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Yeah, I don't see my dating life as an income stream!

It would have ZERO influence on my decision about whether I wanted to pursue a relationship with someone. Zero.

I'm not impressed by $1m if the person is 30+, rather I would almost expect it because I have more and I find it a turnoff to have to financially support a long term partner. For a short term fling, money is almost irrelevant. I'd be happy to date anyone good looking, intelligent, kind and fun, regardless of their money situation.

I’ve had men worth hundreds of millions pursue me and I was no more likely to accept their advances than I was a regular guy. If anything, even less, because I’d assume they were on the sleazy/slutty side and held them to a much higher standard. And I’m definitely not interested in a guy who has to rely on his money to impress women, I assume if he needs to do that, he brings little else to the table.

I once dumped a guy who was the only son of a billionaire because he was a huge republican & trump supporter. So, some things cannot be overcome.

My gut reaction is gross.

However, let's say this person isn't an a$$ about disclosing money. Two thoughts 1) is this person cheap and controlling or insecure about money or 2) are they a spendthrift and buy luxury items because of their "wealth."

Either of those two people are a hard no financially for me.

Fwiw I have a network well over 1 million as a woman so the money itself doesn't matter to me. However I wouldn't want to be married to someone that doesn't have the same financial sense as me.

Even with a divorce I have a million, not counting pension. Plan to have 3-4 million by the time I retire.

I’m a financially secure 48 year old divorced woman and this wouldn’t play into how I felt at all. Maybe it’s because I have my own money? I have a friend who is not as financially secure as I am who once dated a guy who she found out well after they started dating had millions. It definitely impacted her view of him and I think she kept him around a lot longer than she should have due to his money. For myself it doesn’t matter. As long as a guy can pay his bills and is financially responsible that’s all that matters to me.

I think this is a super weird question. $500k in a condo and $500 in retirement? So what? That is not going to have any impact in daily life. Those are assets you can't touch. Who cares?

It really has no bearing. It would not have mattered in my 20s and it does not matter now.

FWIW, I am in my 40s and 2 million in the same scenario is the same. So what? My net worth is low for around here (800k) and I am divorced (all of that net worth is my own cash and retirement...no divorce settlement). Having that does not make me wealthy. It means I can retire.

If he managed to tell me this in the first few dates it would give me MAJOR ick vibes. I think most people want a partner that is financially secure, but if you have to use wealth as a way to woo someone, your personality must suck. Being with some insecure jackhole is not worth $1M to me.

Anonymous wrote:Let’s say you found out that a guy who is interested in you had $1 million, say a paid-off $500,000 condo and $500,000 in savings. How much more likely are you to accept his advances (say on a scale of 1 to 5, with 1 being no change and 5 being very likely)? How old are you? The question is geared more towards younger women but for older women, the dollar amount could be adjusted to say $2 million.

no change. My brother got a $1 million dollar grant--his ex-wife took his money and ran. He lives in a tiny suburban apt and rarely sees his kids. Not being poor greatly improves happiness --there is a huge difference between $25K and $75. Not much difference between $925K and $1M. What the saying -- "Me Golddigger, like whore but smarter"?

Lots of white collared people save $1M by the time they are 35,45, or 55. It’s called not wasting money.

I got married at 27 so I’m putting myself in my 20 something shoes.

I absolutely intentionally dated men I thought had a bright financial future. This is *some* evidence but if it were inherited or given to him by his parents it would count for nothing. Also I was very turned off by men more than a couple years older than me, so I would have been extra concerned it wasn’t his own earned income, and maybe instead a bail out from parents who suspected he was a screw up. But if he had earned it himself, and was also a 20-something, I’d consider it a plus factor.

Cash on hand doesn't matter. What matters is money sense. Of course if somebody is 30 and has no cash on hand that's a red flag, but what matters in a relationship is being on the same page with spending, saving, and how much time you want to devote to a career. It's actually not that hard to blow a million dollars in a year if you start comparing yourself to millionaires. I'd way rather date somebody who was renting, had a stable job, and had a solid plan for retirement. And who valued relationships over career.