Anonymous
Post 10/13/2021 09:02     Subject: Re:Can cheating be justified?
Two wrongs don't make a right, but people will twist themselves into a pretzel justifying their actions anyway they can.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2021 08:32     Subject: Can cheating be justified?
Justified to whom? There are consequences for your actions.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2021 08:29     Subject: Can cheating be justified?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why not get a divorce or separate or request an open marriage?

Actually I know why, because they're massive cowards.

Don't be a coward, or don't cheat. It's not that complicated.


Simple calculation. Do I risk hurting the kids and my finances with a divorce or my spouse who withholds affection IF I get caught

Not saying it's right but that's the mindset


That mindset is the mental gymnastic of a selfish coward.

Anonymous
Post 10/13/2021 08:26     Subject: Can cheating be justified?
I mean, Dahmer prob felt justified in eating those boys. Still not ok.


There are loads of self generated rationalizations we can make for anything.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2021 08:23     Subject: Can cheating be justified?
Anonymous wrote:Why not get a divorce or separate or request an open marriage?

Actually I know why, because they're massive cowards.

Don't be a coward, or don't cheat. It's not that complicated.


Simple calculation. Do I risk hurting the kids and my finances with a divorce or my spouse who withholds affection IF I get caught

Not saying it's right but that's the mindset
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2021 08:14     Subject: Can cheating be justified?
Why not get a divorce or separate or request an open marriage?

Actually I know why, because they're massive cowards.

Don't be a coward, or don't cheat. It's not that complicated.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2021 08:13     Subject: Re:Can cheating be justified?
There are some people that do not see sex as a need. More of something that's nice to have if things are right. For those people, cheating is never justified because sex is something you can go without.

Once you understand that, you understand the anti-cheating mindset.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2021 07:37     Subject: Re:Can cheating be justified?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Justified is the wrong word, since this isn't an issue of justice because there is no legal prohibition. And there isn't much of a social prohibition either (see Donald Trump cheating on his wife. While pregnant. With an adultfilm star. And no one cared).

The question is whether people can understand why someone cheats and there are countless scenarios. Doesn't minimize the pain it can cause to the person cheated on, although often times they were as much at fault.


Adultery is illegal in many states.

Not for long. There is a woke mob out there targeting all Conservative values.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2021 07:32     Subject: Can cheating be justified?
The only way to save a sexless marriage is sex outside the marriage. This is an irrefutable fact (assuming you reject “rape” as an option). And since 20% of marriages are sexless, that means 1 out of 5 marriages are justified cheating.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2021 07:25     Subject: Re:Can cheating be justified?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My sister was emotionally and physically abused by her husband. She had an affair that gave her the confidence to leave. I think it was not only justified but necessary. Assume people other than the Taliban and the anti-cheating fanatics on here would agree


And if he found out he would have killed her.0


He did and he didn't, but thanks for trying to shame her, Mr. Taliban.


Come on. About the riskiest thing you can do is get caught cheating if your spouse is a psychopath, physically abusive. She’s lucky she didn’t get caught and got out. But, yes, he’s awful and I would still have left before that. Didn’t she confide in yiu about the abuse? Didn’t you try to help her?


I knew about the emotional abuse but not the physical until she divorced. She was too embarrassed to share that part and I would have intervened. I tried to help her leave before but she had zero confidence, had gained weight, and saw herself as someone not worthy of love. I really think her affair helped her see herself in a better light.


This was me too. The affair was my only source of strength. He made me feel loved and valued. It was only when the affair ended that I felt the full impact of being alone, and that hurts like hell.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2021 07:18     Subject: Re:Can cheating be justified?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My sister was emotionally and physically abused by her husband. She had an affair that gave her the confidence to leave. I think it was not only justified but necessary. Assume people other than the Taliban and the anti-cheating fanatics on here would agree


And if he found out he would have killed her.0


He did and he didn't, but thanks for trying to shame her, Mr. Taliban.


Come on. About the riskiest thing you can do is get caught cheating if your spouse is a psychopath, physically abusive. She’s lucky she didn’t get caught and got out. But, yes, he’s awful and I would still have left before that. Didn’t she confide in yiu about the abuse? Didn’t you try to help her?


I knew about the emotional abuse but not the physical until she divorced. She was too embarrassed to share that part and I would have intervened. I tried to help her leave before but she had zero confidence, had gained weight, and saw herself as someone not worthy of love. I really think her affair helped her see herself in a better light.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2021 07:17     Subject: Can cheating be justified?
Anonymous wrote:Like when your spouse is a vegetable in assisted care home?

Imma gonna go with yes here. If I'm a veggie my spouse can "cheat" on me.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2021 07:16     Subject: Re:Can cheating be justified?
Anonymous wrote:Justified is the wrong word, since this isn't an issue of justice because there is no legal prohibition. And there isn't much of a social prohibition either (see Donald Trump cheating on his wife. While pregnant. With an adultfilm star. And no one cared).

The question is whether people can understand why someone cheats and there are countless scenarios. Doesn't minimize the pain it can cause to the person cheated on, although often times they were as much at fault.


Adultery is illegal in many states.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2021 07:16     Subject: Re:Can cheating be justified?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My sister was emotionally and physically abused by her husband. She had an affair that gave her the confidence to leave. I think it was not only justified but necessary. Assume people other than the Taliban and the anti-cheating fanatics on here would agree


And if he found out he would have killed her.0


He did and he didn't, but thanks for trying to shame her, Mr. Taliban.


Come on. About the riskiest thing you can do is get caught cheating if your spouse is a psychopath, physically abusive. She’s lucky she didn’t get caught and got out. But, yes, he’s awful and I would still have left before that. Didn’t she confide in yiu about the abuse? Didn’t you try to help her?
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2021 07:15     Subject: Re:Can cheating be justified?
Justified is the wrong word, since this isn't an issue of justice because there is no legal prohibition. And there isn't much of a social prohibition either (see Donald Trump cheating on his wife. While pregnant. With an adultfilm star. And no one cared).

The question is whether people can understand why someone cheats and there are countless scenarios. Doesn't minimize the pain it can cause to the person cheated on, although often times they were as much at fault.