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Anonymous wrote:If your high schooler has ADHD, how involved are you (if at all) in making sure he/she turns in assignments on time and completes the entire assignment?

My son has a 504 and I am fully involved. I help him organize his calendar, set reminders on his apple watch, sit with him EVERY DAY and go over what needs to be done while he writes a to-do list. He would simply fail otherwise, he just cannot keep track of anything. I remember his freshman year, during his 504 meeting one of the teachers asked us"if you are so involved, how will he ever learn to do it on his own? How will he do in college when he is on his own?" Well we tried backing off during his 8th grade year for 3 months, and he pretty much failed every class. I have 3 kids, my other two are incredible independent and I never worry about their homework because they remember what they need to do and take a reasonable time to complete tasks. My ADHD kid will not be able to handle college on his own, sending him to college is setting him up to fail. He will need to attend a local college, take only a couple of classes per semester and, if necessary, live at home while doing that. We want him to get a degree and he wants to get a degree, but he understands his own struggles. In the end, the only difference is that it will take him a bit longer to get there and he needs to study something he loves because he is hyperfocused when he does things he loves to do.

Why are you sending him to college? Has he ever tried a trade? Carpentry, plumbing, etc.? He might really enjoy that. I would hate having to go to regular school in his situation.

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:If your high schooler has ADHD, how involved are you (if at all) in making sure he/she turns in assignments on time and completes the entire assignment?

My son has a 504 and I am fully involved. I help him organize his calendar, set reminders on his apple watch, sit with him EVERY DAY and go over what needs to be done while he writes a to-do list. He would simply fail otherwise, he just cannot keep track of anything. I remember his freshman year, during his 504 meeting one of the teachers asked us"if you are so involved, how will he ever learn to do it on his own? How will he do in college when he is on his own?" Well we tried backing off during his 8th grade year for 3 months, and he pretty much failed every class. I have 3 kids, my other two are incredible independent and I never worry about their homework because they remember what they need to do and take a reasonable time to complete tasks. My ADHD kid will not be able to handle college on his own, sending him to college is setting him up to fail. He will need to attend a local college, take only a couple of classes per semester and, if necessary, live at home while doing that. We want him to get a degree and he wants to get a degree, but he understands his own struggles. In the end, the only difference is that it will take him a bit longer to get there and he needs to study something he loves because he is hyperfocused when he does things he loves to do.

This was my DS in middle school and first two years of high school. It was a hot, stressful mess. I prayed DS would be able to graduate high school. He switched to a smaller private high school in 11th grade. The staff helped him organize and stay on top of his work. But, there were still lots of reminders up until weekend before graduation so he could graduate. He is now a freshman in college majoring in computer science and so far he is keeping it all together and staying on top of things. There are lots of resources in place at college, actually more than high school. I am quite amazed to be honest. Students just need to avail themselves of the support. DS has accommodations like extra time on tests, recording notes, and taking tests in a quiet room if needed. The college schedule is more manageable too because unlike high school, where DS would have 6 subjects and classes a day and tons of homework, in college he has a maximum of 5 classes or 16 hours and may have at the most three classes in one day. Some days he may have one or two. Classes do not meet every day like in high school. He seems to have enough time to study and get assignments done. There are also study sessions for students to prep for tests and lots of tutors available. The professors in college have office hours and encourage students to come see them for help. DS has already scheduled several appointments with his math and computer science professors. DS meets with his advisor in his major department to go over his class schedule before registering for classes each semester to make sure he is staying on track with his major. I never thought I would say this but college for DS is more manageable so far than high school. I never, ever imagined this but am thrilled for DS.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your high schooler has ADHD, how involved are you (if at all) in making sure he/she turns in assignments on time and completes the entire assignment?

My son has a 504 and I am fully involved. I help him organize his calendar, set reminders on his apple watch, sit with him EVERY DAY and go over what needs to be done while he writes a to-do list. He would simply fail otherwise, he just cannot keep track of anything. I remember his freshman year, during his 504 meeting one of the teachers asked us"if you are so involved, how will he ever learn to do it on his own? How will he do in college when he is on his own?" Well we tried backing off during his 8th grade year for 3 months, and he pretty much failed every class. I have 3 kids, my other two are incredible independent and I never worry about their homework because they remember what they need to do and take a reasonable time to complete tasks. My ADHD kid will not be able to handle college on his own, sending him to college is setting him up to fail. He will need to attend a local college, take only a couple of classes per semester and, if necessary, live at home while doing that. We want him to get a degree and he wants to get a degree, but he understands his own struggles. In the end, the only difference is that it will take him a bit longer to get there and he needs to study something he loves because he is hyperfocused when he does things he loves to do.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your high schooler has ADHD, how involved are you (if at all) in making sure he/she turns in assignments on time and completes the entire assignment?

