Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I get it, but if you have a lot of weight to lose, 15 pounds doesn’t make much of a physical/appearance difference. One pant size is just not that noticeable, to the point where I basically keep size 12 and size 14 hanging in my closet, and use them as I need them.

You’re taking care of your body and your health is improving, that is the important thing. You are reducing your risk of diseases and diabetes and bad joints and a whole host of other medical issues. That should be your motivation, not a few compliments.

I hate when people comment on my weight, up or down, and I would never compliment someone unless they specifically told me they were making efforts to lose weight.

This. Last year, I lost 20 pounds. Only one person asked if I'd lost weight. She said she noticed it in my face.

I then lost another 15 or so. A couple of people said something. I got a few little sideways quizzical looks with a "have you lost weight????" I'm like yeaaahhh. 38 pounds (and it's a question? - ha)

It probably won't be evident until you've gone down 2 or maybe even3 sizes (sorry). It wasn't till I hit 50-60 pounds, and then everyone was when did you get skinny?

In high school, a friend who was overweight (but not obese) complained about how much she hated that every time her relatives saw her they would say "oh, you look great, did you lose weight?" because she would always want to say "how fat did you think I was before?"

At that point I pledged to never comment on anyone's weight loss.

It doesn't mean they haven't noticed. I never comment on peoples' weight loss, even just to say they look great, because lots of people are offended by it.

However, if they bring it up first, that is a different story. If you want compliments, you can mention that you have been working on eating healthy/exercising and people will likely respond with positive feedback.

People that see you everyday won’t notice until they see a side by side photo. People that see you rarely won’t notice until it’s in the 50lb lost range because they don’t really remember how large you were.

Even when they do notice, most people won’t say anything because it’s rude (grandmothers aside).

Sorry, I get it, but if you have a lot of weight to lose, 15 pounds doesn’t make much of a physical/appearance difference. One pant size is just not that noticeable, to the point where I basically keep size 12 and size 14 hanging in my closet, and use them as I need them.

You’re taking care of your body and your health is improving, that is the important thing. You are reducing your risk of diseases and diabetes and bad joints and a whole host of other medical issues. That should be your motivation, not a few compliments.

I hate when people comment on my weight, up or down, and I would never compliment someone unless they specifically told me they were making efforts to lose weight.

I lost over 30 pounds an no one said anything. My husband said he could totally tell but he knew I was trying. I mentioned it to one of my good friends and she said she thought I looked thinner but didn't want to say anything. I think people just avoid saying anything about other people's weight.

It's rude to comment on weight... and it's probably not even that noticeable.

Anonymous wrote:Once I lost a ton of weight and EVERYBODY commented about it how good I looked and it sucked because if was because I had a brush with death thanks to IBD and sepsis. It felt like “wow you should keep being deathly ill so that I will like your body more!”

Point being: I appreciate it when people do not comment on my weight.

Once I lost a ton of weight and EVERYBODY commented about it how good I looked and it sucked because if was because I had a brush with death thanks to IBD and sepsis. It felt like “wow you should keep being deathly ill so that I will like your body more!”

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Anonymous wrote:Many people consider it rude to comment on weight loss.

+1 I don’t comment on anyone’s body size/shape ever. I’ll compliment an outfit, a haircut, but never anything about weight.

Agree! I hate when people comment on my appearance. I never comment on other people’s appearance.

It wasn't until I lost 40 lbs (188-148) that anyone commented and even then it was only a handful of people.

I never mention weight loss or gain if I’ve noticed. I don’t want to seem rude if I’m wrong, if the person is sensitive to the topic, person is pregnant or something else. But keep it up! That’s a huge accomplishment. You may also want to mention it to people you want to recognize the feat - it gives me permission to comment and praise you.

My weight has been the same, plus or minus 5 pounds, for 15 years and at least once a year someone I know will go on and on about how much weight I’ve lost. It’s often said in a group and I find it incredibly annoying. I would never comment on someone else’s weight - it is rude and overly personal.

That happened to me too and I was relieved! Saying “wow you look good” after weight loss is the same as “you don’t look good when you are fatter.” Plus if you regain the weight you know what they’ll be thinking about your body.

I lost 60 pounds 230-170ish and only two people commented on it.