Anonymous
Post 11/02/2021 20:12     Subject: Curfew for HS junior
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We don’t give a blanket curfew. The kids have to come tell us what they want to do, who’ll be there when they think it’s reasonable to get home, and we discuss from there. Could be 10:30, could be the next morning.


This is a little too free for a junior in HS.

I agree. Way to young for this.


I'm the PP with that se-up and I think it's MUCH better than saying "go wherever you want as long as you're home by midnight." It makes so much more sense to say "What do you want to do? Go to this event at school that ends at 10pm and then walk to the diner with your friends? And you want us to pick you up when?" Then they suggest a time and we agree or suggest an alternate time. Maybe they want to go from the diner to sleep over at a friend's house. Maybe they want us to pick them up after an hour. But we know exactly where they are and who they'll be with.


Wow way too controlling.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2021 18:21     Subject: Re:Curfew for HS junior
Where we live it’s 11 for <18 so we follow that. 9pm on school nights
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2021 17:45     Subject: Curfew for HS junior
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We don’t give a blanket curfew. The kids have to come tell us what they want to do, who’ll be there when they think it’s reasonable to get home, and we discuss from there. Could be 10:30, could be the next morning.



This is a little too free for a junior in HS.


NP This was the guidelines for me. As long as my mom had an idea where I was going/doing and when I’d be back, no problem. If the time was going to change dramatically, she just wanted a heads up. I was also a kid who could be trusted not to get into trouble, but I could have. If I broke that trust, I would’ve been leashed.


NP here too. My DS is a junior and we have the same attitude. No curfew, but need to know where you are and who with. He doesn’t abuse it but knows if he loses my trust, it’s game over.
I grew up with a crazy strict curfew that lead to me sneaking out of the house or lying about staying at a friends house, just so I could hang with my friends who had normal curfews at this same age. I’m not going to repeat my parents mistake.


+1
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2021 17:44     Subject: Curfew for HS junior
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We don’t give a blanket curfew. The kids have to come tell us what they want to do, who’ll be there when they think it’s reasonable to get home, and we discuss from there. Could be 10:30, could be the next morning.


This is a little too free for a junior in HS.

I agree. Way to young for this.


I'm the PP with that se-up and I think it's MUCH better than saying "go wherever you want as long as you're home by midnight." It makes so much more sense to say "What do you want to do? Go to this event at school that ends at 10pm and then walk to the diner with your friends? And you want us to pick you up when?" Then they suggest a time and we agree or suggest an alternate time. Maybe they want to go from the diner to sleep over at a friend's house. Maybe they want us to pick them up after an hour. But we know exactly where they are and who they'll be with.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2021 16:23     Subject: Curfew for HS junior
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My teen is starting to go out with friends more and I’m having to figure out what curfew should be for the first time. He’s a responsible good kid and I trust him but he has a new group of friends that I don’t know. Apparently, their parents let them stay out much later than I’m comfortable with so trying to get a sense of what is reasonable on the weekends. If he’s driving, he has a midnight curfew and I see no reason for it to be later when he’s not, unless it’s for a particular reason we discuss ahead of time. Curious what others allow.


They really shouldn't h be going out with delta variant wait till everyone gets boosters


Shut up


dp You don't have to agree but, everyone is entitled to their opinion and given respect.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2021 16:16     Subject: Curfew for HS junior
Anonymous wrote:Our junior is young (late spring bday), curfew is 10 on weekdays and 11 on weekends but allow later for special occasions. Phone must be on (so we can track if necessary) and they must tell us where they are.



This is pretty much what we do.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2021 16:12     Subject: Curfew for HS junior
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We don’t give a blanket curfew. The kids have to come tell us what they want to do, who’ll be there when they think it’s reasonable to get home, and we discuss from there. Could be 10:30, could be the next morning.



This is a little too free for a junior in HS.

I agree. Way to young for this.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2021 04:58     Subject: Curfew for HS junior
Our junior is young (late spring bday), curfew is 10 on weekdays and 11 on weekends but allow later for special occasions. Phone must be on (so we can track if necessary) and they must tell us where they are.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2021 00:30     Subject: Curfew for HS junior
The VA curfew for under 18 is midnight, so we go with that. There are some times when there are exceptions... concerts, movies, etc.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2021 23:23     Subject: Re:Curfew for HS junior
DS and DD (twins) have a midnight curfew on weekends. Interestingly, DS’s girlfriend doesn’t have a curfew at all (never has) and she generally wants to go home way before midnight. While my kids walk in at the stroke of 12 and not a second sooner.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2021 19:49     Subject: Re:Curfew for HS junior
My almost 16 year old doesn’t have one but doesn’t need one either…so far. Most outings end at a reasonable time. The few that go later are special occasions (hoco - at the school) or at a friend’s house that I know.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2021 15:16     Subject: Curfew for HS junior
11pm is our curfew for juniors. Assuming good grades, cleaned room, no major issues.

Sure there are exceptions for special occasions, but you should be in my home or an authorized friend’s home by curfew. I do follow up if at a friends house. Mostly sleep overs were finished by that point anyways.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2021 15:12     Subject: Re:Curfew for HS junior
And they must keep their location shared with you on their phone. No exceptions.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2021 15:10     Subject: Curfew for HS junior
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We don’t give a blanket curfew. The kids have to come tell us what they want to do, who’ll be there when they think it’s reasonable to get home, and we discuss from there. Could be 10:30, could be the next morning.



This is a little too free for a junior in HS.


NP This was the guidelines for me. As long as my mom had an idea where I was going/doing and when I’d be back, no problem. If the time was going to change dramatically, she just wanted a heads up. I was also a kid who could be trusted not to get into trouble, but I could have. If I broke that trust, I would’ve been leashed.


NP here too. My DS is a junior and we have the same attitude. No curfew, but need to know where you are and who with. He doesn’t abuse it but knows if he loses my trust, it’s game over.
I grew up with a crazy strict curfew that lead to me sneaking out of the house or lying about staying at a friends house, just so I could hang with my friends who had normal curfews at this same age. I’m not going to repeat my parents mistake.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2021 15:06     Subject: Curfew for HS junior
Our default curfew was midnight, and only a handful of times did he ask to stay out later.