Anonymous wrote:Agree that kidS are for the wealthy. We have one. Plenty of alone time, family time, time with our kid by ourselves. No idea why people have more than one. The last thing we need is to keep the population stable or increasing. Thank goodness more people are choosing none or one.

If everyone only has one then there are no siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins in the world. It’s not the worst thing, but kind of strange to grow up like that.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you posting? Go live your childfree life.

Right? The biggest loser in this thread is the single, childless person spending their free time on a parenting forum. YIKES.

I'm the OP. There are other things discussed in this forum that are of interest to me - finances, politics, etc. I happened to see a parenting thread.....geez.

You don't need to defend yourself OP. They always try to scare the guys away. I happen to agree with you, and if I were a guy, I'd happily be single, and childless until secure. I had a great life, financially independent, and wasn't into marriage. But I had my one and only with my financially independent DH. We both retired early, and my son had 2 stay at home parents which was hard at times. Too much togetherness even before pandemic. Our son is a gem. I hope he waits.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you posting? Go live your childfree life.

Right? The biggest loser in this thread is the single, childless person spending their free time on a parenting forum. YIKES.

I'm the OP. There are other things discussed in this forum that are of interest to me - finances, politics, etc. I happened to see a parenting thread.....geez.

You know most people who are posting come here to complain or ask for advice or to vent, right? Those of us with mainly uneventful parenting experiences and husbands who do their fair share don’t really post about it… because there isn’t anything to post about. So you’re getting a very skewed sample of the parent population.

Parenting was a lot more stressful when we lived in the big city. A lot of the pressure fell away when we moved to a smaller city. The cost of living is a lot lower, the pace is more relaxed, the commute is 10 minutes, the schools are less of a pressure cooker (that means happier kids/less stressed-out parents). We can even afford to do something fun on the weekends now. Going to the pumpkin farm in the DMV might cost $80 for four people just for admission. Where I live now, it's $7/person. That's just one example. Everything is more attainable here.

A lot of our parenting stress looking back was connected to living in a high-cost urban area. There are negative parenting issues unique to big cities. Mid-size cities have their issues too, but the lower cost of living creates a better quality of life.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you posting? Go live your childfree life.

Right? The biggest loser in this thread is the single, childless person spending their free time on a parenting forum. YIKES.

A dude? Like no wonder he's single - he's trolling parenting sites! What gal or guy wouldn't want to hop on that train?

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I thought this was going to be one of this absurd posts about how it’s unfair to bring kids into the world unless they can have private school and their own pony, but it’s even worse.

At least there is an excellent solution to OP’s problem: a vasectomy.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you posting? Go live your childfree life.

Right? The biggest loser in this thread is the single, childless person spending their free time on a parenting forum. YIKES.

I'm the OP. There are other things discussed in this forum that are of interest to me - finances, politics, etc. I happened to see a parenting thread.....geez.

Happened to see, and then decided to start a thread about, gloating about how great it is that you're childfree and can wait. Yea dude, all us middle aged moms are SO impressed and jealous of you

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree - it's the hell of people that cram in 3 under 3 or 2 under 2.

I have two kids, 5 years apart and it's great. 0 fighting in my home. The older one helps out with the younger.

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7 yr apart and older DD was like a mother hen to her little brother. So loving and generous. Younger brother feels like elder sister is his hero. It is so sweet. They are in their twenties now. Best friend and just devoted to each other.

Oh god. I feel sorry for his future wife. She’s going to be an annoying SIL

No worries, he will not by marrying your daughter who will probably be prone to causing unnecessary drama and being hateful.

Hopefully being raised in a functional family will mean that he will be attracted to only people who also come from loving functional families.

NP

Where the heck did you get that from? You can’t be taken seriously when you make sh!t up to make you and your family look good. It’s laughable.

Ugh. Guys stop falling for these trolls. Someone keeps posting things pretending to be childless saying annoying things designed to make childless people look bad.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you posting? Go live your childfree life.

Right? The biggest loser in this thread is the single, childless person spending their free time on a parenting forum. YIKES.

I'm the OP. There are other things discussed in this forum that are of interest to me - finances, politics, etc. I happened to see a parenting thread.....geez.

Agree that kidS are for the wealthy. We have one. Plenty of alone time, family time, time with our kid by ourselves. No idea why people have more than one. The last thing we need is to keep the population stable or increasing. Thank goodness more people are choosing none or one.

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree - it's the hell of people that cram in 3 under 3 or 2 under 2.

I have two kids, 5 years apart and it's great. 0 fighting in my home. The older one helps out with the younger.

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7 yr apart and older DD was like a mother hen to her little brother. So loving and generous. Younger brother feels like elder sister is his hero. It is so sweet. They are in their twenties now. Best friend and just devoted to each other.

Taking advantage of your older kids. You should be ashamed.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you posting? Go live your childfree life.

Right? The biggest loser in this thread is the single, childless person spending their free time on a parenting forum. YIKES.

A dude? Like no wonder he's single - he's trolling parenting sites! What gal or guy wouldn't want to hop on that train?

Anonymous wrote:Why are you posting? Go live your childfree life.

Right? The biggest loser in this thread is the single, childless person spending their free time on a parenting forum. YIKES.

Why are you posting? Go live your childfree life.

The people in the post you are referring to have real problems. Choose wisely when picking a partner and you can go in to any endeavor with confidence: have kids, start a business, whatever it is you want. Pick stupidly and suffer through even the simplest of tasks.