Anonymous
10/13/2021 08:22
Subject: can I bring my little one to older kid's playdate?
Anonymous wrote:I've always brought my younger kid (2) along to playdates, as do my friends. I've never considered leaving her at home unless it was something like a birthday party she wasn't invited to.
But op has her husband to watch the 3 year old. Big difference.
Anonymous
10/13/2021 08:20
Subject: Re:can I bring my little one to older kid's playdate?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You people are nuts saying you can’t bring a sibling to the playground.
If you have the option, I would take the older child alone, especially if it is a first play date.
I have 3 kids. I used to have 2 boys who were exactly 2 years apart. When older one started elementary, i was the one who hosted the first play dates. I was grateful that families would invite my younger son. They didn’t have to for birthdays.
+1000. This is crazy, it is at a freaking playground. Not someone's house. Take your kid with you to the playground.
-1000. Give the older child the time and attention away from the younger one when you have a spouse at home to care for the little one. No one said it wasn’t a fricking playground. We’re saying that the older kid deserves time alone with his friend without the interference of the three year old.
NP. I find it odd to call the playground “playing alone.” What if one of them sees another school friend there? Are they gonna be like “oh sorry, you can’t join our private playdate”…?
I think the only reason not to bring the 3 yo is if the moms want to chat without interruption.
Anonymous
10/12/2021 23:10
Subject: Re:can I bring my little one to older kid's playdate?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Leave your three-year-old at home. It’s a gift to your older child, his friend, and the other parent.
I certainly wouldn’t invite you again if you brought a three year old to an elementary school play date.
+1. Let it be about your older kid and his friend.
Yes. And if OP is friends with the other mom, they can socialize peacefully.
Anonymous
10/12/2021 22:48
Subject: Re:can I bring my little one to older kid's playdate?
Anonymous wrote:Leave your three-year-old at home. It’s a gift to your older child, his friend, and the other parent.
I certainly wouldn’t invite you again if you brought a three year old to an elementary school play date.
+1. Let it be about your older kid and his friend.
Anonymous
10/12/2021 22:46
Subject: Re:can I bring my little one to older kid's playdate?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You people are nuts saying you can’t bring a sibling to the playground.
If you have the option, I would take the older child alone, especially if it is a first play date.
I have 3 kids. I used to have 2 boys who were exactly 2 years apart. When older one started elementary, i was the one who hosted the first play dates. I was grateful that families would invite my younger son. They didn’t have to for birthdays.
+1000. This is crazy, it is at a freaking playground. Not someone's house. Take your kid with you to the playground.
-1000. Give the older child the time and attention away from the younger one when you have a spouse at home to care for the little one. No one said it wasn’t a fricking playground. We’re saying that the older kid deserves time alone with his friend without the interference of the three year old.
Anonymous
10/12/2021 22:41
Subject: Re:can I bring my little one to older kid's playdate?
Anonymous wrote:You people are nuts saying you can’t bring a sibling to the playground.
If you have the option, I would take the older child alone, especially if it is a first play date.
I have 3 kids. I used to have 2 boys who were exactly 2 years apart. When older one started elementary, i was the one who hosted the first play dates. I was grateful that families would invite my younger son. They didn’t have to for birthdays.
+1000. This is crazy, it is at a freaking playground. Not someone's house. Take your kid with you to the playground.
Anonymous
10/12/2021 22:21
Subject: Re:can I bring my little one to older kid's playdate?
You people are nuts saying you can’t bring a sibling to the playground.
If you have the option, I would take the older child alone, especially if it is a first play date.
I have 3 kids. I used to have 2 boys who were exactly 2 years apart. When older one started elementary, i was the one who hosted the first play dates. I was grateful that families would invite my younger son. They didn’t have to for birthdays.
If you have the option, I would take the older child alone, especially if it is a first play date.
I have 3 kids. I used to have 2 boys who were exactly 2 years apart. When older one started elementary, i was the one who hosted the first play dates. I was grateful that families would invite my younger son. They didn’t have to for birthdays.
Anonymous
10/12/2021 22:20
Subject: can I bring my little one to older kid's playdate?
If you can’t make sure the younger doesn’t interrupt the two older kids’ play, please don’t bring him.
Anonymous
10/12/2021 22:05
Subject: can I bring my little one to older kid's playdate?
If you have the option, give the older kids a break. Your oldest and his friend as well. Sometimes having a friend’s younger sibling there too is a downer for the other kid.
Anonymous
10/12/2021 22:05
Subject: Re:can I bring my little one to older kid's playdate?
Come on, OP, give your older chil the benefit of your attention and time with his/her friend for a few hours. Leave your three year old with Dad.
Anonymous
10/12/2021 22:04
Subject: Re:can I bring my little one to older kid's playdate?
Leave your three-year-old at home. It’s a gift to your older child, his friend, and the other parent.
I certainly wouldn’t invite you again if you brought a three year old to an elementary school play date.
I certainly wouldn’t invite you again if you brought a three year old to an elementary school play date.
Anonymous
10/12/2021 20:00
Subject: can I bring my little one to older kid's playdate?
I've always brought my younger kid (2) along to playdates, as do my friends. I've never considered leaving her at home unless it was something like a birthday party she wasn't invited to.
Anonymous
10/12/2021 19:10
Subject: can I bring my little one to older kid's playdate?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm sympathetic, OP, but I'd leave him at home since your DH can watch him. It's not fair to your older kid (or his friend) to have a toddler there when you already know the little one is going to disrupt their play. And really, at almost 3, your younger one isn't going to be too sad unless you get him worked up about it. It can be a special time for him and his dad to hang out together - maybe your DH can even take him to (a different) playground.
+1
+2
+3- I have two similarly aged gapped kids and make it a point to let them have their own experiences without a sibling tagging along to totally change the dynamic.
Anonymous
10/12/2021 18:18
Subject: can I bring my little one to older kid's playdate?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm sympathetic, OP, but I'd leave him at home since your DH can watch him. It's not fair to your older kid (or his friend) to have a toddler there when you already know the little one is going to disrupt their play. And really, at almost 3, your younger one isn't going to be too sad unless you get him worked up about it. It can be a special time for him and his dad to hang out together - maybe your DH can even take him to (a different) playground.
+1
+2
Anonymous
10/12/2021 17:40
Subject: Re:can I bring my little one to older kid's playdate?
If you needed the childcare, I would say it's okay since it's a playground and not the friend's house. But since you don't need the child care, there's no reason to bring him -- he can have a good time with his father (right?!?)