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Anonymous

11/07/2021 21:02 Subject: Re:From a dating and relationship perspective if You were a 37 year old straight woman

Anonymous wrote:Portugal (and Italy) are making it pretty easy to immigrate and retire there. Great places to be, fun people, and endless sex(y) possibilities.

Dcum posting women in their thirties would not be happy in Portugal if getting into a relationship is a goal of theirs.

European women in their twenties complain about Portuguese guys and dcum posting American women in their thirties have even higher standards.

Not everyone is Cristiano Ronaldo or Jose Mourinho.

Portugal QoL is 💯 but not because of relationship potential.

I always suggest any American of means to buy a second home in Portugal because life is really nice and chill if you have a decent level of assets and foreign income sources.

Dating in Portugal if you have an American mindset though is not great. You end up sticking to the expat community, which gets incestuous and isn’t as large as you think it is.

Anonymous

11/07/2021 16:01 Subject: From a dating and relationship perspective if You were a 37 year old straight woman

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes I'll be working, my job can be done anywhere and it's not difficult to get a visa. I want to be able to date but also I just want to experience something different that my small down suburban life I've been living for the last 30+ decades.

My actual options are

UK London , Yorkshire, and Glasgow.

Paris, France

Madrid, Spain

Aukland, New Zealand

Rome, Italy

Accra, Ghana

These are amazing options. But offer such different experiences. I mean Paris/Madrid/Rome are going to be pretty similar, but otherwise a lot of diversity here.

Of Paris/Madrid/Rome, I'd pick Paris or Madrid. I love Italy but Rome gets old quicker than you think -- Italians are very family oriented and dating there can feel very claustrophobic. Do you speak French or Spanish? I'd pick the one I had the best language skills for, or that I was most interested in learning.

Of the UK options I'd personally pick Glasgow, even though I've always wanted to live in London. Glasgow is a more approachable/livable city, but still big enough to have plenty of expats and be welcoming to outsiders. I can't speak to Yorkshire. London is great but just insanely expensive and I would not want to be there longterm unless I was rich (like rich, rich, not just well off -- it's worse than NYC in terms of cost of living).

Aukland if you want an adventure in English that won't push you too far out of your comfort zone.

Accra if you want a true fish out of water experience that could truly change your life. I think I might be pulling for Accra, actually. I don't know if you will find love or relationships there, but I think it would offer the most in terms of broadening your horizons and changing your perspective, which is what I would personally look for in this experience.

Madrid is the best choice overall in that list if you are middle class/UMc but it also lacks that extra something that Rome has.

Paris is ok — Lyon is a much better choice in France. Parisian life starts to grate on you without serious money. Which arrondisment can you afford?

UK not worth it at all unless you work in: football, f1, or fintech. It’s really rapidly going backwards as a nation.

For me, Rome would be by far the clear choice. The QoL issues it fails vs Madrid are more than compensated by just being a straight up more interesting place to live.

Can you clarify this? I am not OP but considering moving to England as well and would be very genuinely curious to hear more of an explanation

Anonymous

11/07/2021 11:51 Subject: From a dating and relationship perspective if You were a 37 year old straight woman

I'm from London OP where I lived single, aged 37 with a good career. I met my DH on a yoga retreat on a Greek Island that year. He was also from London. What we noted at the time was this, if we'd met in London we'd never have got to know each other so well and without the distractions of the city and work.

So I'd probably suggest you go somewhere warm and remote but that's not really on your list.

I would avoid Glasgow. Freezing cold, dark by 3pm in Winter (I'm not kidding) and full of racists, bigoted Anti-Americans.

Otherwise the options sound good (not sure about Ghana though, not been there myself)

Anonymous

11/07/2021 11:24 Subject: Re:From a dating and relationship perspective if You were a 37 year old straight woman

Portugal (and Italy) are making it pretty easy to immigrate and retire there. Great places to be, fun people, and endless sex(y) possibilities.

