Anonymous wrote:A typical baby sleeps at least 4-5 hours during the work day.

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Anonymous wrote:I understand where your husband is coming from. Do you truly have an infant? As in four weeks old? In that case, disregard. I am more surprised you can work with the lack of sleep.

A typical baby sleeps at least 4-5 hours during the work day. You’re saying you work PT. Isn’t PT 4-5 hours? You should have a 2 hour nap stretch in the morning and another 2-3 in the PM. You say you’re interrupted by feeding. Except for cluster feeding, which is very early on and typically early evenings, the child should be on more of a schedule and feed every 2-3 hours. Again, enough time for you to work.

I had a baby and hired a nanny because I was supposed to. Until my child was walking, it wasn’t really necessary. There was a time window in the morning when I often had meetings and used the nanny. Besides that, it was easy to have the child on a playmat, carrier or the child was sleeping. It was kind of a waste and awkward having the nanny there with so little to do. I remember I hired a cleaner for the first time and during maternity leave it was comical because the only thing I Did was go on a walk when my cleaner was at my house. I could have easily cleaned with the baby but had been so scared precooked into ordering frozen dishes and having cleaners lined up.

There is a reason babies don’t do much - they haven’t developed and people couldn’t have additional kids if a baby was truly a FT job. Unless you have a child with a developmental disorder or illness, it’s not that hard. Get your kid on a schedule, naps aren’t optional and be religious about sleep. Once you’re strict with a schedule, it’s pretty easy. I mean a baby sleeps every afternoon! I’d love my child to now take afternoon naps.

Or maybe you’re back at work at four weeks but I didn’t catch that from your post.

It’s awesome that you had an easy baby, easy recovery and easy enough job to accomplish everything you listed. That’s not the experience everyone has. It’s also a little surprising to hear someone say that the supports they had and relied on are unnecessary and easy to do without. I’m sure it’s easy to have the baby in the room playing while you’re working, knowing you can have the nanny take the baby to a different area if they become distracting to you. That doesn’t mean your nanny wasn’t necessary or helpful.

Anonymous wrote:I understand where your husband is coming from. Do you truly have an infant? As in four weeks old? In that case, disregard. I am more surprised you can work with the lack of sleep.

A typical baby sleeps at least 4-5 hours during the work day. You’re saying you work PT. Isn’t PT 4-5 hours? You should have a 2 hour nap stretch in the morning and another 2-3 in the PM. You say you’re interrupted by feeding. Except for cluster feeding, which is very early on and typically early evenings, the child should be on more of a schedule and feed every 2-3 hours. Again, enough time for you to work.

I had a baby and hired a nanny because I was supposed to. Until my child was walking, it wasn’t really necessary. There was a time window in the morning when I often had meetings and used the nanny. Besides that, it was easy to have the child on a playmat, carrier or the child was sleeping. It was kind of a waste and awkward having the nanny there with so little to do. I remember I hired a cleaner for the first time and during maternity leave it was comical because the only thing I Did was go on a walk when my cleaner was at my house. I could have easily cleaned with the baby but had been so scared precooked into ordering frozen dishes and having cleaners lined up.

There is a reason babies don’t do much - they haven’t developed and people couldn’t have additional kids if a baby was truly a FT job. Unless you have a child with a developmental disorder or illness, it’s not that hard. Get your kid on a schedule, naps aren’t optional and be religious about sleep. Once you’re strict with a schedule, it’s pretty easy. I mean a baby sleeps every afternoon! I’d love my child to now take afternoon naps.

Or maybe you’re back at work at four weeks but I didn’t catch that from your post.

Anonymous wrote:I understand where your husband is coming from. Do you truly have an infant? As in four weeks old? In that case, disregard. I am more surprised you can work with the lack of sleep.

A typical baby sleeps at least 4-5 hours during the work day. You’re saying you work PT. Isn’t PT 4-5 hours? You should have a 2 hour nap stretch in the morning and another 2-3 in the PM. You say you’re interrupted by feeding. Except for cluster feeding, which is very early on and typically early evenings, the child should be on more of a schedule and feed every 2-3 hours. Again, enough time for you to work.

I had a baby and hired a nanny because I was supposed to. Until my child was walking, it wasn’t really necessary. There was a time window in the morning when I often had meetings and used the nanny. Besides that, it was easy to have the child on a playmat, carrier or the child was sleeping. It was kind of a waste and awkward having the nanny there with so little to do. I remember I hired a cleaner for the first time and during maternity leave it was comical because the only thing I Did was go on a walk when my cleaner was at my house. I could have easily cleaned with the baby but had been so scared precooked into ordering frozen dishes and having cleaners lined up.

There is a reason babies don’t do much - they haven’t developed and people couldn’t have additional kids if a baby was truly a FT job. Unless you have a child with a developmental disorder or illness, it’s not that hard. Get your kid on a schedule, naps aren’t optional and be religious about sleep. Once you’re strict with a schedule, it’s pretty easy. I mean a baby sleeps every afternoon! I’d love my child to now take afternoon naps.

Or maybe you’re back at work at four weeks but I didn’t catch that from your post.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband works FT and I work PT and we have an infant son. We need to hire help because working and caring for a baby is hard work. He knows it’s tough and tries to be involved as possible, but he doesn’t think we need any help. He thinks because the baby sleeps most of the day and is only awake for a short time, I can manage throughout the day. It’s more challenging than he realizes. I have to stop working to feed and then my son gets annoyed at times and wants to be held or wants to be interacted with while he is awake. I’m going back FT next month and just don’t know how I will manage without help. I need to convince him we need to help.

Don't most jobs require you to have childcare if you WFH full-time?

I agree with the PP - take the bull by the horns and hire someone. He's not even home - how does he know how the day goes with the baby?

I know people who worked FT and still cared for their kids on their own.

Not happening these days, great-grandma.

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Anonymous wrote:What if you kept track of the times you were actually able to work over a day or two and showed him the data? Or perhaps the two of you together could keep track of the time blocks on a weekend day when work was potentially feasible, based on the baby's schedule?

You should also make sure he reads up on a baby development. Does he have any idea what a day looks like for a 3-month? A 9-month-old? Babies do not sleep all day magically until the day they enter kindergarten.

What if she didn't?

Her husband has no issue with leaving the house everyday to work FT without a worry in the world that his child is being cared for. OP stating what she needs childcare to perform her job is not something she has to prove. It's just the truth.

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Anonymous wrote:What if you kept track of the times you were actually able to work over a day or two and showed him the data? Or perhaps the two of you together could keep track of the time blocks on a weekend day when work was potentially feasible, based on the baby's schedule?

You should also make sure he reads up on a baby development. Does he have any idea what a day looks like for a 3-month? A 9-month-old? Babies do not sleep all day magically until the day they enter kindergarten.

What if she didn't?

Her husband has no issue with leaving the house everyday to work FT without a worry in the world that his child is being cared for. OP stating what she needs childcare to perform her job is not something she has to prove. It's just the truth.

Anonymous wrote:My husband works FT and I work PT and we have an infant son. We need to hire help because working and caring for a baby is hard work. He knows it’s tough and tries to be involved as possible, but he doesn’t think we need any help. He thinks because the baby sleeps most of the day and is only awake for a short time, I can manage throughout the day. It’s more challenging than he realizes. I have to stop working to feed and then my son gets annoyed at times and wants to be held or wants to be interacted with while he is awake. I’m going back FT next month and just don’t know how I will manage without help. I need to convince him we need to help.