Anonymous
Post 10/28/2021 06:07     Subject: If you’ve been married 20+ years
Infertility strained our marriage for 5 years. We looked into treatments, but I didn't want to put my body through that. Dh fell into depression. We grew apart. At some point, we decided to put the issue behind us and look into fostering to adopt. We started taking various classes together and exercising together. I soon became pregnant and our marriage became stronger. We have 3 kids now and are happy.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2021 05:58     Subject: If you’ve been married 20+ years
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Teenagers. Even the good ones make dumb decisions.

Trying to reconnect when the kids leave for college and one of us (me) has been a SAHM for so long


Why does the SAHM make a difference? SAHMs are always saying on here how busy they are with their volunteering and hobbies.


Because my identity was wrapped up in being a mom. All of my volunteer activities revolved around PTA, soccer, field hockey and dance things my kids were involved in. For over 22 years. Once the kids were gone, I had to rediscover who *I* was, outside of Larla and Larlo's mom.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2021 04:42     Subject: If you’ve been married 20+ years
Interfering MIL. I thought we would divorce. Time resolved the issue as well as me backing away from MIL. We also moved away.

Went through infertility/IVF but that was a piece of cake compared to dealing with MIL.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2021 04:15     Subject: If you’ve been married 20+ years
Retirement.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2021 04:05     Subject: Re:If you’ve been married 20+ years
The loss of all passion. Realizing in your late 40s you will never have passionate sex again because your spouse just doesn't like sex anymore. Hard to deal with, there is no good solution for this.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2021 22:50     Subject: Re:If you’ve been married 20+ years
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Year 20. Infidelity. I never saw it coming. Completely blindsided.


He met a woman on AM that you have trashed here for two years?


Ah. No. Work colleague.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2021 22:06     Subject: If you’ve been married 20+ years
22 years and still going strong (I think). Navigating disagreements in parenting has been the hardest. Like when we had to deal with our child’s weight struggles when he was younger.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2021 22:00     Subject: If you’ve been married 20+ years
Anonymous wrote:Teenagers. Even the good ones make dumb decisions.

Trying to reconnect when the kids leave for college and one of us (me) has been a SAHM for so long


Agree on teenagers. My teen boys are so tough. Luckily our connection to each other has gotten us through it
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2021 21:59     Subject: Re:If you’ve been married 20+ years
Anonymous wrote:Together 28 years married 22 years and the hardest has been the contempt and disdain I have felt for my husband throughout the years.


Contempt and disdain for what?
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2021 21:58     Subject: If you’ve been married 20+ years
Anonymous wrote:Teenagers. Even the good ones make dumb decisions.

Trying to reconnect when the kids leave for college and one of us (me) has been a SAHM for so long


Why does the SAHM make a difference? SAHMs are always saying on here how busy they are with their volunteering and hobbies.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2021 21:58     Subject: Re:If you’ve been married 20+ years
Together 28 years married 22 years and the hardest has been the contempt and disdain I have felt for my husband throughout the years.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2021 21:55     Subject: If you’ve been married 20+ years
Teenagers. Even the good ones make dumb decisions.

Trying to reconnect when the kids leave for college and one of us (me) has been a SAHM for so long
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2021 21:46     Subject: Re:If you’ve been married 20+ years
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Raising two children with social needs
that should be special needs


Wow, sorry. We have one with special needs and it killed our marriage.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2021 21:33     Subject: Re:If you’ve been married 20+ years
Anonymous wrote:Raising two children with social needs
that should be special needs
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2021 21:26     Subject: Re:If you’ve been married 20+ years
Raising two children with social needs