Anonymous

11/07/2021 11:21 Subject: From a dating and relationship perspective if You were a 37 year old straight woman

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes I'll be working, my job can be done anywhere and it's not difficult to get a visa. I want to be able to date but also I just want to experience something different that my small down suburban life I've been living for the last 30+ decades.

My actual options are

UK London , Yorkshire, and Glasgow.

Paris, France

Madrid, Spain

Aukland, New Zealand

Rome, Italy

Accra, Ghana

University of London alum here again. Glasgow made me laugh, only because Scottish women are generally butt ugly.

If you are reasonably cute, you'll get attention there, but then again, Scottish men are pretty boorish in the courtship department. You will probably start a trending, #LeaveMeAlone movement on the internet.

Anonymous

11/07/2021 09:04 Subject: From a dating and relationship perspective if You were a 37 year old straight woman

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes I'll be working, my job can be done anywhere and it's not difficult to get a visa. I want to be able to date but also I just want to experience something different that my small down suburban life I've been living for the last 30+ decades.

My actual options are

UK London , Yorkshire, and Glasgow.

Paris, France

Madrid, Spain

Aukland, New Zealand

Rome, Italy

Accra, Ghana

These are amazing options. But offer such different experiences. I mean Paris/Madrid/Rome are going to be pretty similar, but otherwise a lot of diversity here.

Of Paris/Madrid/Rome, I'd pick Paris or Madrid. I love Italy but Rome gets old quicker than you think -- Italians are very family oriented and dating there can feel very claustrophobic. Do you speak French or Spanish? I'd pick the one I had the best language skills for, or that I was most interested in learning.

Of the UK options I'd personally pick Glasgow, even though I've always wanted to live in London. Glasgow is a more approachable/livable city, but still big enough to have plenty of expats and be welcoming to outsiders. I can't speak to Yorkshire. London is great but just insanely expensive and I would not want to be there longterm unless I was rich (like rich, rich, not just well off -- it's worse than NYC in terms of cost of living).

Aukland if you want an adventure in English that won't push you too far out of your comfort zone.

Accra if you want a true fish out of water experience that could truly change your life. I think I might be pulling for Accra, actually. I don't know if you will find love or relationships there, but I think it would offer the most in terms of broadening your horizons and changing your perspective, which is what I would personally look for in this experience.

Madrid is the best choice overall in that list if you are middle class/UMc but it also lacks that extra something that Rome has.

Paris is ok — Lyon is a much better choice in France. Parisian life starts to grate on you without serious money. Which arrondisment can you afford?

UK not worth it at all unless you work in: football, f1, or fintech. It’s really rapidly going backwards as a nation.

For me, Rome would be by far the clear choice. The QoL issues it fails vs Madrid are more than compensated by just being a straight up more interesting place to live.

Anonymous

11/07/2021 08:54 Subject: Re:From a dating and relationship perspective if You were a 37 year old straight woman

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean it isn't that easy to get a working visa abroad. I don't know. I'd move to an area that matches you priorities. My choice would be west coast like Seattle or maybe Denver.

Have you seen the Seattle guys ? They are all in poly relationships and always look high.

Tons of Asian and Indian dudes in Seattle that are neither.

Anonymous

11/07/2021 08:44 Subject: From a dating and relationship perspective if You were a 37 year old straight woman

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes I'll be working, my job can be done anywhere and it's not difficult to get a visa. I want to be able to date but also I just want to experience something different that my small down suburban life I've been living for the last 30+ decades.

My actual options are

UK London , Yorkshire, and Glasgow.

Paris, France

Madrid, Spain

Aukland, New Zealand

Rome, Italy

Accra, Ghana

These are amazing options. But offer such different experiences. I mean Paris/Madrid/Rome are going to be pretty similar, but otherwise a lot of diversity here.

Of Paris/Madrid/Rome, I'd pick Paris or Madrid. I love Italy but Rome gets old quicker than you think -- Italians are very family oriented and dating there can feel very claustrophobic. Do you speak French or Spanish? I'd pick the one I had the best language skills for, or that I was most interested in learning.

