse is constantly trying to get rid of a dog they never wanted. FYI you are teaching your kids that things are disposable. Get it together. Your dog is in the teen phase. The fenced in yard will help but going for a walk is a good thing for everyone so do it. We work from home and our dog goes out on our breaks with whatever kid is around.
Anonymous
11/07/2021 11:19
Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:Your husband either 1 - does the work himself, 2- pays for outsourcing, is 3- rehomes the dog.
He has until next week to make a decision and after that one will be made for him.
I agree with this. You can’t continue the status quo. DH needs to step up or let the dog go.
Anonymous
11/07/2021 11:01
Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:your dog needs to go offsite for real training, and you all need to follow up like you are supposed to.
if you can't do this, then you need to find the dog another home.
sounds like you should never have gotten a dog.
I strongly disagree with offsite training for this particular dog and family. Even more than most dog owners, these people NEED to take training classes with their dog if they’re entertaining the idea of keeping him.
Anonymous
11/07/2021 10:56
Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Your husband either 1 - does the work himself, 2- pays for outsourcing, is 3- rehomes the dog.
He has until next week to make a decision and after that one will be made for him.
He has until next week to make a decision and after that one will be made for him.
Anonymous
11/07/2021 10:53
Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
your dog needs to go offsite for real training, and you all need to follow up like you are supposed to.
if you can't do this, then you need to find the dog another home.
sounds like you should never have gotten a dog.
if you can't do this, then you need to find the dog another home.
sounds like you should never have gotten a dog.
Anonymous
11/07/2021 10:49
Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:Explain you are not honoring his mother by neglecting another living creature. The pup needs to be where it can have more freedom & attention.
This. Either he re-homes it or he pays for a dog sitter/walker. Those are the two choices.
Anonymous
11/07/2021 10:47
Subject: Re:How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:The situation is more dire than you realize. Your dog is missing socialization during a critical window. No one is teaching him how to be a pet. Lots of people will tolerate a puppy who is destructive and not housebroken, but it will be harder to place an adult dog with these issues. Your dog is not getting adequate mental stimulation or exercise. Pooping in his crate is a sign that he’s under stress from the neglect. This is about more than his current poor quality of life; every month that passes with his living under these conditions reduces the pool of potential adopters.
Are you honest with your vet about your dog’s home life? Would your dh be honest with friends about the dog spending 23 hours a day in his crate? If he would never divulge that, it’s because deep down, he knows he’s a neglectful dog owner.
This is all true. Every day entrenches the current behaviors and is a missed opportunity to change them.
It is not normal at all for an animal to poop in his crate. How long had it been since he was walked?
What breed is the dog, OP?
Anonymous
11/07/2021 10:43
Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Said it before, I'll say it again. It needs to be much, much, much more difficult for people to adopt dogs.
Too many irresponsible, neglectful people like OP's family is the result of lax dog adoption.
Too many irresponsible, neglectful people like OP's family is the result of lax dog adoption.
Anonymous
11/07/2021 10:38
Subject: Re:How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:Dog walker or doggie day care. You are right that you are not properly caring for the dog. If he won’t give the dig up, please do a walker or daycare for the sake of the animal.
This. If the dog was being socialized with other dogs and had a chance to discharge some of his energy he might be better behaved. He will be outgrowing the puppy high energy stage soon.
OP, what breed is the dog?
Doggie daycare even a few days a week would be much better for the dog.
Anonymous
11/07/2021 10:38
Subject: Re:How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Dog walker or doggie day care. You are right that you are not properly caring for the dog. If he won’t give the dig up, please do a walker or daycare for the sake of the animal.
OP here. DH is too cheap to pay someone to do this. I will absolutely suggest it to exhaust all options, but he won’t want to spend that money.
You need to speak up for the dog. He can’t speak for himself. If he could, what do you think he would say?
Anonymous
11/07/2021 10:32
Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:We got a puppy last December who is now a year old. DH really wanted a puppy and bit off more than he can chew. We are not a family fit for a dog. We have 4 kids including an infant, both work FT, and my job in particular is very busy with longer hours. We both WFH but the dog literally is crated all day and night. On a good day he may be out for an hour. We just don’t have the time to manage and watch him all day. DH did do training classes but because we don’t continue practicing, it was money down the drain. Kids have no interest in the dog. DH will not rehome him. There is a sentimental connection that I think DH holds on to (dog was born the day his mom passed away and he named the dog something that connects to mom), so I do understand that piece, however, I just find it completely cruel to have a dog sitting here all day. He gets a quick morning walk and quick night walk but that’s it. I literally do not have time to step up and take care of everything for the dog myself. How can I get DH to agree to rehome? How can I gently bring it up? He thinks I resent the dog so I fear bringing it up will make him think I just don’t want the dog around.
Please, no cruel comments. I really feel awful that this puppy has such a horrible quality of life. He needs to be in a loving home who has time for him.
Mpt cruel comments but I think you are cruel. And now blame everything on DH.
Anonymous
11/07/2021 10:30
Subject: Re:How to convince DH to rehome dog?
If you are home all day, I really don't understand why the dog is crated 24/7. Your dog would be much better behaved if it were given adequate exercise and attention. You can take the dog for short walks during your work breaks, you can have the dog out of the crate and in the room with you while you work and supervise it. How do you expect your dog to learn to behave as a member of the family if it is never given any opportunity to do so? If you don't want the dog, take it to the shelter today. You don't need your husband's permission.
Anonymous
11/07/2021 10:27
Subject: Re:How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:Your dog is crated 23 hours a day approx? And your kids are seeing this so it normal uses this cruelty to them. This is inhumane OP and you need to find this dog a good home. How can you be married to someone who thinks this is ok? This blows my mind.
Yes, it’s terrible for OPs children to think that this is what dog ownership looks like.
My dog is a retired racing greyhound. He was considered property was deemed worthless when he didn’t pull in enough earnings. But he never spent 23 hours a day in a crate. They don’t even do that at the track.
Anonymous
11/07/2021 10:21
Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
You have a job, you pay for daycare.
Anonymous
11/07/2021 10:21
Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
People who are complicit in animal abuse are just as bad as the abuser. Both you and your husband are vile.