My son has a 504 and I am fully involved. I help him organize his calendar, set reminders on his apple watch, sit with him EVERY DAY and go over what needs to be done while he writes a to-do list. He would simply fail otherwise, he just cannot keep track of anything. I remember his freshman year, during his 504 meeting one of the teachers asked us"if you are so involved, how will he ever learn to do it on his own? How will he do in college when he is on his own?" Well we tried backing off during his 8th grade year for 3 months, and he pretty much failed every class. I have 3 kids, my other two are incredible independent and I never worry about their homework because they remember what they need to do and take a reasonable time to complete tasks. My ADHD kid will not be able to handle college on his own, sending him to college is setting him up to fail. He will need to attend a local college, take only a couple of classes per semester and, if necessary, live at home while doing that. We want him to get a degree and he wants to get a degree, but he understands his own struggles. In the end, the only difference is that it will take him a bit longer to get there and he needs to study something he loves because he is hyperfocused when he does things he loves to do.

My son is only in 6th and this is also us. He has many strengths, but I’m not starting him off at a four year college. CC with a state school transfer is a much better plan. And I want to make sure he’s employable (period) before I even think about what type of job.

It bugs me when teachers say things like that, and I’m a 20 year veteran of the profession.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your high schooler has ADHD, how involved are you (if at all) in making sure he/she turns in assignments on time and completes the entire assignment?

My son has a 504 and I am fully involved. I help him organize his calendar, set reminders on his apple watch, sit with him EVERY DAY and go over what needs to be done while he writes a to-do list. He would simply fail otherwise, he just cannot keep track of anything. I remember his freshman year, during his 504 meeting one of the teachers asked us"if you are so involved, how will he ever learn to do it on his own? How will he do in college when he is on his own?" Well we tried backing off during his 8th grade year for 3 months, and he pretty much failed every class. I have 3 kids, my other two are incredible independent and I never worry about their homework because they remember what they need to do and take a reasonable time to complete tasks. My ADHD kid will not be able to handle college on his own, sending him to college is setting him up to fail. He will need to attend a local college, take only a couple of classes per semester and, if necessary, live at home while doing that. We want him to get a degree and he wants to get a degree, but he understands his own struggles. In the end, the only difference is that it will take him a bit longer to get there and he needs to study something he loves because he is hyperfocused when he does things he loves to do.

Why are you sending him to college? Has he ever tried a trade? Carpentry, plumbing, etc.? He might really enjoy that. I would hate having to go to regular school in his situation.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your high schooler has ADHD, how involved are you (if at all) in making sure he/she turns in assignments on time and completes the entire assignment?

My son has a 504 and I am fully involved. I help him organize his calendar, set reminders on his apple watch, sit with him EVERY DAY and go over what needs to be done while he writes a to-do list. He would simply fail otherwise, he just cannot keep track of anything. I remember his freshman year, during his 504 meeting one of the teachers asked us"if you are so involved, how will he ever learn to do it on his own? How will he do in college when he is on his own?" Well we tried backing off during his 8th grade year for 3 months, and he pretty much failed every class. I have 3 kids, my other two are incredible independent and I never worry about their homework because they remember what they need to do and take a reasonable time to complete tasks. My ADHD kid will not be able to handle college on his own, sending him to college is setting him up to fail. He will need to attend a local college, take only a couple of classes per semester and, if necessary, live at home while doing that. We want him to get a degree and he wants to get a degree, but he understands his own struggles. In the end, the only difference is that it will take him a bit longer to get there and he needs to study something he loves because he is hyperfocused when he does things he loves to do.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your high schooler has ADHD, how involved are you (if at all) in making sure he/she turns in assignments on time and completes the entire assignment?

My son has a 504 and I am fully involved. I help him organize his calendar, set reminders on his apple watch, sit with him EVERY DAY and go over what needs to be done while he writes a to-do list. He would simply fail otherwise, he just cannot keep track of anything. I remember his freshman year, during his 504 meeting one of the teachers asked us"if you are so involved, how will he ever learn to do it on his own? How will he do in college when he is on his own?" Well we tried backing off during his 8th grade year for 3 months, and he pretty much failed every class. I have 3 kids, my other two are incredible independent and I never worry about their homework because they remember what they need to do and take a reasonable time to complete tasks. My ADHD kid will not be able to handle college on his own, sending him to college is setting him up to fail. He will need to attend a local college, take only a couple of classes per semester and, if necessary, live at home while doing that. We want him to get a degree and he wants to get a degree, but he understands his own struggles. In the end, the only difference is that it will take him a bit longer to get there and he needs to study something he loves because he is hyperfocused when he does things he loves to do.