When she suddenly became super-duper critical, and started making critical comments about the most trivial things I did. Suddenly, I could do absolutely nothing right. Also, she revised her understanding of the entire history of our relationship such that I had never done anything right, ever. And there were crazy accusations - for example, she said the engagement ring I bought her had fake diamonds. Wouldn't even matter that I could show her the receipt for it, if you're at the point where she can even think that about you, you're done.

When I read posts in this forum by women complaining about their DH doing this and that thing wrong, I know exactly what that is. She might not be at the point of not loving him any more, but she's well on the way.

When he mistreated our toddler.

When he a) screamed at me and humiliated me in public - after I had supported him for months during a breakdown; b) when he told me to go back to my home country and not come back; c) when he screamed at me that he would no longer sponsor my visa (not in US - another country where my residence depended on his job); d) when he took a very deliberate decision to embark on an action that I did not agree with and had been clear from the start of our relationship that I would never agree with it (religious practice); e) when he told me that he had always known he would take that action. (ie when I realized that he had lied to me from the start and that out relationship was based on a lie as there would NOT have been a second date had he been truthful).

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When she said she couldn’t believe it but she was in love with two people.

"Neither of them is you, though. Sorry, honey."

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When she said she couldn’t believe it but she was in love with two people.

Wow I can’t believe it my XDH said that to me too it was a secretary in his office

Anonymous wrote:Didn’t care if I lived or died.

My narc ex said he HOPED I died, then the kids would have to love him better. He said this in front of the 4 year old.

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Anonymous wrote:When she said so.

Same for me. I got the I love you but not in love with you talk

The kiss of death. When a woman says this to you, there's no coming back from it.

Anonymous wrote:When she said so.

Same for me. I got the I love you but not in love with you talk

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Anonymous wrote:When she would rather masturbate than have sex with me. Been going on 2 months with no sex. I’m ready to leave

You think masturbation means your spouse doesn’t love you? Yikes, dude. You’re too delicate for a long-term relationship.

Masturbating instead of sex, ever is a red flag. Agree two months is sort of par for the course in marriage some of the time but also agree men start to go crazy and cheat or leave if denied for a while

Two months would definitely be a sign in my marriage.

I think it's a sign of poor emotional and interpersonal maturity on both their parts.

People can still love each other but not have sex. My marriage is sexless but my wife definitely loves me.

I am not saying this is sustainable or we will grow old together.

Anonymous wrote:He told me to abort our second child.

He told me to abort our first.

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Anonymous wrote:When she would rather masturbate than have sex with me. Been going on 2 months with no sex. I’m ready to leave

You think masturbation means your spouse doesn’t love you? Yikes, dude. You’re too delicate for a long-term relationship.

Masturbating instead of sex, ever is a red flag. Agree two months is sort of par for the course in marriage some of the time but also agree men start to go crazy and cheat or leave if denied for a while

No, no it isn’t.

Right after the birth of our second child, I had to go to the OR for a D&C due to retained placenta. He never said bye or came over or even looked at me as I was wheeled away.

Didn’t care if I lived or died.

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When she said she couldn’t believe it but she was in love with two people.

Weren't you one of them?

Yes, but we were married and she really meant it for her lover and not me. It just was a platitude that was uttered on the way out the door.