Of the UK options I'd personally pick Glasgow, even though I've always wanted to live in London. Glasgow is a more approachable/livable city, but still big enough to have plenty of expats and be welcoming to outsiders. I can't speak to Yorkshire. London is great but just insanely expensive and I would not want to be there longterm unless I was rich (like rich, rich, not just well off -- it's worse than NYC in terms of cost of living).

Aukland if you want an adventure in English that won't push you too far out of your comfort zone.

Accra if you want a true fish out of water experience that could truly change your life. I think I might be pulling for Accra, actually. I don't know if you will find love or relationships there, but I think it would offer the most in terms of broadening your horizons and changing your perspective, which is what I would personally look for in this experience.

Anonymous

11/07/2021 08:01 Subject: From a dating and relationship perspective if You were a 37 year old straight woman

OP here. Yes I'll be working, my job can be done anywhere and it's not difficult to get a visa. I want to be able to date but also I just want to experience something different that my small down suburban life I've been living for the last 30+ decades.

My actual options are

UK London , Yorkshire, and Glasgow.

Paris, France

Madrid, Spain

Aukland, New Zealand

Rome, Italy

Accra, Ghana

Anonymous

11/07/2021 07:55 Subject: Re:From a dating and relationship perspective if You were a 37 year old straight woman

Not NYC. So many gorgeous women here, so few available men. The numbers are terrible for women. Every place I go on a Friday or Saturday, the numbers are horribly skewed in my favor favor.

In Europe, “American woman” makes them think easy sex.

I’d probably tell you to go to Australia, if you want English speaking. Or France or Italy if you really want to be pursued in an up-front manner (those men are shameless).

Anonymous

11/07/2021 07:48 Subject: From a dating and relationship perspective if You were a 37 year old straight woman

Probably Texas or Florida. Out of the country, not sure but I would love to visit Ireland.

Anonymous

11/07/2021 01:59 Subject: Re:From a dating and relationship perspective if You were a 37 year old straight woman

Anonymous wrote:Dallas.

HAHAHA. No.

Anonymous

11/07/2021 01:46 Subject: Re:From a dating and relationship perspective if You were a 37 year old straight woman

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean it isn't that easy to get a working visa abroad. I don't know. I'd move to an area that matches you priorities. My choice would be west coast like Seattle or maybe Denver.

Have you seen the Seattle guys ? They are all in poly relationships and always look high.

I'm from Seattle. There are more tech geeks and engineers than in most towns. I like those types.

NP. Ew. Seattle people are weird, so I guess that explains why you like them.

OP, never move to the PNW. Google "Seattle freeze". A lot of the people are awkward, unfriendly, and incredibly dull.

NP. Just love when people come on DCUM to make vast proclamations about entire regions and entire populations as if they were God and knew every person there individually.

If I'd believed in some mythical "Seattle freeze" or that "Seattle people are weird," I wouldn't have met the very non-geeky, never awkward, outgoing person sitting next to me who epitomizes Seattle cool. Oh, plus, it's a great city for those who bother to give it a try.

But you do you, PP who thinks you know everything. Don't come back to make yourself feel better by trying to tell me I found the one and only great guy in all Seattle, either, because, well -- I know a lot of his friends and they're pretty damn cool too. You'll never know, though, since you seem to be incapable of seeing individuals but only see....whatever it is you found on Google about how dull Seattle folks are.

You've never lived there, so stop opining about something youre clueless about. People talk about it, because it's true. Anyway... moving on to non-clueless people...

Anonymous

11/05/2021 18:13 Subject: From a dating and relationship perspective if You were a 37 year old straight woman

Anonymous wrote:With no kids, or major responsibilities and could move anywhere in the world, where would you choose to go?

Is this with a purpose of getting married?

Do you have to work?

Anonymous

11/05/2021 18:01 Subject: Re:From a dating and relationship perspective if You were a 37 year old straight woman

Anonymous wrote:London

This is terrible advice. I say so as an American who went to London University.

There's much positive to be said for the Brits, but they are generally bumbling idiots in the courtship department.

Go to France or Italy. They will make you swoon, OP.